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Okay, I was going through all the dating apps and i am just over it now. God why does, no one feels right for me? Already naanu down ah irunthen cuz everyone in my friend group around 10 peeps, ellarumae committed. I was also in a relationship but puttukichu. Whenever i tell my friends about my type, they all are like too much high standards amtha maari 🫠 therla guys. Athoda enaku oru doubt ik exactly a girl who is like in my situation, paaka romba azhaga irupa, like ava ponalae pasanga lam thirumbi aavathu paapanga, but aval ta keta ithu varaikum avalta nerla oruthan kooda propose pannathu kedaiyathu ju solluva, they all text in social media but never on irl nu. She was like en ta oru paiyan vanthu number keta there is 70 percent cahnce iruku na number kuduka, but yen yaarumae keka maatranga nu ava polambuva. Ithu ellam paathutu than naanu yosikiren pasanga polamburatha vitutu ponnungalta poi nerla thairiyam ah pesi number vaangunga guys. Also en ta varathinga en ponnunga poi vanga vendiyathu than ah nu, naanum poi lam vaangi iruken, athuku aprm than avan periya serupadi ya kuduthutu poitan.

Is this a sign of people voting against the government, or people wanting change?

Hi. I am telugu. From Andhra. I want to talk to tamil people. So writing here.👋🏻

Donno where to start this (or)  how can I call this write up as..

Kindly u.people name this.

I think it was jan8, 2026 night time 10 mani irukum. That time I came across a reddit post heading was like ‘ left out even in my closed circle’ mentioned F21. Naa adha patha odane, nama pasanga panjuruvanga linela dms and commentsla..

Nama yeduku 109th memberaa pooi linela nikanunu vituta..

But thidernu yena nenachanu thrla started studying the post completely.

Solapona i read that two to three times.

After kastapattu reading, I decided to type what iam thinking and things inwant to convey her. TYPED AND SENT.

During this time itself comment section was flooded by our co-redditors.

But proudly namely zero pervs where found in the comments.

Na comments pathutu irukapave got a notification from reddit. Yeah within minutes that F21 read my msg and replied me with “okay u made my eyes tear😭😭😭”.

Hey ama madam yena post potrunthanganu solave ilala. Simply saging valakam pola clgla nadakra cornering, bullying, shaming, avoiding, feeling alone and lost. Key issue for that post is - madam kootu oruthan clgla nadakra pongal funcitonku varlanu solitaan. Aduvu reason was not acceptable and that would hurt anybody as it did to our F21 madam.

  Ok ipa coming back to kadhai. Madamku i was replying with my self intro ( yenaku reddit pathu persa theriyathu how chat must be don't the app)

TIME MUST BE AROUND 10.30 PM

apro yena kekava Venum.. i talked to her like iam courageous tigerfire in the world.

Then at a point, i asked her frankly whether iam mokkapottufying to her.

MSG SENT - NO REPLY - 5 MINS PASSED - I THOUGHT SILENCE IS YES AND SHE BLOCKED😭😭.

Thidernu another notification

Msg opened - madam said (exact words i can't remember)

“ No no iam not used to this long msgs.

Idk how to react

First time receiving this huge message.

Its warm tbh

Never got this kind of warmth from friends”.

While reading her reply I was sitting with 32 teeth opened (Eeeee) like closeup ad person.

TOPICS changed to De- socializing- argued- she won't ( repeatedly saying na apditha,yenaku pidikala, yarukume yenaiya pidikala like that)

Then I got a msg from her saying ‘ iam alone and kadupa irukum so daily cafe poooi iced coffee vangitu 3hrs Suma irupa’.

Literally I got shocked and stunned reading that bcoz i cannot even sit idly for 15 mins at a place without shaking my bum and I thought it was not normal to sit alone like this, that too in that young high energetic age. ( Note: yenaku yarum othela irunthale pidikathu)

Apro i said her to go out and roam around’, for that she came up with another bomb “ na kopta nobody is coming. I just think people hate me. But I really wanna go out'.

Yenaku kadupa agitu… how can she say that nobody loves her. Apa nama yaru ( redditors who commented for  her) and me who is fighting with her more than 1.30hrs.

I said that ‘ then who are we. Now u have a bunch of men and women concerned over ur situation. That too they are completely strangers.

Odane madam be like ‘amalaa now i disagree that everyone is hating me’.

(My mind voice: yenda onna yelarukum pudikumny ne namburathuku 100 comments, 50 dms and Mr.me 1.30hr fighting with you…sarithaaan daa deiiii…)

The. Yen clg kadhaigal - blah blah blah - etc etc etc..

I asked for a promise form her for hope and not always chasing rope.

