r/Breadwinningwives

I’m a network engineer, i make 130k per year. My wife is a dentist, she makes 270k per year.

My wife thinks that I’m not contributing enough to our mortgage, bills, paying for our kids expenses , etc…, so every time when it comes to finance, we argue with each other. It creates significant tension. I feel insecure. I can’t remember how many arguments about finance we had during the last month 😟

To all the men, if your wife makes more than you, do you feel the same way as i do?

Update: my wife wants 50:50 split on everything

Breadwinner wives are 16% of married households but 42% of divorces. Does this surprise you?
Research shows we still carry more housework and childcare even when we’re the primary earner. The only time husbands do equal work at home is when the wife earns 100% of the income.
How are you navigating the division of labor at home? What’s actually working?

Anyone else feel guilty spending money on themselves even though they’re the one earning it?
Like I pay every bill, handle every emergency, make sure everyone is taken care of — and then I feel guilty buying myself something without a reason.
Is this just me or is this a breadwinning spouse thing?