r/RealUnpopularOpinion

I'd like to beging with the fact that I live in Europe and my post is about European (especially
Western) healthcare.
Here everyone is obligated to pay health insurance from their salaries, the costs vary according to your income but everyone has the same access to healthcare „for free" if they need something (if you're unemployed, the state pays for your insurance).

Now, if someone's trans, they need to see different doctors, undergo certain examinations (covered by insurance ofc) and then they can normally get any gender affirming treatment or operation without having to pay for it extra - even though it's not medically necessary for their bodies to be healthy.

Trans folks/allies usually explain this by saying how being trans is a burden mentally, leads to psychological/psychiatrical issues, even suicide if the access to gender affirming care is denied.
(Now I don't want to debate about the validity of identifying as transgender, I have my own views on it but my issue exists regardless how valid someone finds claiming to be trans.)

However, cis folks also do suffer from certain physical traits they have, like a big/weird shaped nose, breasts being too small, facial features that are out of proportion, and yet they always have to pay fucking thousands of euros, usually multiple month's salaries if they want to undergo plastic surgeries to correct those features, unless they cause medical problems as well (like not being able to breath properly bc of the shape of their nose, etc) - many of us even travel to other countries where its somewhat more affordable to get the work done. Even though having a hard time finding a partner be of one's looks or just generally feeling shit and insecure bc of physical traits you dislike can also lead to mental health issues, mainly regarding one's self esteem. And if you‘re poor, then good luck hating yourself for the rest of your life.

I, for example, am neurodivergent, and was always extremely focused on my looks, there are days I don’t want to leave the house bc I think the tip of my nose is too big and round - yet the only way to correct it is paying a lot of money for rhinoplasty.
Another example I find really unfair: I want kids. My breasts will probably be loose after breastfeeding them, especially if I get three like I want - and then I‘ll feel like shit for my boobs looking bad, and have to pay A LOT again for breast correction (while not being able to work full time bc of the kids) while trans people get implants for free. Like how is that fair, if we both suffer from our breasts mentally, but only one of us can get their surgery covered by the literal same insurance?!

Or: I was always terrified of aging and I still do, I cried a lot when I noticed I don’t look as good anymore as I did at 18-20, and even hated myself for it. Now I get botox, which again, costs a lot. Whilst trans folks get hormonal therapy for free, even though physically they‘d do just fine without it like I without botox.

I‘d genuinely be interested why the people that disagree think, that the mental issues cis folks possibly have bc of the way they look, are less important/bad than those of trans people.

I paid for what was advertised as thoughtful, human feedback.
I want this to be very clear, this is about the paid‑feedback ecosystem musicians use, not a personal rant. I’m describing a pattern I’ve seen repeatedly. And I can't unsee it, nor pretend II didn't.

Not hype.
Not empty encouragement.
Just one clear question:

A or B - which version hits harder? Simple, A or B

What I got instead was a parade of:

• recycled templates dressed up as “insight”
• responses so generic they could’ve been sent to anyone
• people pretending to “engage” while clearly skimming
• lectures about authenticity from people sending boilerplate paragraphs
• the same script repeated with different adjectives

It’s astonishing how many people perform “care” while doing the absolute minimum.

I’m not naming anyone because this isn’t about individuals.
It’s about the ecosystem; the whole circus built on creators paying for “guidance” and receiving pre‑packaged nothing in return.

This industry doesn’t run on talent.
It runs on hope, the kind that keeps you submitting, paying, waiting, apologizing, doubting yourself, and calling it “the grind.”

My music wasn’t the issue.
The system is.

And honestly?
I’m done pretending this is normal.

As a black 15 year old myself I find this new trend of white people not being allowed to wear braids and to say “nigga” quite annoying. To me it seems overly obsessive and nosy. I think this new social norm became a thing maybe in 2020 while social media was booming and people were in quarantine and everyone was stuck in their houses. This is also when the Black Lives Matter movement and media about black oppression started taking place and becoming more vocal,
and I think this fueled the fire for this social norm.

Even though I was born in 2011 it seemed like in the past people weren’t as sensitive for other people to where their cultures. And people were less stressed and chill about it.

But now (mostly on social media) you will be verbally attacked or deemed as “racist” or “offensive” to those who don’t want you wearing “their” culture.

I think this uncanny obsession with what people where or say is quite authoritarianistic and rude

And making an already sensitive word like nigga MORE sensitive will make people use it as an advantage to offend more and more people.

I completely understand when it comes to the actual hard R. But other than that I don’t think we should really care all that much.

