r/ciyaalsomali

I joined one of those anonymous Discord dating servers and this might be the most dangerous form of dating ever 😭
You’re talking to someone for 3 hours thinking “wow she’s literally my type” just to realize y’all have completely different vibes once pictures drop 💀

It’s basically emotional gambling 🤣

One minute you’re planning matching outfits in your head, next minute you’re staring at the screen like “ah… so personality really is what matters” 😭 waa yaab

Idk if I’m bored or actually interested 🤷‍♀️. Last night I was thinking about this guy I recently chatted with he wasn’t bad or anything. The thing is he was talking about his brother, and the brother is my type to a T 😭. I started asking more questions about him and things got awkward 😬. Now I’m confused because the first guy seems fine, but I want to know more about the brother. Should I ask? Aaaaaa idk what to do 😩

Might delete because this feels too identifiable lol (hence throwaway account). I started getting to know a guy last October. Both diaspora and late 20s. We texted daily and called often for 3.5 months, went on in person dates like twice a month, aligned on marriage and values, and by the second month already agreed to introduce families after Ramadan.

Then in late January, I posted a picture with my third cousin on my story. He saw it, recognized her, asked me about relation to her. He said he was also related to her, and connected the dots that we were distantly related and from the same tribe. The next day he called me sounding very serious and ended things because he was uncomfortable and grossed out with any relation at all or being from the same tribe. I was blindsided, embarrassed, and honestly pretty hurt. He had never once mentioned caring about tribes before. The "breakup" hit hard during Ramadan but by April I had fully moved on, gave up hope on us rekindling anything, deleted our messages, and removed him off socials.

Since beginning of this month he has been trying to get back in contact. Like attempting to follow me again and even asking my cousin about me. I ignored all of it. Then just recently he sent a long voice note apology saying he was being immature, that we are wayyyyy distantly related then he thought about it and being from the same tribe is actually not weird, and that he wants to talk again.

Part of me feels validated and but I don't know if it's because I still have feelings for him or if it's because of the ego boost. The other part is bitter and not very trusting. I feel conflicted, I don't know if I should hear him out or leave things alone.

Sonnet 4.6

Help y’all. I need to get serious and lock in but for some reason I can’t. I always chicken out and self sabotage and destroy all my good relationships. I have a man I actually really like now and I fear I might repeat the same pattern and end things with him as I have done in the past.How do I fix this?

How do you make your summer fun?

For me, I make my summer fun in America by going to Weddings, events, traveling, and hanging out with friends. But what’s a way to make your summer more fun?

why do so many somali gabays use words that start with the letter L and R. Im currently listening to maansadii dabahuwan and maxaa luray naftaadi and maansadii dabahuwan has so many words that start with D and maxaa luray naftaadi has so many words that start with L. is that how most gabays go? do they typically stick with a letter and go with it?

gabayo badan oo aan dhageysaniyo, maxey u isticmaalaan ereyo ka bilaabow xarafaya l iyo d. hadda waxaan dhageysaniyaa maansadii dabahuwan iyo maxaa luray naftaadi, maansadii dabahuwan waxey heysataa ereyo badan ka bilaabow xarafka D iyo maxaa luray naftaadi waxey heysataa ereyo badan ka bilaabow xarafka L. gabayadhan saan miyay yihiin. kulli hal xaraf miyaay dhoortaan haddana miyaay iska qoraan gabay oo haysatoo ereyo badan oo xarfaha iskumid. (iga raali ahow, sifican ku ma qori karo af soomaali)