TIME - 01.15 AM , JAN 09.

apdiye pesi atlast madam periya manasu pannu avanga name sonanga.

( Let us call her sneha[name reason will be told later] )

Asusual as a man na ketta - madam r u willing to come with me to the nandanam book fair.

My expected reply ~ venaam, i don't feel safe, I need time or nama chatleiye pesalame like that..

But her reply - timing? Iam not into books so u should suggest me a good beginner friendly books.

Then we discussed about our residence in chennai like retired govt employees.

Still no mobile number exchanged.

But plan was pakka and we thought fixed to go out.

Apro adutha 30 mins typical men behaviour - over blabbering and over ranting to a girl.

GOOD NIGHT AT 2.00AM.

We both thonga poitom chamatha bedsheetkula urulakelangu mathiri.

TIK TIK TIK - CLOCK ROUNDING - 11AM JAN 09.

woke up - kulichachu saptachu - sent her a GM.

no reply.

2.00PM - 21F potato madam wokeup from that long sleepa and sent gm.

Regular things- pallu thechutu sapda gone.

Meanwhile I was planning the with her. Crowd , checking, weather outside.

Madam came 3.00pm with - Na varla, feeling soo lazy. Sorryyyyy.

Yenaku manasu thangala but avangala thitava mudiyum.

My reply - Eeeeeeeee on paa carron. Rest yedunga..

Kadulula mobile charge potutu karumnu juice kudika poita.

came back with high glucose asking her for a dinner meet.

Odane madam said :

Anna nagar?

(My mind voice: apa pagala porathu nadanthu poranthu distancethaan prechana laziness ila apdithana….😏😏😏)

Fixed timings - 8.00pm

Place - kruncheese

First she said 7 then 7.40 then 8.00 then oru valiya 8.40pm.

( Yena timeaa iruntha namaku yena naa odane ok soliten)😁

Remember: still no photos, numbers, personal details, bodily identities been told or exchanged between us

Suddenly madam ji came with : enaku meet okay thaan

But iam a bit nervous

First time meeting a person I've never met b4.

Apro madam poitanga..

Na evening friendsoda kadha pesitu ..around 7.40pm ku yen bike yeduthu headsetla sts kuthu songs ketutu poitu iruntha..

When I was crossing Loyola clg subway and nelson manikam road ( people gone have know the traffic there).

I got hit by by a paithiyakari straight to the mudguard of my bike..

Fell down

( Bgm in headset: nee singam thaan song from pathu thala movie)

Number plate broke, mudguard broke.

yenaku left elbow and left knee in both hand and legs apro back pain ( ul kayam )

Yenthichu sanda podalanu patha antha kedi amma started crying..

Odane crowd vanthutanga..

Yemma aaala vudri alama irumaanu solitu

Vandi start pani i came near Anna nagar Tower Park around 8.20pm.

Haven't msged her that I reached

Bcoz yen mindla rendu way lf thought ooduthu.

∆ fake id yevano namala kalaikranga - asinga pada porom

∆ what if she is the real 21F- I need to see her atleast I need to tell her to be happy and wish her luck.

Bcoz during her age i njoyed a lot like anything. I want her to be that joyful also.

∆ Eeeeeeeee. - i njoyed the nervous of meeting a stranger girl first time that too within one day of chating over a anonymous app.

Apro remember I haven't brought her anything..

Went to nearby supermarket for buying something for her.

Chocolate self pathen

250, 350 Rs itemsaaa kannula patuchu..

Yenaku vangalam or Anga opp rackla I saw a earring vanganunu asaiya irunthuchu..

Literally romba asa patten earrings vangi kudukalanu…

(But my corrupted mind - dei venna 300rs chocolate or earrings vaangitu, apro antha madam varlana (or) 21M aaa iruntha yena panuva.. lusu Mari panatha…)

Naanum sari venamanu 5*10 kitkat vangi bikela vachuta.

Suddenly mobile gave a sound- notification -

21F - iam reached.

Thirupi body got nervous mode.

Bike yeduthu speeda gone to kruncheese

Parked - slowly adjusted my sumaar moonji with the help of my bike mirror.

When u entered

Yeaaaah ,

A young girl was standing there with tshirt and track like one in a yellowish lights in the shop turned backwards towards the shop.

(Purithu : vala valanu iam saying the storynu but nejamave alagana moment guys fulla solalalana manda vedichurum.)

TIME : 8.49Pm

Time pathutu mobileaa pocketla potuta..

I started walking in

Got near her - at that time she be like - yaroo yeduko vantha mathiri kandukama phone nonditu… i mean-  naa vanthathe avangaluku thrlaiyaam..