Feel free to disagree, but please be respectful

in my opinion, I do believe that he may have definitely done some freaky nasty stuff to children. I’ve seen a interview on TikTok many times about how he had sleepovers and parties at Neverland and Michael was saying how the kids sleep in the bed with him in that big ass mansion. the interviewer was like “ you don’t see that as weird?you sleep with the children in bed.” Michael proceeded to say “you don’t have any love in your life. If you think I’m wrong you don’t understand, I’m giving these kids love”. it’s something along those lines. It doesn’t matter that he has made the best music in the world. I do believe that some kids have lied on Michael’s name so they could get some type of fame ,but I also believe that other kids said it wasn’t true and got paid a pretty big check from Michael purposely . He was a billionaire best believe I would shut up too if I got paid millions of dollars

Yes, I acknowledge that the hatred towards men is not nearly as harmful and common as the hatred towards women around the world, but that doesn't make it any less invalid. Misandry doesn't make you progressive, putting down men doesn't equal bringing up women.

Let me explain, I've been seeing a lot of young people be plain sexist with intentions of trying to seem "woke" or progressive, and I've never understood the logic behind it. Most of the arguments these people use sound very fascist, bioessentialist, and the same logic that racists and bigots use.

I assume many people are just very frustrated with the patriarchy without realising that it harms both men and women. I think the whole "I hate men" and "men are so dumb and useless" thing gives feminism as a movement a very bad look because it feeds into the stereotype that feminists and all people who want equal rights for men and women actually hate men.

My point is, you can not solve hatred with hatred. Your hatred towards men doesn't help women oppressed by patriarchy one bit. It's one of those cases where people care more about hating the abuser than helping the victim.

The trinity says the father is not the son, the son is not the spirit and the spirit is not father. But it says they are all the same one god.

In English, the word "is" has two main meanings: numerical identity and predicative identity. Numerical identity means that two words refer to the same thing, for example, "My father is my brother’s father." Predicative identity indicates that the first word has the attribute described by the second word, or belongs to the category named by the second word, for example, "He is blue" or "He is a man."

If the Trinity’s claim uses numerical identity, then it is contradictory. We can analyze this using the transitive property of identity, a fundamental rule of logic: if A is identical to B, and B is identical to C, then A must be identical to C. Applying this to the Trinity: if the Father is God and the Son is God, then the Father would have to be the Son. But Trinitarian teaching says they are distinct, which creates a logical contradiction. Thus, the three persons of the Trinity are not numerically identical.

Predicative identity fails because if “is” refers to being the category or having the property of god then there are 3 not numerically identical things that are the category of god and thus not 1 god.

The only way to say that three non‑identical things are one thing is to say they are different parts of one thing. Which is a heresy called partialism.

One might argue that the Father, Son, and Spirit share one essence, and that this essence itself has one consciousness and will. But this confuses predication with entity. Treating the essence as a conscious agent treats the predicate as an entity. The 3 persons which have the consciousness of this entity are either parts, or manifestations or modes of the same conscious entity, this is the heresy of partialism or modalism.

When people in the US hear the accurate definition of CPTSD they get really mad and protest. It's completely different than what they believe it is, and refuse to accept it. It has nothing to do with "childhood emotional abuse/neglect" from your parents, or "emotional flashbacks" (which is pop psychology nonsense). It has to with things you don't want to know about and real flashbacks.

It's not a surprise though, most don't even know what PTSD is, much less the more severe CPTSD. Big pharma has done a very good job there making people believe they have "mental health awareness" when it's actually awareness of normal life experience which they've medicalized. People with actual mental illness aren't any less stigmatized and remain unseen, pushed under the rug.

I see psychologists in various countries who are experts in it. The popular misinformation, need for validation, overdiagnosis, etc isn't your fault though, it's largely a result of the industry influence on the DSM. The ICD-11, which is used everywhere else, was made more accurate to try to prevent what happened in the US.

An excellent example of how bad the info is in the US, CPTSD has been in the DSM for more than a decade. There's no 'conspiracy'. The 5th revision added the symptoms to PTSD needed to diagnose CPTSD. People are diagnosed with CPTSD all the time in the US with the DSM. Pretty much all the info you've heard about CPTSD is false.

I know that mental health is becoming more common which is a good thing and more people are getting diagnosed. But I also have this gut feeling that a lot of people are just claiming they are on the spectrum or have some sort of neurodivergency to not take responsibility for their actions and I do kinda find it annoying that some people are so open about their mental disorders that it seems more like a personality trait that they think is cute or quirky than an actual life altering things

If you promote any political party, support any politician, and worse of all actually believe what they say, then you are a mind controlled brainwashed slave.

It doesn't matter. I myself do not give a fuck about politics. Let alone society. My dream is to distance myself as far away from it as possible, in the mean time I will ignore all this news about Donald fuck said blah blah blah.

