Should I hear him out or leave it alone?
Might delete because this feels too identifiable lol (hence throwaway account). I started getting to know a guy last October. Both diaspora and late 20s. We texted daily and called often for 3.5 months, went on in person dates like twice a month, aligned on marriage and values, and by the second month already agreed to introduce families after Ramadan.
Then in late January, I posted a picture with my third cousin on my story. He saw it, recognized her, asked me about relation to her. He said he was also related to her, and connected the dots that we were distantly related and from the same tribe. The next day he called me sounding very serious and ended things because he was uncomfortable and grossed out with any relation at all or being from the same tribe. I was blindsided, embarrassed, and honestly pretty hurt. He had never once mentioned caring about tribes before. The "breakup" hit hard during Ramadan but by April I had fully moved on, gave up hope on us rekindling anything, deleted our messages, and removed him off socials.
Since beginning of this month he has been trying to get back in contact. Like attempting to follow me again and even asking my cousin about me. I ignored all of it. Then just recently he sent a long voice note apology saying he was being immature, that we are wayyyyy distantly related then he thought about it and being from the same tribe is actually not weird, and that he wants to talk again.
Part of me feels validated and but I don't know if it's because I still have feelings for him or if it's because of the ego boost. The other part is bitter and not very trusting. I feel conflicted, I don't know if I should hear him out or leave things alone.
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