Or what if a guy asks her out and she gives any reason different then that she is in relationship? Or maybe tells the guy friend once but then never mentioned again? Do you end it right there or what ?
Details. She is a yoga teacher and has met most of these guys through classes they attend. The guys are decent enough but from reading the texts there is a clear but small amount of sexual innuendo only from the guys. My girl though also doesn't shut it down or say it's inappropriate though it is more like flirting than vulgar comments. She also rarely ever mentions me in conversations with them and uses them to smoke weed with her which when we do she becomes very sexual. She does minor things with these guys that she won't with me such as going to different coffee or food places, She also has lied about how often they talk and if they are still talking. I told her it isn't normal to have a "back up plan " in a sense and that I think it's more due to trauma. I also said it's odd to only have guy friends, rarely mention me like day to day activities while simultaneously telling them about private details of our relationship or issues. I also explained to her why it upsets me and that I wasn't saying she couldn't have guy friends but the sexual stuff and lies needed to stop. She thinks I'm overreacting and it's a jealousy issue and said she would do it less frequently and shut down any flirting. I am 98% sure she hasn't physically cheated on me but I also wonder if genuinely I'm overreacting. She also lied about contact and having sex with one of the guys prior to us dating , all under the same guise. I have never gotten very upset , conveyed how much more being dishonest hurts then the texting itself. and am hurt by lack of stating our relationship. She told me one of the people in her class asked her to go to a pumpkin patch with just those 2 and her answers was like " he was so young and I couldn't think of any way to say no so I just said I'm busy that day" . Which obviously leaves the possibility open in that person's mind. I was frustrated and said like how about making the fact your in relationship know and she responds yea I could have , didn't even think about that. That's pretty much it in a nutshell.