u/throwaway009090986

Could I be on the ace spectrum?

To be blunt, I am 18. I have never had sex or been in a relationship, or had a crush for that matter. For the longest time I have just assumed I am bisexual but all of my "crushes" have been fictional characters or celebrities, and a friend of mine recently pointed out that I might be asexual or on the ace spectrum, so I figured I may as well ask here

I do feel arousal. I get turned on by the idea of sex and I enjoy the idea of romantic love, but I don't enjoy the idea of being in a relationship or having sex with someone, as the idea of having sex with a person makes my kinda cringe in a way? I'm not necessarily disgusted or frightened by sex. The best thing I could compare it to is imagine you visit your friend and they are offering you a meal that you seen online. It might have looked tasty online, or even in that moment, but seeing it in real life and the idea of taking a bite makes you go "eh, no, I'm fine." Now just imagine that happens every time. Thats my relationship to sex, and romance in general.

I find men, women, etc, physically attractive but I don't enjoy the idea of being in a relationship or having sex with them. Like fictional characters for example; I enjoy the idea of being with them, but not even as myself, I usually fantasize about them with characters I ship them with or my OC's. If they magically became real, I still don't think I would want to date or have sex with them.

Apologies for kind of ranting. Pointing me in any direction would be appreciated, thanks

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u/throwaway009090986 — 4 days ago

Potential NSFW? I don't know what I am anymore

To be blunt, I am 18. I have never had sex or been in a relationship, or had a crush for that matter. For the longest time I have just assumed I am bisexual but all of my "crushes" have been fictional characters or celebrities.

I get turned on by the idea of sex and I enjoy the idea of romantic love, but I don't enjoy the idea of being in a relationship or having sex with someone, as the idea of having sex with a person makes my kinda cringe in a way? I'm not necessarily disgusted or frightened by sex. The best thing I could compare it to is imagine you visit your friend and they are offering you a meal that you seen online. It might have looked tasty online, or even in that moment, but seeing it in real life and the idea of taking a bite makes you go "eh, no, I'm fine." Now just imagine that happens every time. Thats my relationship to sex.

I find men, women, etc, attractive but I don't enjoy the idea of having sex with them. Like fictional characters for example; I enjoy the idea of being with them, but not as myself, I usually fantasize about them with characters I ship them with or my OC's. If they magically became real, I don't think I would want to date or have sex with them.

Apologies for kind of ranting. I'm not necessarily asking anyone to subscribe me to a specific sexuality, but pointing me in any direction would be appreciated

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u/throwaway009090986 — 4 days ago