r/QuitPornForever

Consistency is more important than hardwork sometimes.Make Today worth it.

I have been seeing accounts in my timeline of people who are sharing content about how porn and masturbation is bad. Sharing threads on how to heal from it.

This is good,

But, are this people really genuine or they are into engagement?

Knowing the effects of masturbation is one thing.

Living it, having it cost your life and move you from your higher self is a different thing.

The map is not the terrain.

This can't be found from a prompt. This requires real experience and nuance in healing.

These individual thinks because they know the effects of masturbation from Claude they have everything figured out.

This are the individual who tell you,

"Masturbation is healthy."

"Little porn is not bad."

These are jokers.

What they know is the tip of the ice berg.

Healing porn and masturbation is deep than most of these people think.

Quitting porn is one thing.

What about the negative beliefs you picked on the way?

What about the illusion of sex and relationship you picked on the way?

What about healing from Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction?

Do you think you are going to heal from this in 2 week?

Not possible.

I am not telling this to overwhelm you. I am telling you this so you can understand the reality of this. I want to mentally prepare you on what to expect.

I want to help you to know this is not easy as they tell you.

Let see this claim I saw recently on my timeline.

"You can heal from porn and masturbation in 2 weeks."

They can be partially correct, but what part of healing are you taking about?

You can stop watching porn for 2 weeks. Does that mean you have healed from it? Far from it.

These individual are responsible for most people failure because they started them with the wrong foot.

Listen:

Healing from porn is a lifestyle. No a tactic or strategy for 90 days.

Healing from porn goes deeper in to your subconscious.

With that said, healing from porn can't be based on superficiality. You need to go deep. Deep to find yourself. To discover. To recover yourself. Embrace your weakness. Your insecurity. What you have been hiding from.

Anyone preaching it is easy is doing you harm.

The information you get influences you, so choose it wisely.

Choose not what you want to hear but what is the truth and for most of what is out here is garbage.

Your choice.

if you are stuck in that loop — sissy porn, gooning, edging, hypnosis, constantly searching and going deeper every time — this is what helped me get out

what has been working for me:

1. i limited my use of social media, i do not spend more than 1 hour per day on it
2. i reduced my use of electronics in general, no more than 4 hours per day
3. i started doing difficult things that keep me busy, like studying law, reading books, learning a new language, i do not stay idle, and that keeps me away from screens. start with something small, just a few minutes, and build a habit, increase it over time. eventually, you will be able to build many habits to maintain you busy.
4. i try to keep my mind as calm as possible all the time, no overstimulation, no rush, no chaos, just one thing at a time, at a steady pace, without stressing about everything, i even stopped playing stressful games because i think they can also be triggers
5. this may or may not be related: i stopped drinking coffee and as a result i feel less restless
6. i stopped trying to fool myself, i used to let my curiosity win, i would look things up on social media as if i did not know what was going to show up, just to get a little taste, i was addicted to digging for content without searching for it directly
7. regarding the previous point, do not let your curiosity win, because if you look for it you will find it

the main point with all of this is that you cannot overstimulate your mind, you need to slow down, become a calmer person, less driven by impulses, more present with people that love you, and set aside time to understand your anxieties and your problems. it will be difficult, you will have to face boredom, discomfort and anxiety, but you will feel much happier with yourself and with life in general.

another thing, never think you are cured, even a small exposure can lead to a relapse, do not listen to your curiosity no matter how loud it gets, do not go looking for things, because if you search you will find it.

my main problem was what felt like dysregulated dopamine levels, and you know how stimulating those videos are, i lost count of how many times i spent hours looking for that kind of content, wasting my day, choosing that over real people who actually matter and depend on me, i am grateful every day for getting out of that.

try to identify your triggers and avoid them, i have adhd and for me those videos were an escape from my problems, and over time i was able to face them and understand them.

and always remember what you are fighting for.

if you fail, don’t feel bad about it, just move forward and understand that maybe you will fail during the process.

the only place to go from failure, is to win!

hope you all win this battle too, guys.

I want to write this properly because I spent years looking for something like this and every guide I found either glossed over the hard parts or gave advice that only worked for people with mild habits. this is everything I did, in order, and why it worked when nothing else had.

