u/throwavayig

I live in a student dorm. It's two of us in a room, me and my roommate, let's name her Lisa. And Lisa LOVES our bathroom. Once she goes inside, she spends a lot of time doing whatever. This happens every day multiple times, each time ranging from 30 to 90 minutes. As far as I know, it is because she is usually smoking (it's allowed to smoke indoors where I live), watching some reality show, or popping her face in parallel with all the basic bathroom stuff. Once she comes out she goes: "Oh I'm so sorry, I don't know why I do this, I'm crazy" and then next time does this again. I stopped asking her to cut this off whatsoever because she just forgets about it (or simply doesn't care).

So, a couple of days ago Lisa went to the bathroom. And I just had 3 cups of tea. Of course, at some point, maybe half an hour later, I wanted to go pee. I thought to myself "Well, maybe it's one of the quicker times and she will leave the bathroom soon". No. Another 15 minutes go past, still she is inside. I knock on the door and ask, "Hey, how much time do you need there?" She says "15 more minutes". I say, "Bro I'm about to pee myself, please hurry up", and Lisa answers "I'm so sorry, I will".

Another 30 minutes go past. I geniunely feel awful. My stomach hurts badly and I feel like I'm actually about to pee myself each more minute. I knock on the door once again. "15 more minutes please".

That's when I legitimately thought to myself that if I can't wait another 15 minutes, because I'm definitely wetting my pants soon and probably dying of embarrassment right afterwards. My fight or flight mode kicks in and I choose to flight. I run out of the room, knock on our neighbor's door (who is Lisa's classmate and also my friend) and ask if I can use his bathroom because Lisa has been in ours for an hour and a half now. He laughs about it and lets me in.

The next day, when Lisa came home from uni, she looked super irritated by something. When I asked her what happened, she said "Nothing". 15 minutes later I asked her again (because I couldn't ignore her mad face) and she said "Why would you embarass me like that with the bathroom thing, now everyone is laughing like 'What are you doing there for so long'".

Maybe I really did mess up? I mean, I could just not mention for how long she was there. I felt like I should have explained why I was knocking at someone else's door to go pee, but I was frustrated and wanted to share my frustration, so maybe that's why it came out like that. I mean, I felt super embarrassed myself, because I had to go to another GUY'S room to PEE, and my stomach was hurting as hell. That's why I'm not sure if it was my mess up or her. Maybe both.

So, what do you think? Am I the asshole?

Edit: Just thought I'd clarify before the conversation starts: she didn't tell me before going to the bathroom that she was going to use it. It would be easier if she did.

Edit 2: I'm 100% sure she's not on any drugs or doing sex work in the bathroom. Personally, I think that she takes so much time because it's her way to get some personal space (since we share a bedroom), relax, and avoid whatever responsibilities she currently has (be it chores, homework, whatever). It's also possible that there are mental issues that make her act like that, since there are other signs of those, but I'm not a doctor to make clinical claims.