former gf of a cross-dresser here
I remember being here 2 years ago and seeing mostly other women, but now most comment sections are filled with CDs who seem more obsessed with forcing their kink than hearing from others. What a shame
Hello, I am new to this so please be patient if I say something that is inappropriate, I don't mean to. My husband recently came out to me and I have to say, I am not sure what to do with the information. We have been married for 47 years, so I am older than most of the wives posting here. I have to say the ICK factor is very strong with me. This hit me hard as I did not see it coming and it has been going on for a very long time. We have recently moved and he threw out all his "CD stuff" when we made the move (so I wouldn't find it) and now feels that he can't live without it and wants to make it part of his everyday life. His comment is that he would live as a woman 60-70% of the time if possible. I am not sure what to do next. We are seeing a counselor and I hope that helps, but I am not sure if I can do this. It is the betrayal that is bothering me the most, this came out of the blue and hit me like a brick. The deceit has been going on for years and I am not sure I can forgive that. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
For wives and SOs only.
We often have CD that post asking for advice on how to bring up the discussion with their wives or other various question. Because this subreddit is for the significant others, these posts are removed with little to no assistance for the poster.
It has been asked if we could do a monthly/weekly pinned thread where CD could pose questions. It was suggested as a feature done in the past. Do you ladies feel this would be a positive addition to this sub?
Thank you for your input!
Hello! I’m fairly new to all this but I hope to be able to get some light after sharing my story.
About 3 years ago, as I was pregnant with our first kid, I found a stash of dildos, lingerie and wigs hidden in a closet. I had no idea what to think about it but I waited until my spouse got home and I asked him. He then told me he enjoyed dressing up and that it was something he had done since a very young age. I accepted it and asked for some time to think about it, and eventually asked him to trow it all away if it was something he could live without, he said he was fine and that he didn’t really needed it. I made sure to let him know that I did not want to change him, and if it was something he really wanted we could have deeper conversations and find a middle ground.
Anyways, fast forward to today… I‘m currently pregnant with our second and he is working a very stressful job with a 5-6h commute everyday. In the past 3-4 months our sex life is basically non-existent, I’ve tried to pleasure him but then he would not touch me back. I thought that maybe if he got back into his CD he would relieve some of the stress and be able to be present in bed again, so I told him that I would be fine if he wanted to get back into CD, which he did. But he continued to not have any libido to even touch me, and I few days ago i caught him chatting with someone on Reddit. He first lied saying it was a coworker but I knew it wasn’t, so I waited until next day and asked him to tell me the whole truth, which then he said he was talking about some fantasies that he has but would not tell me more than that. He says he is trying to figure it out himself but I don’t know if I’m being selfish for wanting him to share and talk to me, since we are married and sex is part of it. Since he doesn’t open up to me I can’t say what I’m comfortable with or if I’m willing to try anything because I don’t really know what are these feelings he has. I was also able to see that he is in a community for sissies but because I don’t understand much I’m very lost.
Sorry for the long post but I hope I can get some opinions from people that have been to similar situations. Thank you!