r/ScienceBasedParenting

My son is 15 months. He’s been late on every single gross motor milestone. Rolled at 6 months, army crawled at 10 months, crawled at 12 months. He still has yet to pull to stand, cruise, or even come close to walking. In fact he hates standing. He CAN stand against a surface if you put him there, but eventually whines and plops down. I have tried putting things out of reach like up on a table and he just goes to his knees, whines and yells “UP!”

Please reassure me about late walkers because there’s no way he’s going to be walking by 18 months and I’m so discouraged and sad for him. Summer is coming and I just want him to be able to play at the playground with his big brother but he’s stuck on the ground crawling. Just having a sad day.

Third child loves the pacifier, and he’s 2.5. I’m having a tremendously hard time breaking him of it. He’s my only son who didn’t just let it go one day. Of course, it will start to impact his teeth so it must go.

Thankfully, he only wants it at bedtime. I read one article saying that cutting cold turkey can harm them emotionally, but I am having a hard time finding articles with how to do it. Any help appreciated .

At what point do you let grandparents start kissing your baby, if ever? Limited to top of head and toes? Would love to hear your decision and reasoning, and links to any research that supported your reasoning. Additionally, would one grandparent having HSV-1 impact your decision?

As a FTM I’m struggling to let go of never wanting anyone else to kiss our baby (until he’s older and can give consent and has a more established immune system). I’m not sure if this is reasonable or overprotective. I know grandparents will push back because they’ve already been struggling to resist, though they do understand and respect our initial no-kissing boundary.

My 7 month old loves to hold onto my hair to self soothe but he often pulls on it quite hard and it's painful. When he does that I have to pry his hands open to get him to let go and usually say something like "ow, that hurts Mama, let go please" in a gentle/neutral tone, but sometimes if he yanks really hard or I'm already overstimulated I end up yelping in pain rather than calmly communicating. Is he even able to understand that he's hurting me yet? Is it better to keep my tone calm or is it okay to convey that I'm in pain? I don't want to frighten him but sometimes it really hurts lol

There are lots of discussion about harmful chemicals being found on Shein/Temu items in UK and EU. Whereas not every item sold are with harmful chemicals, we just don't know which one will be.

On the other side, almost everything is made

in China and some items cannot be accessible through reliable retailers inside country. And Amazon, ebay and some market places of supermarket are also selling the same items as Temu and Shein in UK.

I am quite paranoid for my LO now as I am using lots from Shein/Temu including toys and clothes. Please convince me scientifically how I should go on.

I'm going crazy with social media now just showing me all the signs of autism. I feel like that is all I am getting in Reels and it is seriously stressing me out.

I have a 14 month old. Ahead on most milestones. She is walking, has about 10 words, points, is super social and likes to wave hi at everyone, especially birds that we pass haha. But she definitely gets "hyperfixations." mostly related to what she is learning. Right now, it's stair climbing. if we see any stairs or steps or even a curb or a ledge, she will legitimately walk up and down it until we remove her. Like 30 minutes. And she will tantrum as we move her away until she gets distracted by something else.

I guess I'm looking for studies and antidotes that this is totally normal? or should I be making a pediatrician appointment? I can't really find anything that states that this behavior is normal in this age group. But I also think it might be? I have no other concerns!

Thank you all!

As the title says, we're dealing with a very strong feeling toddler. She's 1y 8m old, and has been having these meltdowns for the past half a year I'd say. It always starts from us holding a boundary (can't have scissors, couldn't play with seatbelt, etc.), and develops into a uncontrollable episode of sadness. These differ from a "regular" tantrum in the sense that she's not angry or agressive, she just very fast gets incredibly sad, starts breathing rapidly, hyperventilating, gagging/vomiting, sometimes shaking, panics and cannot comprehend or receive anything we say to her.

These are pretty distressing of course to her, but also to us and her sisters. Calming down from them takes easily an hour or two, and she clearly wants to calm down sooner than that but is unable to. She will repeatedly ask for help and will sign that she's "all done" while sobbing her heart out. It's really sad to see, and imo borders more on an anxiety attack than a meltdown.

The additional context is that I used to have these as a toddler/kid/teenager, and they were dealt with really poorly by my parents (think holding me down until I stopped). As an adult, I have pretty bad anxiety and feel like there's a connection there. Thus, I'd love to deal with these episodes correctly so that she'd potentially avoid the adult anxiety thing!

Currently I'm going based on what I felt like I needed when I had these meltdowns as a kid, but would love to know about any research/science backed methods to read up on to better help our daughter. Thanks in advance!

Yes, I am aware of the multiple posts with babies and screen time and how it’s bad because it replaces the time they could learn/socialise/spend with the caretaker.

I would like to know if screen time, specifically TV (no iPad no smartphone) impacts negatively the attention span of toddlers.

I have a toddler and a 4 month old, sometimes I am lucky that my toddler finds an occupation and I can put my baby down for the night, sometimes toddler is a Velcro and it’s impossible to make one step without her. So I put Gabby and the dollhouse while I take care of the baby.

My husband was not happy about that at all and told me to find any solution but this, saying that the tv will make her stupid with no attention span or a very short one. Is he right about that? She’s 2 yo

Thank you to everyone taking the time to research this!

Hello everyone! I am seriously frustrated and confused. Also guilty without having decided anything YET!

So, me and mu husband bought rock concert tickets around a year ago. Huge concert at a stadium with probably 60k capacity.

What happened after buying the tickets is I got pregnant and I am currently with a two month old baby.

Doing everything i can to stimulate it my breastmilk was never enough from the start and i give him AM after he gets what he can from my breasts. Still, he does not give up and ALWAYS searches for them before having the baby bottle.

Here comes the problem. The date of the concert is soon and he will be 3 months old exactly. I have talked to my parents to come and look after him but the best plan is for me and my husband to be gone for 3 days.

First of all, of course I am feeling extremely guilty if I go because I haven’t left the baby for more than half a day. Second, I am very very worried he would give up on breastfeeding because 3 days is a lot and I do not have enough milk for him from the beginning. That would leave me heartbroken. Third, the amount of people there will be there! I am constantly worried because I gave birth in winter and a virus has spread very fast in my country. People were coughing and sneezing everywhere. Our tickets are in the front area near the stage which means I cannot go somewhere not so crowded. Fourth, I was gonna go with my best friend and her boyfriend which now leaves me worried if they will have someone to go with cause going to such concert just the two of them without company is making me feel worried. Last but not least, I am worried he will be uncomfortable because after 5 p.m he is in pain because of colics but the situation is not unmanageable.

Mind you, since we left the hospital, the baby has had a nose bacteria, rash and we just got him vaccinated. Also, we are trying to find a way where my parents can travel to a city closer to the concert so I can breastfeed him sooner. That is also a problem though because all I am thinking about now is that I could get sick in the crowd or carry a virus I do not know about and do not have symptoms.

I really wanna go but guild is eating me from the inside out the last few days. If someone has gone to such place with so many people and then has been with their baby so soon please share your experience.