r/gayfriendship

Hey everyone,

I’ve been actively trying to find a long-term relationship for over a year now, and at this point I’m honestly starting to question my own approach more than anything else.

I’ve used pretty much every app (Grindr, Romeo, Scruff, Tinder, Hinge, even Reddit), improved my profile, go to the gym, and even paid for premium features to boost visibility.

My profiles are very clear about what I want (LTR, not hookups, not open), but I still mostly meet people who:

• want something casual

• say they want something serious but don’t act like it

• or just slowly lose interest

The biggest issue for me is the talking phase. It feels like endless texting with no real personality behind it. Planning a date often gets delayed or just never happens.

About me:

I catch a vibe pretty quickly. When I like someone, I go in with 100% energy. I ask questions, I want to really get to know the person. I’m honest, direct, open-minded, but also a bit impatient.

I’ll be real, I can get slightly jealous in the talking phase if I feel a strong vibe but know they’re still exploring other options. At the same time, if I feel low effort, I lose interest fast.

So now I’m wondering:

Do I need to change something about my communication style or how I approach dating?

Am I maybe coming on too strong too early?

How do you balance showing genuine interest without overinvesting too quickly?

I’m honestly just looking for something a bit more old-fashioned. Going on actual dates, building something real, without jumping straight into fun or open dynamics.

Also curious:

What actually makes a profile stand out for something serious?

Are there better ways or places, even here on Reddit, to meet people looking for something real, especially in Switzerland?

Would really appreciate honest thoughts or experiences.

Any fellow gay Muslim here want to chat Or interested in a group chat. DM

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If you’re a gay man who identifies more as an introvert and a geek than a "scene" person, this might be the space you’ve been looking for. We are an extremely small, tight-knit group currently looking to add a new face or two to our server.

We’ve built a high-trust, low-pressure environment where "candid" is the keyword. We talk about everything- love, relationships, tech, gaming, and life’s ups and downs. Because we’re all adults, that includes being able to discuss everything maturely—but to be clear, this is a friendship-first space, not a hookup-focused server.

What We’re Not About

Drama-Free Zone: We have zero patience for toxicity or big egos.

Not a hookup Space: If you’re looking for fast-paced party energy or a Grindr alternative, we won’t be the right fit.

No Lurkers: We don’t expect you to be on 24/7, but we are looking for guys who actually want to participate and be part of the family rather than just watching from the sidelines.

Who Should Join?

21+ only.

Geeky & Chill: Whether you’re into JRPGs, building PCs, or deep-diving into niche hobbies, you’ll fit right in.

Engaged: You’re someone with a fun, positive energy who plans to check in consistently and actually get to know people.

Since we’re keeping the numbers flex but small (around 10-15 total), we’re being selective to ensure the chemistry is right. Send a DM with:

A quick intro (what are you playing, watching, or working on lately?).

What you’re hoping to find in a small, private community like this.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Thanks for reading; will be brief: lately interests include the little things (which I feel are the overlooked big things in the long-run): a cup of tea or coffee, the blossoming spring (flowers, birds, sunshine), a board game, good conversation, a nice walk, etc

A bit lost in life and would love to make a close, deep, platonic friend to know in person one day if possible

I'm 18 years old I have zero IRL friends and feel really lonely every day. My social skills are nerfed to the ground, so making friends is hard.

I'm super clingy and desperate for someone who actually stays. I want daily texting, voice notes, sharing pop music, cooking random stuff, and just bedrotting together while doomscrolling.

Looking for a genuine bro (18-25) who's okay with mutual clinginess and consistent chats. Please don't ghost.

If you're also lonely and want real bromance, drop your current favorite pop song or what you ate today..

Hey all,

27 from the uk. Currently in a rutt and sick of feeling lonely, so thought why not try finally making decent friends! Little about me, HUGE Pokemon fan, I enjoy sports, gaming and watching any sort of intriguing documentaries. Currently playing Pokopia at the moment. My personality is quite straight forward and honest. I have a partner and a cat. If you feel like we would get on well, give me a message and let’s see how it goes:)

Hey! I am a 25 year old guy looking to make a connection with another guy and get to know each other and potentially flirt/date somewhere down the line. I wanna be someones good boy ngl.

Some things about me I am into games, anime, manga, horror media. Music wise I love indie pop, rock, pop, some edm, dark pop.

For games I play Fortnite, Rivals, Overwatch, Minecraft, League, Destiny 2, Warframe and a lot more I am sure we can find something in common to play! Bonus points if you’re addicted to gacha games like I am. Currently trying to catch up in Chainsaw Man atm but some of my other favorites are Kakegurui, Blue Period, Attack on Titan and Frieren.

I recently started working out more as well so can always use some more motivation for that.

Mainly looking for guys in my age range (24-28) and preferably someone in the same time zone although it's not a deal breaker. I am a very sentimental and affectionate person so expect that from me if we do make that connection :)

DM if you’re interested and tell me about yourself! This is my first time really putting myself out there (hate dating apps) so pls be patient with me

Just an Arab dude looking to make a guy friend around my age I can text every day, maybe call with and share pics of our day.

A bit about me, I’m still in high school planning to study engineering in uni. Used to be a competitive swimmer but had to quit to focus on school. Been going to the gym for 3 years now, I’d say I’m quite fit.

I’m really into movies these days, been watching a new one every 2 days or so and I’m always down to watch a movie together. My favorites include The Edge of Seventeen and The Perks of Being a Wallflower.

I also listen to music a lot, specifically electronic/hyperpop. My favorite artist currently is Charli xcx so if you listen to her we’d probably have a lot in common.

If you don’t share any of my interests, that’s totally cool. I’m just looking for someone around my age who can keep a conversation going, doesn’t ghost after 2 days and is actually interested in something long-term. If that sounds good to, feel free to DM. Please just send introduction of yourself so I know you’re not a bot. Thanks for reading.

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Hello there!

A little about me: I enjoy playing video games, learning about the latest tech, programming, watching movies and anime. I would love to have cool friends that I can share my day with, share memes and reels with and possibly have a gaming session together!

I really enjoy gaming, it's one of the things that I have done ever since I can remember XD. I particularly enjoy playing single player story games, such as Resident evil, Doom, the new spiderman games and Genshin Impact. As for multiplayer games, I occasionally play marvel rivals and Fortnite.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. If you find me interesting, then please DM me! I'd be more than happy to talk to you and tell you more about me!

Hi, I’m new to Reddit and I’m 19. I downloaded Reddit because I was lonely, social awkward, and needing a boyfriend. My time zone is South California. I’m not comfortable meeting or sharing pictures right off the bat. Maybe after a few months.im not that smart or interesting. I’m not looking for a kinky relationship or sending nudes, just a genuine one. And starting off as friends and getting to know each other then pop the questions. And preferably nobody 23 please. If interested just dm me

Hi, I’m 19 and love hanging out, cooking, and getting creative with arts and crafts. I’m here to make friends, but I tend to get a bit clingy once I get to know someone. I’ve been away for a bit, so if you’re not interested, that’s okay! I’m also Mexican and live in California. 💕🇲🇽 looking for guy friends

Hello! I live in the Charlotte NC area. I am exploring my sexuality and want to meet some other guys who are either also exploring or are confident in their sexuality. Open to all topics of conversation!

19 college guy looking for homies around my age. Any time zones welcome.