AIO my friend doesn’t have my back despite saying she supported me?
So, a few months ago I was at one of my friends (31F) wedding and I was her bridesmaid, she only had three bridesmaids but didn’t choose a MOH but I was doing practically every duty you would expect a MOH to do. She is a white English woman marrying a white Englishman, I’m Scottish and all the guests in attendance have either lived in England for years or were born in England. Let’s call my friend Emma just for the purposes of the story. So Emma’s dress code theme was “Outshine the Bride.” And it was a fairly small wedding so she even explained to everyone why she chose the theme, because she was wearing a simple white silk dress and because it’s a small wedding she wanted the guests to provide most of the “WOW” factor with their dresses.
Fast forward to day off, I’m walking down the aisle and then I’m standing at the alter a few steps behind her (along with the two other bridesmaids) when I see her cousin (29F) - let’s call her Milly, wearing a white dress. Like floor length. White. Dress. It’s kind of extra with some very very VERY pale lace over the cleavage and right at the hem but in very short lengths (deffo not enough to even be debated whether it’s blue and white. It was WHITE with the teensiest blue decoration that you wouldn’t even notice if you weren’t looking closely).
I was shocked, I’d never been at a wedding where something like this had happened but after the ceremony - I was talking to Emma and she brings up Milly and her dress. Emma says that it’s weird and that she’s really really annoyed about it and threw a vague ‘sort it, please’ , so, I gently go over to Milly during the day and causally get her on her own, and say that I have some more dresses upstairs(for context Milly and I are both size 10 UK and definitely have the same chest size as we mixed up our bikini tops on the hen do and didn’t realise AND although I’m 5’7 and she’s 5’5, the dresses were made to have a little train on the floor with flats, so her in three inch heels would have been fine). The night before the Wedding was the theme “Glitter and Sparkles” so all the dresses I had upstairs for options were fitting the theme much more than her dress.
She got annoyed, told me if it was a problem, Emma would have told me herself, I told her that’s it’s Emma’s day and she wouldn’t want to get into any drama, she goes, exactly it’s EMMAS day, she would tell me.
Anyway, after the wedding, Milly refused to change outfit but we all got too drunk and she went to bed earlier than us that we forgot and she wasn’t in many of the pictures, I get told by one of the other bridesmaids who is Emma’s half sister, let’s call her Jane, that Milly told them all at a family dinner about what I said and how stupid it was and Emma not only didn’t stand up for me, but CORRECTED her. Since then, I’ve asked Emma about it and she said she didn’t have a choice but like?? C’mon?
Anyway, now I don’t know if I’m overreacting about both Milly being in a white dress but also Emma agreeing with her after purposely asking me to go and sort it.