I just hate you all

The concept of transgenderism is fundamentally dependent on an artificial change of the definition of words for political reasons. The words man and woman have been redefined from adult human male and adult human female to “feeling like a man” or “feeling like a woman.”

They usually justify this by saying the words man and woman have “always been social” because of expressions such as “be a man” but do not use this same logic for expressions like “you go tiger” or “be an adult.”

This same trick could be applied to all kinds of different concepts. For example, a movement could come about that tried to change words related to age such as “child” and “adult” and the number of years old you are to reflect “feeling like an adult” or “feeling like a child” or “feeling 18” rather than actually being that age.

The separation between sex and gender is a definition change for political reasons made up by feminists, originally the point of this difference was to say that women had a female sex but could have a “gender” that is male so that the women could socially act like men. They were not called men. But rather this ideology was meant to justify women taking on the social roles of men.

You could do the same thing for age or species. Divide it into an “internal age” and "temporal age” or “internal species” and “biological species.”

Several movements already exist that do exactly this. Transagism exists. 

https://transage-glossary.carrd.co/#one

This page advocates for transagism and uses all the same ideological terms as transgenderism.

•Transage:

It's an umbrella term referring to those whose

internal age (or lack) is different from their chronological (or physical) age. This identity is often involuntary and cannot be controlled.

It's important to note that the notion of internal age does not refer to cognitive abilities, behaviors or personality. One can have any intellectual abilities, any personality any behaviors and not be transage.

Internal age is an age that is felt, it's a sentimental age.

• Misaging/Misageing:

Misage it's the act of reffering to someone with a word, an age that doesn't correspond to their (intra) age. It can be volountary or accidental.

And so does transspeciesism also known as otherkin.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Otherkin

This site reads: “Otherkin is a subculture of individuals who identify as partially or entirely nonhuman. An umbrella term for this would be alterhuman. Some otherkin believe their identity derives from non-physical spiritual phenomena, such as having a nonhuman soul or reincarnation. Some otherkin give non-spiritual explanations for themselves, such as unusual psychology or neurodivergence, or as part of dissociative identity disorder or being plural. Many otherkins say they are physically human, but not all.”

All these ideas are equally ridiculous and the only distinction between them is that transgenderism has been pushed ideologically more on the general public which makes them accept it more because of social pressure.

They will try to argue that transgenderism is unique in some sort of way by appealing to certain studies or a “desire for female body parts and a discomfort from not having them” but both of these claims exist for these other types of ideologies and are not actually a requirement in their own ideology.

For the brain studies that say “the brains of transgenders are closer to women than men” they ignore that more feminine men especially gay men also sometimes get measured as being more similar to women.

Neither do they say that the transgenders that get measured as more like their actual sex than women are now no longer transgenders.

For the “desire for female body parts and discomfort from not having them” they do not care if someone has the desire to have the body of a certain age. If a grown man wants to look like a child and feels a discomfort for not looking like one they would not call him a child.

If you measure that the parts of the brain linked to identity are similar to that of a woman, and you think that makes them a woman. How is that any different from saying that a mental patient who believes he is missing a leg and feels discomfort from looking at his leg and seeing that it’s there has the parts of his brain linked to identity the same as a person who actually misses a leg and thus he actually misses a leg?

They justify this difference purely by the redefinition of the word woman. Where it is now purely linked to belief. But in reality everything they feel “uncomfortable” about is actually linked to biology. Their “gender reassignment surgery” is meant to emulate the body of the opposite sex. So making a definition that is separate from biology is the same as if I were to redefine “missing a leg” to “feeling like you're missing a leg” so that now all the mental patients who think they miss a leg but don't actually do miss a leg by my new definition. They're just “trans missing a leg” rather than “cis missing a leg.”

Politically extreme people make looking normal or not being heavily invested in a political party seem taboo and I don’t like it.

Im 15 and freshmen in highschool and go to k-12 and I see kindergarteners talking about politics… and even though I wasn’t alive in the past I feel like that wouldn’t have been the norm. I even see cliques and friend groups at school divided by politics. Has this always been here and I’m going crazy or have people made politics their entire personality???

It's so cringey to me.. and honestly it doesn’t even make sense considering balls are fragile!

If you see a woman doing the same thing then what? Woah, the tits on this chick for her to do that! No.. expand your vocabulary I guess. There are other ways to say how you feel about someone's bravery.

If you justify twisted sexual attraction with a "consent" argument. Where as long as 2 people consent it's ok then there's nothing wrong with having sex with your siblings or parents. You could argue that it's bad if it causes pregnancy but if the female is too old to get pregnant or it's a male you cannot use that argument. Neither can you complain about making the family uncomfortable because that hasn't stopped them from justifying homosexuality.