u/sassyexec

Hello everyone! I’m 27F, with a net worth of 340K+, and I work in tech (I have since I was 19) + also run a business.

My best friends have been my best friends since under grad and I love them because are the best, they care about me and they are good people. We have been together through thick and thin. We’re travelling together, later in June for a trip that I’m both excited for and nervous about.

Sometimes though, I do feel frustrated by them - one of them is in government in IT and the other is a teacher. They have fairly good work life balance compared to myself, however, with that comes a lower income in HCOL.

I occasionally get comments like ‘can you just move this meeting or take it in the car on the way to dinner?’ Or ‘oh damn you’re responding to emails in the morning (7:30 AM) and not waiting till you get to the office?’ I try to not let these comments affect me because I recognize they’re coming from a good place, and they just don’t have to do those things.

Where they fill their time with hobbies, like book club, dragon boating, etc my hobbies tend to revolve around family, the business, sleeping, working out and of course going out with them every weekend.

I love them to bits, they’re not bitchy by any means but sometimes I wish I wasn’t always the adult in our friendship. I love that they bring whimsy and joy, but I also believe in handling the practical life stuff too so that I can enjoy life down the line and am not suffering.

Am I crazy here? Am I the bitch? Has anyone else gone through this?

I love this subreddit because they are truly so many amazing women in tech across North America.

However, a recurring theme I see constantly in posts is - how to deal with burnout.

The world is a weird place right now - lots of layoffs, having to do more with less, AI becoming widespread. It’s a LOT (and I haven’t even gone into the depths of it).

I want us to all help each other. So share in the comments what has personally helped you with burnout?

Personally for me it has been leaving bad situations and when I couldn’t, going to therapy and finding something outside of work to ground me. Even if it’s under 30 minutes a day.