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Idk if this sub is filled with people that are Mainlanders and thus have 0 contact with white people due to geographical reasons or are ABCDs etc that were just never in social circles with them.

Regardless of what the case might be, a lot of yall have absolutely skewed views on them. So much so, that I‘ve read someone lamenting why „mail-order brides“ were not as common in South Asians as for South East Asians. I mean, are yall okay? Lamenting why soft prostitution that women from those countries partake in because they have 0 other choices is a new low.
And just imagine what type of men even have to make use of such a power dynamic. Complete and utter losers.

It seems to me that many here have some fantasy where they put white men on a pedestal. If you live in the West, just go out of your room for a day and people watch. And truly think about how many of the men walking past you are actually worth dating or even optically pleasing at the least. You don’t have a bunch of Chris Hemsworths walking around, that much I can tell you.

If your preference is white dudes, great. Go ahead and date your preference. No laws are stopping you from doing that. But for the sake of yourself, maybe have a little more respect for yourself and don’t let internalized racism make you accept a loser and hype him up just because in your mind white = automatically superior.

Not every white dude is some feminist icon, better partner, more financially and socially secure or even better-looking.
And please never buy into some fantasy of a knight saving you. Save yourselves.

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Wanna get some brown beauty tips as a central Asian woman

I’ve gone from an overall size L to M over the past year (both top and bottom), lost weight pretty steadily, and my band size has definitely gone down 2 inches… but my cup size?? Literally unchanged. My tits did not get the memo at all.

At this point I feel disproportionately top-heavy as a tripple D compared to the rest of my body. Is there anything that actually helps make breasts smaller besides just continuing to lose overall body fat and praying genetics cooperate? Or is this one of those “you either get lucky or get a reduction” situations?

Also, please drop comments if you did get a reduction (do they grow back? side effects? cost $$ ? etc). I’m in my early 20s so I cannot really afford a reduction right now 😔 but would still love to have the deets.

Would especially love advice from people whose band size shrinks / overall lose weight but cup size stays stubbornly the same.

So for context my friend , F17 , quite a naive girl and if something is bad is happening to her , she will take time to understand. For example:- we went out one day and she was wearing crop top and high waisted jeans . Me and other friends realised that some men sitting a feet away from us were pretending to take a selfie but take a photo of her so I went and I covered her from behind but she kept asking what we were doing . We told her that something is trying to take a photo of her and but she didn't that . So we had to go in detail of why is that not appropriate thing .

Additional context , me and her are part of a friend group and have been classmates for over 3 years . She is hardcore anime and kpop fan but mostly has this love for Japan. And her wish is to go and study in Japan and get settled in Japan. But here is the weird part , that she wants to marry a Japanese man . Until now there was where the conversation was at and i didn't say anything.

Cut to this trip we went to and I kind of got insecure and she was sitting with in this bus we were travelling in . I told her that I wish that a man in good faith compliments me . I take back what i said because I rather not but that time I was just not feeling well . Now my friend, says " i wish Japanese /Korean men compliments for my beauty " . Now she is beautiful but I got icked out but that sentence because it just fetishziation of men of certain culture and expecting this from them certainly is just depressing. And i told her why not from any other men you know and she was " no i find those men weird " . I was like girl as if men in as places weird and I just went on a rampant on how she shouldn't be expecting that from a certain group of men and well how her view of them isn't even real and a compliment in good faith is something to take from even it comes from some other men . She got angry with me and I choose to say nothing because I also got annoyed.

And further context, her parents are overly controlling and she recently went to this trip to Malaysia and came back to school back and said she saw Chinese Malaysians and how she wished she had confidence approach them . I am personally get so done with her but then I feel bad for this girl because she likely is going to get taken advantage of and i just don't know what to do . Personally I get rage baited every second.

I mean like a meditation/visualisation practice where you "talk" to your body, a cross between a placebo and something a bit more esoteric. I'm purposely avoiding discussions about spiritual or religious beliefs but personally I have found this works and managed to overcome some nagging health issues (sinus, eczema, to name a few) this way. I'm curious if anyone else has done this too?

Hi, hoping this post is ok for this sub since it relates to improving beauty and mental health!

I (25F) have struggled with having good friends for most of my life. I also dealt with undiagnosed mental health conditions and controlling family dynamics as a child. Fast forward to now, I've graduated from college, have a job and am financially independent, and choose to live at home.

I can count my "friends" on one hand. No one came to my graduations. I'm mainly the one checking on them (they'll reach out after a few months if I try to ghost them). Most days, I have 0 texts. I'd say I'm extroverted but have become so shy and quiet that I try to avoid most social situations. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety and started going to therapy. I don't have any social media anymore because I always get so sad seeing the stuff I was clearly not invited to. For a long time, I wished people from high school would reach out to me but no one really did. I struggled with being totally isolated and really lonely in college (which was partially due to pandemic but not entirely).

I'm short, so I'm often mistaken for a teenager. I don't know how to do basic makeup or take care of my wavy, frizzy hair. I'm trying to take small steps to improve my appearance and have a better routine but I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it. 

I know this sounds very cringe but I think I aspire to be a baddie even though I know that I'll probably never get there. I work with a lot of really pretty really smart people and I wish I was like them. I've been in a lot of social situations where I could feel the "prettier" people starting to exclude me and find a way to leave the conversation. I feel like I've always had to push myself to be very friendly and talk to strangers. I think I'm also often talking to or helping people with disabilities (idk how to phrase this nicely I just wanted to say that) and I wish I was in a place where people wanted to talk to me. Like most of my life, I've been helping or serving other people and no one's ever really took the time to help me (besides my parents). I guess I just don't feel like being nice anymore. I think the world's a cruel place and I've been thinking about just disappearing from it all (I suspect I have PMS). My religion is firmly against suicide so I wouldn't actually choose that path, but it's more this feeling like when I see people suffering, I think about switching places so they don't have to feel that way. 

I feel bad that my parents sacrificed so much and my life seems so great on paper and yet I feel this way. I feel especially sad every night. I feel scared for my future. I don't particularly care about dating right now since I just desperately want better friends but I feel like I'm a person that people pity. 

This whole post is probably a lot, but I just wanted someone to listen. I'm just not really sure how to improve my life. I've felt stuck in the same place for a long time. I'd really appreciate any sort of comment! 

did any of you guys also have a mother who believed in crazy myths, especially surrounding puberty? for instance, my mom made me drink a lot of milk growing up in hopes of me growing to be 170cm AT LEAST (didn’t work obvs). made me massage my feet at night before bed every day for the same reason. my sister who didn’t do either of these things is taller than me.

and then when i got my period, everyone around me told me to not shower during it since otherwise blood would allegedly clot around your abdomen and cause a myriad of reproductive problems (like pcos, infertility, etc.). i was also barred from eating chicken breast for a while since my mom thought whatever was fed to raise the chicks was also the reason that caused my boobs to grow 😭😭.

i just generally hated the way puberty made me look because of all the change in how i was treated by my mom and her friends etc. so much unnecessary shame was brought in for no reason lmao.

did anyone else hear any of these growing up?