r/Personality

Is it just marketing of 16personalities?

Three months ago I posted an earlier iteration of this scale.

205 of you took this version and the feedback you guys gave was amazing. We've improved it a lot since then. Go check it out! We want to include an IRT analysis of the scale to publish and your responses will bring us closer to the 500 or so needed to do that!

I got really far in depth with the personality theories like mbti, enneagram, socionics, etc. But now I've kind of reached the point of diminishing returns where it's still fun but there's little left for me to explore. The only thing that's left is making the 2D theory 3D in real life

What are some ways you look at personality that go beyond the scope of confined traits? I think as I get out more and talk to people it'll come more naturally to me; I don't really think of types when I'm interacting directly with people, just a fun thought experiment in between. But I kind of want to take these as a model and find ways of broadening the scope that my current observations led me to, without looking at everything on axes

I have a flatmate/friends who is socially outgoing and when I teased him for being a campus celeb but he mentioned that no one really talks to him and he always initiates the convos and has no more than 8-10 friends. Feel kinda bad lol

what would u call and person who attaches fast but struggles to detach

its been 5 months joining the college. Andd i feel like thres a guy who like me. But never talks to me nor initiate to talk

So recently I have been noticing that we have been exchanging eye contact a lot cries I never felt like this. He stares into my eyes every time, few times I even caught him :/ But never really approach to talk.

The other day he did dance performance. So I initiate to talk and appreciate his dance we did talk for 2 min but before that he ask for a introduction kinda shakehand cries again that was like very intimidating.

The universe tries to set me up with this guy, as we were sitting just besid each other for the exam moreover we got bumped head to head accidentallycries Btw He talks to all girls in my class Kinda mixed feelings

Guys please give me suggestions

I don't know if I've always been like this, but I can't remember being different.

I'm deeply apathetic, I don't feel sadness or happiness, just emptiness.

When people get emotional, I just wonder if they are pretending. It feel unreal.

When I genuinely laugh, I immediately realize that I don't even feel like laughing, I just do it by reflex.

I cherish my friends on the surface, but deep down, I'm not sure I do. I know I wouldn't be affected if they disappear. I have few relatives who have died these last two years, and I never felt any sadness or anything, as if they were strangers, but they were close to me.

I often had crushs that last few minutes, cause I quickly told myself "wait I don't give a sht about this guy"

I tell myself "I like this person" just to realize it's not true the second after. same for hatred, they are people I know I should hate, but I just don't.

I wonder if I ever felt anything genuine

I wonder if someone ever felt anything genuine or if everyone is just pretending.

Is there something wrong with me ?

hey, i’m 20M and i’m trying to improve my communication skills

i thought instead of doing it alone, it would be better to make a small group where we can practice together regularly

right now we are 2 people (including one female friend), and we’re looking for 2 guys and 2 girls so the group feels balanced

the idea is simple we’ll talk through voice notes or sometimes video calls and just try to get better at expressing ourselves

nothing too formal, just consistency and honest effort

if you’re actually serious about improving and won’t disappear after a few days, dm me 👍

Take a look! 📌

hey! we had many communities on MBTI and Enneagrams, but very few about the Big 5 and personality science until recently. recently, theres been an upsurge in personality change research by academia. the research aims mainly at improving life outcomes and goal achievement by increasing conscientiousness and reducing neuroticism (although it also targets the other traits). the landmark study is the PEACH study, with a sample of 1.5k. in 2021, the PEACH study found that it's possible to induce large changes in Big 5 traits, and the changes are reflected in observations of relatives and friends, as well as lasting for several months (perhaps permanently).

ive been interested in the science of personality and human behavior for a few years, since then using many of the findings to change myself for my own desired outcomes. although goals vary by person, its very promising that you can just become much more disciplined or much less emotionally reactive by focusing on developing your personality.

