u/sniiperturbo

Hello!! I was told to post this here for an unbiased opinion of my situation. Sorry for layout and grammar.

I’ve just very recently(>2 days) blocked my friend of over 4 years

Me - 20 F
B - 20 M
S - 22 F

Me and B met due to him being my best friend’s (now ex) boyfriend. Despite their relationship not lasting, we’ve remained very close. I truly considered him like a little brother and while we had long periods where we spoke little/not at all the friendship has never died out. B has introduced me to several girlfriends, and he’s met my long term partner T. Recently I’ve began learning to ride a motorbike and practicing on B’s before my lessons, he’s never minded and in exchange I buy him fuel & let him drive my car as he’s also learning how to drive.

We had agreed to meet up 2 nights ago now, at 9pm-9.30pm. I would drive to his house like usual, we’d switch vehicles and cruise around. I got ready at 7pm, and called him to confirm the meet up time, he didn’t reply. At 8.45pm he called me but the signal cut out and I couldn’t hear him. I called him back 4 times and he never answered. I saw his location was over an hour away, and felt very confused. I expected a call or message but one never came, by 11pm I felt very hurt and went out for a drive with another friend.

I did call him at 11.30pm, and told him ghosting me wasn’t on. That all I needed was a text, and I was just very hurt and disappointed. He explained he was at S’s house helping her fix her bike as she’d dropped it and broken the indicator. I told him that was fine, but I really needed to know because I felt stupid sat in all my motorbike gear while just waiting around. I messaged him at midnight, after dropping off my friend that I felt disrespected by his lack of communication. He didn’t reply for 18 hours (extremely unlike him) only to say that “I didn’t get your 4 missed calls.” Which I don’t believe because even if he hadn’t, there wasn’t any type of communication to let me know he wouldn’t be making it?

He later confirmed he actually saw me near his house, dropping off my friend as she lives nearby, and still didn’t call or text because “I assumed you were going home.” I never even saw him. My car is EXTREMELY distinct and impossible to be mistaken for anyone else’s but mine (full body livery for a certain brand, I’m not sponsored by I just like their packaging.) I waited a full 24 hours for any type of of communication and he never reached out to clear the air. So I decided to block him and by association his girlfriend (we really didn’t know each other that well, and she made a very cruel comment about a friend in critical condition after a motorbike accident.)

Now I’m left wondering if I overreacted, because he truly is like family to me. But the ghosting and then lack of communication entirely just makes me feel like the friendship is really one sided and maybe I just cared more than he did??

So Reddit, am I overreacting for blocking him after this?