r/PakistanElites

19F so I just started my uni and have a single mother who have been managing job and house for past 30 years alone. We have been alot struggling financially because I feel like my mother can't manage everything alone anymore. and I am struggling to pay my uni fees and transport. I just wanted to know is there any funding organisations/networks/NGOs that can provide students with financial aid?? I'll be really grateful if anyone of you can help Thankyou.

Like, some will talk about that if their wives are working they should have joint accs or make joint financial decisions.

Or when wives are not working, how many will talk about wives in degrading manner, that I give her monthly spending money, but I started from a smaller about so she will learn to spend - like ridiculing a grown up human's mental abilities, same men come online and cry about not getting treated well at work l, not paid well but treat wives like this.

Even those who aren't looking down, they have reluctance in giving her spending money. There was a chawwani counter guy here who said I earn 10 lacs or something but when my wife will go out shopping, I will give her my credit card but will get notified at 10k Rs purchase and she will have to explain what she has spent on.

Imagine, 10k rs pay interrogating your wife. Why even marry, punch a hole in credit card and start f king it

What I have seen that if wife is employed men talk about financial decisions to be joint, and when they aren't working they don't even give much respect to wives ror their non working status, count the pennies paid to her, much less consulting her in financial decisions.

BUTTTTT same men who would say I give less amount to wife or a calculated sum so she will learn financial literacy, And what I am gonna talk about now is what I HAVE SEEEN THIS HAPPEN and I have held back on talking abt it for a very loong time - same men will see a 19F need financial help for studies post in main pakistan sub or other subs and will jump in to send her money without much ado.

Aik nahi 50s of guys would be writing, send me details if verified I will pay, like when I was new on pak reddit I saw a similar 19F need help for challan post on main pakistan sub and God I was shocked at comments. The payasapan of married men.

Lets rem one thing, 99pc ppl who ask money in pak subeddits are frauds, myself busted 2 such accs, but that's not the point, acc is authentic or not, same men who would think eons to shell out money over their kids, over their wives of several years will prolly get some instant errection seeing an 18F need help post and wohi aadmi jo biwi kay naak say paisay nikalwaey ga denay ki bajaey, WITHOUT EVER consulting or sharing with his wife will start wiring money.

Now if some wife will do it using her money if she is working or from the money her husband gives her, to some guy, men will alll go bent out of shape over sending it a na mehram without asking husband.

Don't be such beyghairats, even if online you want to support some girl, DO TELL your wife. Waisay same guys will plaster all over marriage is a team, but only till they have to send money to some female accs because on that place they won't remember ever telling their wife about this decision.

idk why but men should now consider marrying within their league or slight below or above. If you’re either elite or very well established through your business or however Allah has blessed you with financial gains, please don’t settle for less at all.

it’s not even about money anymore, it’s literally about your surrounding, intellect and how much effort you’ve put into yourself for being where you are today, if you as a man and anywhere in Pakistan with good education and a running business, please don’t settle for less.

and although it’s very common for women as it has always been, men should focus on the same aspect, and also, there’s nothing wrong in it. Jaldbaazi mai and j because a girl is physically pretty, don’t lower yourself and vice versa.

Look, I’m done with the bullshit.

It feels like every other girl today has either a boyfriend, an affair, or at least some past. Some are straight-up cheating for fun even while being engaged to another guy. And then they show up in rishta meetings acting all innocent and pure.

But here’s the funniest part boys are completely okay and silent when their own sister has a boyfriend or is in a relationship. They’ll defend their sister with their life, but the moment it’s about the girl they’re marrying, suddenly they want a pure virgin who has zero experience.

Hypocrisy at its finest.

Even so-called conservative families ke ladkiyan are doing it secretly. Don’t give me that “not all girls or conservative girls don’t do this nonsense I’ve seen enough to know it’s way more common than people admit.

So tell me straight:

• Boys: How many girls have you met in the rishta process who were already experienced? Be honest.
• Girls: Why do you act all innocent during rishta if you’ve already had boyfriends or hookups?

Is virginity officially dead in 2026? Or are we all just pretending?