I’m 31. I tried to quit somewhere between twenty and thirty times over nine years. longest streak was about three weeks. if that sounds familiar keep reading.

why every previous attempt failed

every time I tried to quit I was using the same two tools, willpower and motivation. and both of those fail for the same reason. willpower runs out at the exact moment you need it most and motivation fades within days of starting. I was also only ever removing the habit without replacing it, just a void where the addiction used to be with nothing filling it. your brain doesn’t tolerate that void. it finds its way back every time.

to actually break this permanently you need to address three things simultaneously. the mindset, the access, and the structure. every failed attempt I made addressed at most one of these. this guide covers all three.

part one, fixing the mindset with easypeasy

before you change anything practical you need to change how you think about the addiction. this is the step most people skip and it’s why most people fail.

the easypeasy method is a book based on Allen Carr’s approach to quitting smoking, adapted specifically for porn addiction. the core idea is that you don’t quit through willpower and deprivation. you quit by understanding the trap so completely that the desire itself dissolves rather than just gets suppressed.

the reframe is everything. porn is not something you are giving up. it is a trap your brain fell into that has been maintaining itself ever since through a cycle of withdrawal and temporary relief. the urges you feel are not genuine desire. they are just the addiction requesting its next fix. once you see it that clearly you stop feeling like you are sacrificing something and start feeling like you are escaping something.

read the book before you do anything else. then read it again at least once more during the process because different sections land differently depending on where you are in the reset. certain parts that didn’t fully click the first time will hit completely differently on the second or third read.

I accessed easypeasy through Reload, a 60 day habit reset app that has the book built directly into its library. having it permanently accessible inside the app meant I could return to it any time an urge hit or my thinking started to slip, without having to go searching for it elsewhere. I read it three times throughout the 60 days and the third read changed something that the first two hadn’t quite reached.

part two, removing the access permanently

understanding the trap is not enough on its own. you also need to make the thing completely inaccessible because there will be moments, late at night, stressed, bored, alone, where your thinking is not as clear as it should be. in those moments the option cannot be available.

this is where Reload does the other critical thing it does. as a habit reset app it permanently blocks all porn from your phone with absolutely no way to disable it once it’s set. not a timer, not a screen time limit you can switch off, not a blocker with a passcode you set yourself. completely and permanently inaccessible with no override.

I want to emphasise the permanence because it was the part that made the difference for me. every other blocker I had tried I had eventually bypassed because the option to bypass it existed. with Reload that option simply does not exist. the access is gone and that’s it.

set it up before you go to bed tonight. not tomorrow, tonight. the best moment to remove the access is before the next urge arrives not after.

part three, building the structure

with the mindset shifted and the access removed you still need something to fill the space the habit leaves behind. this is where most people fail even when they manage the first two steps. the empty time and the low level restlessness that comes with early recovery will pull you back if you have nothing replacing what you removed.

Reload builds you a full personalised 60 day plan based on where you actually are right now. not an idealised version of yourself but your actual current baseline. week one is genuinely manageable. each week the targets push a little further than the last so the progression feels earned rather than forced.

the plan covers everything. wake times, workouts, reading, focused work blocks, cold showers, sleep structure. you do not have to figure out what recovery is supposed to look like. the app tells you and you follow it. that removal of daily decision making is more valuable than it sounds because decision fatigue is real and your brain needs as few choices as possible in early recovery.

the ranked community inside the app kept me competing throughout the full 60 days. knowing other people were in the same process on the same leaderboard made it feel like something to be solved rather than a private shame to manage alone.

what the 60 days actually looked like

week one was the hardest. the urges were frequent and the reflex to reach for the habit fired constantly even with the access gone. what helped was having the easypeasy mindset to see the urges for what they were and the plan to redirect to immediately. every time an urge hit I went back to the book or moved to the next thing on the plan. the urge passed every single time.

by week two the urges were already different in quality. less desperate, easier to observe without acting on.

by week three the mental clarity that started returning was significant. focus came back, drive came back, the brain fog I had attributed to other things started lifting.

by week five the habit felt genuinely behind me rather than temporarily suppressed. I wasn’t white knuckling anymore. I just didn’t want it in the way I used to.

by week eight I was a different person in a way that felt real and stable rather than fragile.

the key things that made this attempt different from the previous twenty

I changed the mindset before I changed the behaviour. easypeasy removed the feeling of deprivation that had ended every previous attempt.

I removed the access in a way that had no override. every workaround I had ever used became unavailable.

I replaced the habit with a structure rather than just a void. the 60 day plan gave my brain something real to rebuild around.

I had accountability through the community so it never felt like something I was managing entirely alone.

if you have tried and failed before

you are not uniquely weak. you are not beyond fixing. you have just been trying to break a chemical addiction with the wrong tools.

read easypeasy first. use Reload to access it throughout the process and to permanently block the access and build the structure around your recovery. follow the 60 day plan and trust that the combination works even when individual pieces haven’t before.

nine years and thirty failed attempts ended when I finally addressed all three parts of the problem at the same time.

start tonight.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Bro I'm so tired of the cycle. Start strong, fall off, feel like shit, repeat.

Looking for someone around my age (college student preferably) who's also trying to get their life together — NoFap, studies, less phone, whatever it is for you.

No formal stuff. Just honest daily check-ins. Someone who actually replies and doesn't disappear after a relapse.

DM me if you're in the same boat.

