u/sundusresearch

Hello all, hope you’re doing well.

I’m currently day 3 post-op (lower back + flanks lipo) and noticed a small, ball-like lump in the treated area that feels like fluid.

Yesterday I wore double compression, and this showed up this morning. The area is still pretty numb, so I can’t really gauge pain.

I’ll be checking in with my surgeon when they’re available, but I wanted to ask here in the meantime, has anyone experienced something similar (a lump or fluid buildup) this early on? Would really appreciate hearing your experiences.

Has anyone used the ordinarys products specifically to target elasticity/ wrinkles etc. ? If so, what products did you see results with? I’d also like to hear anyone’s experience with the ordinary Retinol serums

I’d like to hear more on this! I know people have discussed the importance of sunscreen, adding facial massages and gua sha! As for beauty treatments, I’ve heard lots about microneedling but not sure if there&: better?

I would like to hear more about some steps you took in your skincare earlier that has made a difference?

I’m not sure if this will resonate with everyone, but I come from a very collectivist background where life really revolves around loved ones, and a lot of that connection happens through food.

During COVID, I actually hit my weight goal. Looking back, I think a big reason was that I finally had full control over my schedule. My social life was basically zero, no recreational hangouts, but my routine was consistent (stayed home worked out, did everything online, intermittent fasted).

Over the years, I gained almost 50 lbs back which was really disappointing. I’ve recently started again and have managed to lose a bit , but I’ve noticed something important: my most successful days are the ones where I’m completely alone.

Almost all socializing in my life involves food: pizza nights, restaurants with friends, cafés, potlucks, movie nights with snacks. Even just sitting with family, it feels “off” if you’re not eating something. For example, I try to finish my last meal by 8pm, but if people are still hanging out at 9, there’s always snacking… and it’s usually carb-heavy.

Reflecting on it, I think I’ve been chubby most of my life partly because I associate eating with connection. I was the oldest child so since young, I just did what they did.

Right now, I’m trying small adjustments like suggesting coffee meetups instead, where I can still be social without disrupting my routine. But it’s honestly hard to balance both.

Another layer is that I don’t want to share this journey with people around me. When I regained weight before, I got comments like “yeah, you couldn’t stick to it”. I have some friends / family who want to remain unhealthy and have their own biases so when I eat fruits or my own foods, THERE IS ALWAYS COMMENTS!!! and I don’t want that pressure again. I just want to do this quietly, through consistent small actions and literally not tell anybody (I know not the best way but as for now I must).

Currently, this is effecting me in a way where I do not want to see anybody or do anything with anyone because I know food will be involved some way. Im now older and I know this is not a healthy perspective.

I’m curious has anyone in this sub dealt with this? How do you maintain your health goals while keeping this social life (specifically with lack of support).

Thanks in advance!

Please send recs! Thank you