u/tzhvsk

I met this guy in September and we hit it off. Eventually, he asked me to be his girlfriend, but I turned him down. He kept trying though, and for the last six months, we’ve been in a no-strings-attached relationship. I can see that he loves me and is going above and beyond for me, but the boundaries were set from the start.
The thing is, he’s older than me (6+y.) and has a lot of messy history with exes and a sketchy reputation. We tried to keep things on the low and not show up around people we know, but lately, everything has started going too far. Now I don’t know how to bring myself to end it the right way. No judgment please. 🥺

TL;DR: I’ve been in a casual "no-strings-attached" thing for 6 months with an older guy who has a sketchy past. He’s catching serious feelings and doing the most for me, but I never wanted anything serious. Now it’s getting too deep, and I need advice on how to end it properly without feeling like a villain.

I’m seeing a guy who’s 9 years older than me. We’ve been together for a year, and he’s my first everything . But he’s had a ton of girls and a lot of history before me, which he brushes off saying 'it’s all in the past.' It’s not even about jealousy, it just hits hard mentally. I feel this massive imbalance . For me, every milestone is a huge deal, but he’s just so nonchalant about it, like it’s just another episode. Instead of his experience making me feel safe, it’s actually a turn-off.Anyone else dealt with this?

tl;dr: I’m struggling with the emotional imbalance in my relationship because I’m my partner's "first" for everything, while he has a lot of experience and treats our milestones too casually.