r/LGBTireland

Hello,

We are writing this post to highlight something that has come to our attention for the wrong reasons.

We have reasons to believe someone has been actively posting through multiple subreddits, including r/ireland using multiple profiles stories of cancer, domestic violence, financial hardship and single parenthood struggles. While these are genuinely topics that affect people in Ireland through varying degrees, these accounts we believe were fabricated in order to gain - be it financially or through other goods or services.

We are already aware of some users who have sent money, or have given food or other items to this individual by meeting in person. To anyone reading this that may think they too may have done the same, please know that your willingness to help others is so admirable and it is unfortunate that there are people who want to take advantage of it, particularly using stories that people feel so personally connected to.

This is where we need to consider what is next in something that has evolved very rapidly -

- we have a list of the accounts that we believe were not genuine and were acting in bad faith which have all since been deleted, if anyone would like to escalate this further, potentially to the Gardaí, and would like to cross check the username(s) with us, please message us via Modmail.

- we would strongly urge anyone that has received requests for money (we have seen sums ranging from €3 - €15 euro so far for "basic necessities") via DM to use the "report" function to report this to Reddit.

- we have also learned this person has been active in some cancer support type Whatsapp groups

We would like to reiterate that most people will always try to do good and help out where they can - unfortunately bad actors can and do take advantage of this all the time. We would like to advise that under no circumstances should anyone ask, or offer money, goods, or services here on the sub and exercise extreme caution if meeting someone from ANY subreddit in real life.

To clarify the scope of our control over this as a mod team - as unpaid volunteers, really it's very little, which is why we strongly advise reporting this to Reddit. On the surface, there was no direct ask for money and where possible, any comments from good hearted users asking for OP's Revolut etc. would have been removed. We also do not allow GoFundMe and similar style campaigns on the sub as we have little to no way of verifying how genuine they are.

We see the scale of absolute hardship that is out there and exists for a lot of users, so it was not outside the realm of possibility that someone was genuinely in such a position.

We have no control or visibility of what happens in DMs - hence our request for anyone affected to report this to Reddit directly in the event they come back with additional profiles in the future, and, potentially the Gardaí if they suspect they have been a victim of fraud.

To anyone affected, please note it was your kindness that was taken advantage of and you should not feel ashamed. If anyone does receive any DMs based on interactions they have had within this sub, please report to Mods.

We will leave comments on this post open however - please do not mention or link any posts or accounts publicly naming any individual or accounts associated.

If you have any questions, please message the team via Modmail.

Go raibh maith agaibh.

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Hey! My parents and I are visiting from America and I wanted to take them to a drag show as I’ve heard it’s pretty fun one Ireland. Any recommendations for bars in Dublin and/or Galway? I was looking at The George but the reviews said that it can be unsafe for women there, and I wouldn’t want to take my mom there. My parents are very supporting of the lgbtq community so it doesn’t necessarily need to be lowkey! Any recommendations are welcome, anything as simple as brunch or bingo works as well!

I moved to roscommon I'd say over 2 years ago and still have not met a single queer/lgbtq person at all. I'm from Cork originally so I'm used to it being a lot more present but up here, it's like a ghost town in comparison which makes sense. Just posting this to see if there's more people like myself up here. BTW I'm a 23 year old Trans women

I never been there - I'm feminine openly gay guy. Just scared of there are homophobic male groups there.

I been to George bar million times and I'm bored of it. Mother club is too masc4masc and techno music isn't for me, they be staring at the DJ mindlessly as if something magically will appear.. 66 is too packed and can't breath, there's no ventilation system. Pantibar is fine but again people don't talk, only creeps creep on you.

I just want large venue with pop music and maybe dance or have fun. I think dicey's garden is the only one in Ireland for that?

I've been called faggot by 22 yo idiot even though he's literally on Grindr. What's up with them? They seem to be very homophobic yet always on Grindr. They also never meet at all, completely shameless people with zero civil sense. Very sociopathic. They block you after making promises each and every time.

I just got home from a club techno queer night and am very confused. I a 21 year old trans man from the west of Ireland just went to this monthly techno queer event (first time) in the only club left in the city I live in (a rant for another day), i havnt been to many like advertised queer events at all tbh but I really didnt expect what was going on tonight. I go to many techno and rave events indoors (legal/ payee entry) and illegal (outdoor/ free) which normally have a big demographic of all types of people like yup bros and ths queer community. This event is went to I assumed would be like others where everyone is free and enjoying themselves with no shame (I will say I loved that this event had wrist bands saying if you did or didnt want to have you photo taken). I genuinly want to just know (and km not judging anyone for being sober) but why was no one drinking or doing drugs on a Saturday night amd why were all the men straight (btw there was a oiled up wresting match so wtf) like i spoke to everyone, no one smokes (tobacco or weed), does mdma, coke, popers, barely drink like I only saw a few beers or water or even vapes. No judgement but im seriously confused does the Irish queer community not do any drugs or drink at all (btw there was no one doing afters except for a group of the creepy straight guys who were hired to play gay wrestlers and btw were lowkey horrible to me after). There was one or two locals (queer people in there 30w ) that I know from the rave scene who also pointed this out so its not just me who's confused. Mabey its just this generation but im so confused (once again I want to say im not judging) that young people aren't getting fucked up on a Saturday night.

(Sorry if anything is spelt wrong im still a bit fucked up and also dyslexic)

Also im pretty new to going to queer events just because there not many going after alot of clubs closed down but is ot normal for alot staight men to come or be hired to act gay (tbh I dont mind the acting it was a whole performance and lowkey camp as fuck) and i don't mean to be ruid but alot of young queer presenting women sober and stood still judging people for having fun.

Hi friends! I am a U.S. performer traveling to Dublin to perform my sapphic one-woman show, Yesterday is Dead, with Wilde Stages - Dublin's Queer Theatre Festival!

This show is a comedic one-woman show that examines the universal question: Why are lesbians so sad? Ellen, our eager protagonist, dives into the story of Joel, a romantic and curious college student in the 1920s who discovers her love of literature, pants, and other women.

Through the themes of loneliness, grief, and hope, Ellen and Joel’s intermingled lives become a comical escape to discovery, leaving audiences questioning what really has changed in over a hundred years for lesbians.

If this sounds interesting to you, then I hope to see you May 11th-16th at the OutHouse LGBTQ+ Center! Below is a ticket link to the performances. Thank you and Uplift Lesbian Stories!

https://gaytheatre.ticketsolve.com/ticketbooth/shows/873685077/events/129674102?_gl=1*8ljrpz*_ga*MTIzMzY5MTE2MS4xNzc1NzgyMDU3*_ga_2VGLG443VX*czE3NzY5MTI1ODckbzgkZzEkdDE3NzY5MTI4NTQkajYwJGwwJGgw

Hi,

I’m 22M living in rural Ireland. I’m not out as gay here, I’ve never had a boyfriend or any gay friends etc.

I’m excited to move a city where I can experience this stuff and I will be moving next year. Obviously Dublin is the one I would want to go to if money wasn’t an issue. It has the most people and there seems to be the most going on.

Realistically I will probably go for Cork/Limerick as the rent is cheaper. (I’ll be on a trainee accountants salary, so it will be very tight). How is the gay scene in those cities? Is it worth going there? Would it be difficult to find a bf there? Should I go to Dublin and just put up with the cost?

If I go to Cork, I’m worried I’ll feel like I’m “missing out”.

21M here never been to mother before but want to go for pride, what’s better the blockparty or the afterparty in button factory OR should I just go to both? Have so much plans for pride including going to sweatbox again