2 years ago, we created Mindbuilding, a server dedicated to open-source tools and scientific research on methods for changing personality traits and cognitive abilities. we have many diaries and anecdotes currently, and almost 70 compiled studies.

big 5 predicts many outcomes in life and society, from academic performance, to job performance, to social and emotional satisfaction, to longevity and health. so naturally everyone has something to gain from a community that makes findings applicable.

here's the invite to the server: https://discord.gg/W5NE8Ps4qc

That's what I think and how I feel anyway. Whether creative writing, boxing, or wrestling. Some people teach to make mini-versions of themselves because they want to project themselves in their students. (Now, why would they need to do that?) I am not talking about teaching proper standard techniques but the styles.

Like, Peekaboo boxing often crouches down and digs into the opponent while Phillyshell boxing often sways back and leans back to counter. Two opposite concepts, but they work well in their own respective style. It would be stupid for a Peekaboo boxer to teach a Phillyshell student to "lean forward when doing a shoulder roll". Leaning back is what brings up the shoulder to face level to deflect opponent's punch.

Now, is Peekaboo better than Phillyshell or the other way around? The general consensus is that they both pursue different styles, but Peekaboo boxers think their style is better and Phillyshell boxers think their style is better obviously.

The same thing goes for art and creative writing. If an artist forces his own style rigidly to students instead of respecting stylistic differences (whether he THINKS his style is better or not, as the student obviously thinks his style is better and he wouldn't pursue that otherwise), then I want to know if the "coach" is like Steven Spielberg level. If less than that, then they are qualified to teach techniques and knowhows to consult and refer to, but they are not qualified to convert someone else with their own styles and their own voices.

Also, just because someone's own style is underdeveloped at the student level does not mean it is a lesser style. There could still be a point to his art or sport vision. There are WRONG ANSWERS to arts and sports, but there are no RIGHT ANSWERS to arts and sports. That's what I think as an amateur writer.

For the record, my wrestling coach taught three different versions of Throw-By (a technique) and made students pick one according to their body type and the preference. I picked the same version as my wrestling coach because we had the same body type and personal taste in technical motions, not because he forcefully converted me to his style.

I'm wondering if it's a common enough thing or whether it further shows a personality trait that wasn't immediately focused on in the test Ie. Contrarianism.

I think it's at least healthy when someone can tell something doesn't align with their identity, but the confusion arises from whether that's because you are a contrarian to an extent, or if the individual mixed the concept of who they are with who they idealize themselves to be.

If you see yourself to check all these specific boxes, but don't wholly agree with how the test defines you from those very answers, maybe it can be that one finds the test to generalized or some other thing.. I'd like to hear your ideas on this

When I was in a lower-level position at my workplace, others gave me no consideration at all. However, now that I have been promoted to a senior position, everyone respects and acknowledges me. In this situation, should I give consideration to the people who previously ignored me? What is your opinion?"

I am 19 a male probably.I am a clown 🤡 around people.yes, that's what they call for bein kind and understanding.Am i though?if not then what am I?

( I have 0 intentions to portray myself good but yeah I never asked or intended to do bad for someone so yeah maybe that's my mistake is it??).

Today,it was a very horrible day People called childish and immature.

(I am not gay just the thing is i don't know how to behave manly that's what people say )

I wasn't like this untill I joined my highschool everything changed very drastically everyone liked that funny and clumsy guy who used to make everyone laugh.The same mouths who used to laugh at my jokes now laugh at my personality.yeah,idk but I am goin to face depression if it goes like this so here's the thing I want to make a better personality and a better person if possible I want my Spark back.I want to earn my respect afterall who likes to portray himself as a clown in front of everyone.yeah, I am not dumb i am well aware of how I am being used but Idk how tf am I supposed to conter myself from these typa monsters. In case any of you have faced the same issue and could find a solution please let me know🥀

One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone says there's no such thing as an introvert or an extrovert and that everyone is introverted and extroverted depending on the situation. What are the fundamental distinctions between introverts and extroverts?