Kitta pona

Me- 21F reddit sneha nengathana? (Name changed)

She- yeah naathaan

Me - ( full nervous, sweating like falls)

( But the fact is Iam the one  who is waiting meeting her since is woke up that morning)

She - ila ila just ipatha vanthaa.. just now.

Then we gone to counter to order food.

Nejamave soldra i have eaten this rolls and all..

But at that time I blinked like APAVIii with rooten brain standing like a eruma maadu before her.

Some how ordered for both of us.

Apro we came to the stand where we can rest our hands and stand.

Hey ipatha na avangala fulla paakren

~.thick volumed hair but not that long.

~ earrings normal

~karnatic shining eyes

~korean pink tshirt - not over sized one

Black leggin or track that I donno.

~good attractive watch

~height above than the average girls

(Note : height was making her look like idol and gorgeous)

~ yellowish browny fair color, crta sola thrlaa but nalla coloruupaa.

Soiled color.

Ipa soldren yen i kept sneha as eg name.

Romba varso or romba naal kalichu, i saw a person laughing or smiling fully  with tooth guns visible.

Yenga oorla soluvanga “ pallu eeeru theriya sirikavanga manasu alaga irukum, ulla onu vachuka matanganu)

Nejamava avanga siripa avalo divineaa irunthuchu paaaa..

For her , i can't lie like ‘ alaga mukiyam ila character thaan mukiyamnu’

Nejamave romba alaga irunthanga

(Note: odane na thapu thapa pathanu nenaika venaamnga.. nejamave i started at her beauty and I think it is civics sense to admire and perich, cherish alagu.)

Simpleaa solanumna - she is that one alavu pilla with minimal ego ( innocentlaam ilaa)

Noe back to point.

I started asking about her same vice versa.

Suddenly after 5 mins

I donno how it happened, she started speaking and telling like a thousand walla cracker blasting non stop with any gape.

All i dis was ‘ hmmm…. Ama … ama…. Yes…crtuuu… moosam pa avanga…. Nu mandaiya aatitu iruntha’

I wanna say something- her talk doesn't sound like Hasini(genelia). She has that brain, knowledge, hand gestures, facial expressions and command over language.

I stood still starring her and listening her with full concentration.

Then pesitu irunthoom yenaku kodam pesa time kuduthanvga..

Then repeat she took the floor telling about the clg pongal celebryissue.

Apthaan she is spilling - madam gone to Crave( food joint) to meet her friend before coming to meet me- adhaan  delayed my timings

( My mind voice: hey ipa Naa oon mandaiya odachu mavelaku yetha pora paaru.. na ketana ne Yenga irunthu varanu…aiyoo yen da kadupa akurenga)

My reply: eeeeeeee…. Okok pa..yelam okthana.. ok ok pongal celebration porenhala happy to hear..

[Manasukula uuurr….uuuchuuu..more)

Apro neraiya pesunom meanwhile got roll and started eating (apro yenaku pasikumlaa…)😁😁😁

Sola maranthuten, madam CRAVE ponathu vena yenaku theriyama irunthurukalam..but I know she had eaten something b4 coming to meet me…bcoz madam’s upper lips with tiny kutti kutti poona mudi was covered with food marks .

I thought of telling her but I felt cute with that..

Alaga cuteaa irunthuchu like babies do after drinking milk.. adhaan solama iruntha..

But CRAVE kadhaiya ketathum vaaila kuthanu pola irunthuchu..JK

( I know iam a stranger, she should prefer her friend over me) Analum nanu pavoola kadupa aagumla..

Time went , still me ‘ manadaiya aatitu iruken …hmmm..aana ama … nejamavaa soldraa….

Ana onu soliye aganu

She is a gem of a person theriyuma… she made me feel comfortable…

Roll gaali paniyachu..rendu perum konjam Koda micham vaikala.. stickla irukathu Koda saptutom..

Maadam oru valiya tissue vachu food marks thodachutanga 😂😂.

Then I asked - juice kudika polama.

She - time up vetuku ponum.

1 hrs mela takkunu oodiru..

Hands shaken..nice meeting..started stepping away.

Ipatha nyabagam varuthu.. I haven't given kit kat to her…thirupi I called her and gave her the kit kat..

Nejamave adha vangitu avalo alaga sirichutu react pananga madam..

She wore ladies bike mogamoodi red  scootyla sat..

Then I told her - ivlo alaga pesura nalla irukaa..ipdi okanthu alutha nallava Iruku neye solu…

Asked her WhatsApp number after a long day …oru valiya she gave me that…

She - sari sari inimel I won't worryy

Tata bye bye..

