u/sozzzled

The other day I (24F) was building ikea furniture he (35M) picked up the hammer and pretended he was going to smash my head in. he lifted it up and then brought it down quickly and then said “ imagine “ and thought it was funny and i looked at him sad. This was about 2 months ago then not more than an hour ago he picked up two empty 5 gallon water jug sone in each hand and pretended to slam my back with it and said “ ooo i just wanna [does motion like he’s gonna hit me] “ and he thought it was funny again until i looked sad. He never really apologized just laughed it off and said “Im just kidding babe don’t take it seriously!”

We’ve been together for 2 years now and he constantly makes jokes that make me uncomfortable. The other day we were fighting and upset and I was in the room in the dark and he came in and we didn’t talk for like 30 minutes. All of a sudden he goes “I’m horny should I just go relieve myself or you wanna have sex.” I stayed quiet and he just left to the bathroom to jerk off.

We’ve had a huge issue with him withholding affection when we don’t have sex and I had to explain to him why it’s wrong and why he shouldn’t do that. AIO if I break up with him over these things?

We’ve been dating for two years he moved into my house after my parents divorced and moved to different cities and I took over the rent. We have a dog together and I’ve been paying majority of the bills because “he’s trying to pay off his credit card debt” Mind you he filed bankruptcy when we first started dating because of that debt and he had a clean slate for a while I don’t know how he got into debt again. He’s paid $1200 in the past two months when our rent alone is $1500.

This just happened and I’m (24F) still in shock of how fast things escalated. All because of a stupid game of UNO. I have some family visiting from Mexico and 4 of us sat down to play UNO. Everyone else was busy so we start playing and I say the rule of how if you have one card left you have to say UNO before someone else does or else you have to draw cards.

So my uncle (50M) had one card left I say UNO and my cousin (31F) tells him he has to draw 4 cards. He says no I’m not doing that it’s my first time playing and I didn’t know the rules. I tell him, tio I just told everyone the rules you have to draw 4. He says no I’m not doing that it’s my first time playing. We all just sit there awkwardly like is this 50 year old man rlly refusing to draw the cards. Everyone knows my uncle is lowkey crazy so I kinda just sit there for a couple seconds waiting to see if he’ll do anything and then I put my cards down and I say “I don’t play with cheaters”. As I do this I’m laughing at how crazy the situation is. I walk to the living room and sit down. This 50 year old man then says he’s leaving and he doesn’t wanna be here anymore. Mind you, everyone is in my home, I am hosting, they’re all staying here except my uncle because he lives about 15 mins away and the rest of the fam (6 of them) are staying over and visiting, they’ve been here almost a week.

I get off the couch and say “you know what uncle I’m just gonna go to the room and go to sleep”. Then he proceeds to say “acabo de escuchar una perra ladrar”. Translation “I just heard a b*tch bark”. He gets his things and leaves he just waves goodbye doesn’t hug anyone. Walks right past me of course.

When he said his little comment I audibly cackled cus of how f***ing ridiculous this whole thing was. I think me laughing made him more mad. He then leaves and I lock the door behind him. I look at my fam who’s still on the table and their faces look so sad like what just happened and their heads were hanging. I felt so bad. I look at my mom and I’m like mom this is crazy did I do something wrong. Fully expecting her to say nooo you didn’t do anything wrong. She looks at me and she says you already know how he is why did you do that. I go to my room cus I’m legit shocked and I just sit there for a bit taking it in. I go back out to spend time with my family and we’re just chilling fine. This all just happened like an hour ago.

My bf woke up and I told him the story he then tells me that I’m in the wrong I should’ve just dropped it not have called him a cheater cus I already know how he is.

I am having a really hard time accepting that I’m in the wrong. I don’t think I did anything wrong at all. Matter of fact I am lowkey pissed that I just got called a barking b*tch in my own home and everyone’s saying I’m in the wrong like f*ck all of yall 😭😭 idk how they’re taking the side of a 50 year old man having a tantrum. I am still chilling with the fam but I can’t get this out of my head. And I know he’s most likely never gonna apologize. AITAH?

edit: 1 this is not his first time playing he literally has like 4 different uno games (DOS, different types of unos). HE BROUGHT THE GAME. I’m pretty sure we’ve played together and I told everyone the most important rule as we were playing. 2 he is a known neurotic** (not neurodivergent, i had gotten the words mixed up in my previous edit), we used to live together and it ended bad so there’s underlying tension even tho I apologized (wasn’t even fully my fault, i just love him so much and didnt mind taking the high road, i think that’s what pissed me off tha i always just let him do what he wants) and we were doing just fine. He moved away about 2 months ago now