it my boyfriend's loss of sexual interest temporary?
I met my boyfriend seven months ago, and at the beginning it really felt like we were going to have an incredibly passionate and intense sex life, both because of the way we talked and how he acted. But then he started having severe back pain and we found out he had a herniated disc. He had surgery, and we haven’t had sex for four months.
At first it was understandable because of the pain. But later, during recovery, we tried a few times and he couldn’t get an erection. He said that after such a long time without physical intimacy, he was struggling and needed time. I understand that, but I started wondering if the problem was me. A few times I couldn’t hold it in anymore and told him, maybe a bit resentfully, that the whole situation felt strange and I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. He told me he hasn’t even watched porn in a long time and that sex just hasn’t been a priority for him lately.
Normally he’s a man with a very high libido. I honestly don’t know what to do. It’s now been a month since the surgery, and he still talks about moving in together, makes sweet plans for our future, and brings up these topics himself. But there’s basically no sex. He doesn’t touch me with passion anymore. There’s affection, hugs, kind words — yes — but no sexual energy. I’ve never experienced something like this before and I can’t tell if I’m being insensitive or not.