u/upsidedownsq

I have been talking to this guy from Tinder at least everyday now for two weeks so far. We have some stuff in common. He asks me questions about myself which is quite refreshing and makes me feel he’s attentive. I started sending him funny reels that I thought he would like and he now sends me some reels in return.

I’m not used to a guy being genuinely interested in me to be honest, so at times, it’s hard to pin point.

He asked me if I’d like to hang and have pizza one evening. I came over and we were watching a movie. It was nice and fun. I showed him a movie I thought he would like that I’ve been talking to him about. I felt a vibe, we kept smiling at each other very cute and somewhat awkward in silence and I asked him during talking if it would be okay if I kiss him. He said “yes” which we made out. We went to his room, made some art, listened to music, talked about ourselves and we ended up kissing again which led to more. He asked me if I wanted to spend the night. I declined because I don’t feel comfortable sleeping in other people’s houses but I was tempted. He told me also that he thought I was really pretty and didn’t know if I would be into him (ironically I thought the same about him).

We bond over art and music. We act somewhat increasingly silly together the more we talk by saying random stuff and doing silly voices at times. I’m an awkward person but I enjoy making people laugh with silliness. He now sends me a reel every other morning and we chat from there. He doesn’t text me anything s*xual unless brought up. We talked about our fantasies and what we like in the bedroom.

When we hung out again, we made out and he started trying to take off my jacket but I didn’t feel comfortable removing it and just wanted to kiss with clothes on. I’m a bit confused honestly because kissing grosses me out at times, I’m not that s*xual of a person yet I’m somewhat attracted to him that I like being around him and he’s so cute and I like being silly with him.

I thought I was graysexual or just low libido from medication. I get turned on sometimes. I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t want our relationship to be only about sex. I want to connect more with him emotionally.

I have moments where it’s hard to believe a guy would be genuinely interested in me rather than for sex. I’m also bad at social cues.

I felt confused, overstimulated during makeout sesh and told him to his face that I’m not ready to be doing all of this. I am going through a transition and going through a lot of personal stuff. I said I would just like to be friends. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship tho.

Idk what he wants with me and i don’t know what I really want with him.

I keep wanting to be around him. But, don’t want to lead him on in anyway. I think about doing cute stuff with him and being silly with him. I always look forward to our conversations. It makes me smile when he texts me.

The next day after telling him that night I wanted to be friends, I assumed he’d stop talking to me for some reason but he still sent me a reel which we ended up chatting.

My bf’s dad has been homeless for a few months now since he separated from his wife. He was abusive towards her for 30+ years. She finally said she was done and left the state. He went back to original town hours away due to being kicked out by his friend.

He out of nowhere showed up at me and bf’s apartment one day. He was staying in a hotel but didn’t have enough funds so now has been sleeping in his car. He now has been sleeping in his car in front of our apartment complex. It honestly makes me uncomfortable being around him.

For the past days, he’s been sleeping in his car in front of our apartment complex and trying to find a house locally.

Apparently, me and bf’s neighbor called the cops on his dad because of him sleeping in his car. My bf came home pissed when he found out saying, “When I see him, I’ll break both his legs. He should mind his own business”. We don’t necessarily know for sure it was the specific neighbor but he is very nosy and acts like he’s the landlord at times.

I don’t know why his dad drove all the way here. Maybe to be close to his son? Idk. He doesn’t have a job.

He also is a big drunk (drunk every single time) who once sexually harassed me a while back and I told my bf but he didn’t do much. My bf says he seems like he’s really trying to make amends with both of us and as if he wants me to give him a chance. But, I don’t really feel comfortable being around him.

he doesn’t want help at all.