Confused wife of a newly outed CD
Hello, I am new to this so please be patient if I say something that is inappropriate, I don't mean to. My husband recently came out to me and I have to say, I am not sure what to do with the information. We have been married for 47 years, so I am older than most of the wives posting here. I have to say the ICK factor is very strong with me. This hit me hard as I did not see it coming and it has been going on for a very long time. We have recently moved and he threw out all his "CD stuff" when we made the move (so I wouldn't find it) and now feels that he can't live without it and wants to make it part of his everyday life. His comment is that he would live as a woman 60-70% of the time if possible. I am not sure what to do next. We are seeing a counselor and I hope that helps, but I am not sure if I can do this. It is the betrayal that is bothering me the most, this came out of the blue and hit me like a brick. The deceit has been going on for years and I am not sure I can forgive that. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.