I tried at one point, but kept relapsing and eventually gave up. I started watching porn every day, often multiple times, and thought about maybe leaving this subreddit. then yesterday I managed to not watch without trying, and again today. I also told my best friend who was super supportive of me so I decided I'm going to try again

Easypeasy is one of the most powerful things I've come across for PMO recovery. It reframes everything. Shows you that PMO isn't pleasure, it's poison. That it doesn't relieve your triggers, it creates them.

And when you first read it you feel free. Like something finally clicked.

Then life happens. Stress, boredom, loneliness. And that voice creeps back in. "Just once more. You deserve it. Start fresh tomorrow." And suddenly you're back in the loop, rereading the book trying to reset.

Here's why that happens.

Alex Hormozi said something that stuck with me. We don't need to be taught more, we need to be reminded more.

EasyPeasy gives you the truth. But it gives it to you once. And addiction doesn't live in logic, it lives in patterns. You can't outthink it when you're stressed and the urge is active. You need something that reminds you of the truth every single time it matters.

That's the gap I built Accountabilio to fill.

When an urge hits you open the system, write out exactly what the voice is telling you, then write your counter response. The lie and the truth. Side by side. Every time. Over time your brain stops falling for the same lies because repetition builds recognition.

Made a full 45 min masterclass breaking all of this down. What the addiction actually is, why willpower fails, what relapses really mean, and how to build a system that works long term.

Link in the pinned post on my profile. Free to watch.

I haven't done it in about a week and all of a sudden yesterday around day 6 I started feeling the urges. I was going strong taking cold showers working out and I didn't even think or watch or even have anything to do with porn etc. until day 6 late night urges and my old self telling me "just do it man" I didn't listen to that version of me and I ended up going to sleep. And today the next day day 7 it's around 12 afternoon 1 pm ish I relapsed because it kept beating down on me and now I feel like I'm back in that cycle again. It's like since I've done it so much when I'm on a finally long streak it's like man I get so scared I'm gonna fall again...

Hey soldiers. Just hit the walls again , relapse and it marks the day 1 to control the reptile 🦎 in my mind ( sexual temptations). I know i would fall in between, but will post in every week , see how i fight it while i hope get support from my fellow soldiers.

Wow

Ok, so after yesterdays almost breakdown, i was fine!
Im just a bit tired tbh, but thats because of work and collage.
I cant belive im 2 weeks done! Lets goo!!!

My boyfriend is trying to quit. He's been doing pretty well for a week or two as he was staying with me. He returned to his friends house where hes staying on the days he doesn't work. So at my place 4-5 days and with his buddies the other 2-3 days. I just found out while he was gone again he's on a chat app today where he made a profile and girls messaged him but he said he stopped himself and didn't follow through. But he did admit to jerking off to porn videos 1 a day for the past couple of days and video chatting with apps probably sexual but not jerking off. We are trying to get into therapy and him a csat but haven't found the right one yet. Its killing me that he can't keep it up with me or cum but keeps trying and yet he keeps going g back to jerking off which starts the process all over again. I told him for now I would rather him just look at porn until we get into therapy just no live sex chats but now he's back to everything. Trying to hold on and fight for us but everyday Im losing a little more trust and love for him. What to do

Hi, I am Muslim. It seems most people here have the issue that they are not lowering their gazes around women. This is why they keep relapsing. Like seriously that's like the main thing that helped me quit. It's not for no reason that Islam instructs people, especially men, to lower their gaze around women who are not members of the family. It's the main reason Muslim women are also instructed to wear the hijab, or according to many Islamic scholars even the mandatory use of face veil like in the case of Burka or Niqab. I think it is also worth keeping in mind that corn is basically acting and fake. Idk about you guys but one of the major reasons why I had previously kept relapsing was because of my attraction towards unshaven attractive middle aged woman, which I had thought I could not have enjoyed in a halal way. However, I realized that Islam allows muslim men to get married to christian women. They aren't required to shave. So, I no longer feel the need to relapse since I realized that I can have my desires fulfilled in a halal marriage relationship without having to watch such filth and sin which made me feel horrible. So, I ask why not you guys just follow the Islamic guidelines regarding lowering your gazes around the opposite gender and if you can't get married yet and really need to then take the advice of the prophet Muhammad ﷺ and fast more occasionally. Like maybe 2-3 times a week? Fasting reduces one's urges and I would have do so myself more often had it not made me less productive. That's all I wanted to say because ever since joining this community a month ago, I keep seeing too many people struggling here in vain.

uhh so today I relapsed at day 1(shit sucks) but I also observed something important. When I somehow managed to do a lot of focused work(which my brain is allergic to due to porn), and take try to take rest, I suddenly get a huge amount of urges which might be due to less dopamine in the brain. So this thing happened to me today and I relapsed.

You can share if u guys faced something similar.