Naaanum kelambita vetuku… still nejamave kanavu mathiri Iruku yenaku yelame..

I regret that I made mistakes.

●      I should have brought that earrings and presented her..

●      I should have spoken more without nervousness

●      Alaga iruka paanu orukavachu solirukanu …minimal

●      Alaga irukavangalaam alutha nallave irukathu.. kindly dont lay….

U can't 7+1 those bitches and slay nu solirukanum

She deserves all the good things.

●      Romba mudilana pls never hesitate to call or MSG me nu solirukanum

Next time patha…ila ilaaaa…kandipa paakren..

I really wish to pinch her cheeks till it become red or pink….and say her

She has some one who can atleast listen to her rants..

Ok now ..

Poodhupaa kai valikuthu…

We are now WhatsApp stickers sending two individuals…

 Thanks for spending time and reading

Can’t get over my "Best Friend" who I ghosted because of my feelings. Need advice.

We talked for a few months and those times were really good; I’ve never talked so much with anyone before. I truly enjoyed that time. But enna matter na... we spoke on Insta. She was my schoolmate, but at that time, nanga pesunathu illa.

Later, we went to different colleges. Now we are about to complete college. We spoke for about 6 months and even exchanged the "best friends" term. She was really there for me when I was upset or down. But she still, sometimes, acts like just a friend.

Eventually, I developed feelings for her, but she didn't make any moves. She has high standards and, at the time, I still didn’t have a job. She often mentioned she’s going to get married to a relative, but she also said, "If I love someone, I will fight for him." I never told her how I felt.

She says she has a crush at her college and always talks about a mutual friend of mine. That mutual friend proposed to her, and she cleverly declined by asking if it was a prank—rejecting him without losing the friendship. But that guy is an alppa kebal... Kevalam Valivan... Pathaley gandu agum. Yet, she keeps talking about him. Because of all this, I can't be myself. I’m always thinking about her and can't focus on my studies. She also mentioned she has many male friends.

I started wondering: Am I just one among them? Am I not special? I thought I was her best friend.

So, I planned to stop talking to her. I told her I had an issue at home and said bye. She texted me twice asking how things were, but I just said I was "somewhat okay" and ended the chat shortly. Eventually, we stopped talking altogether.

What surprises me is that she never asked why I stopped talking. If I were in her place, I would have definitely asked because we called each other "best friends," and I really meant it. Since then, I feel like I was the only one who truly meant it.

I thought I could live peacefully without her, but we stopped talking on Dec 1st and haven't spoken since. I’m in my final semester, always at home, and I’m a big overthinker. I can't get over her. Her memory keeps hitting me. She is the only girl who cared for me when I was down. I can't even focus on my studies, athuvathu naa innum job vangala.

I feel like if I get a good job, I’ll stop thinking about her because my mind will be occupied. But the memories of our happy chats keep hitting me. Ennaku oru doubt uhh... I’m struggling to forget her; I wonder if she feels the same? She is a medico and goes to college daily. I feel like if I were going to college daily, it would be easier to forget her too.

Final point: I accept it's all my fault. I’m an introvert and I’ve never spoken to anyone like this. As an overthinker, I wonder: Will I ever find that kind of friendship again? If I do, will it be like it was with her?

I feel like going back and talking to her, but what if the spark is gone? What if she accepts me if I confess everything, or should I just focus on my interviews and get a job? Being at home is making it harder. It’s only been a month since college ended, but romba kadupaa Iruku. I lost her, and it was my fault. I wish I could have handled things better.

What are your thoughts on this? Please be honest

Event spitting facts on the face is also okay.

TL;DR:

I’m an introvert and an overthinker who became best friends with a girl from school over Instagram. I eventually caught feelings, but it was painful because she constantly talked about other guys and her "high standards." Since I don't have a job yet and felt like just "one of many" male friends, I ghosted her in December by making an excuse about "family issues."

Now, I’m stuck at home in my final semester , unable to focus on my studies or job prep because I can’t stop thinking about her. She hasn't chased after me to ask why I stopped talking, which makes me feel like the friendship meant more to me than to her. I'm torn between confessing my feelings to get closure or just staying silent and focusing on getting a job to occupy my mind.

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Guys if anyone from Bangalore here?

I don't have much friends here and if i post in the bangalore sub asking for tamil people they will come back at me.

So yaarachu irundha sollunga, we can hangout.

There are times when I think the guy is cute.. or hot .. or whatever.. or maybe just to make his day better.. but i don't have the words for it.. pretty, good, beautiful everything sounds so girly. How do I compliment a guy?

I'm a girl btw.. not creeping out anybody here.