How would someone go about writing an irredeemable character that is likeable? Such as a character who is/was a killer, or someone who tortured people? What about without a redemption arc, or if the story has started after it happened?
A child's first bully is an unhealed parent. That is almost always true. As someone who finds it quite difficult to identify and talk about my feelings, nor do I want to (to a therapist), I am worried that I would be one of those 'unhealed parents'.
I do hope to get therapy before having children, but every single time I have the chance to talk about my issues, I suddenly forget them and am the happiest person in the whole entire world, so I feel that would get in the way of recovery.
What I am worried about specifically is continuing a cycle of emotional abuse to my kids. I remember my mom once found a video and showed it to me, of someone pouring clear water into dirty cups, and they get watered down and become clearer (It's difficult to explain, but the coffee was symbolic for abuse, and the last cup, which was titled: "My kids", was watered down until the water is fully clear, before being put into another cup. Basically, it means that the person who made the video is 'ending the cycle of abuse'), and I also remember my mom talking to her friends, or bringing up examples in arguments that she is ending the cycle of abuse, but she is definitely not. Although I must admit, the cycle is much less powerful, my mom was physically and emotionally abused as a kid, and my siblings and I are only emotionally abused.
The thing is, the cycle is STILL there. My mom fully believes she ended it, and I am worried that I will have the same belief with my kids, but I would have just taught them to act happy all the time.
Is there a way I can know I am not going to continue the cycle, and is there something I can do to make sure I don't?
Such as if you lose motivation halfway through writing your story, or after the first draft, or at any point in the story. How do you know if finishing the stpry is worth it or not? And how do you get yourself to actually finish it?
So, I was raised with parents who, not just with me, but also with my siblings, would no matter what, believe that all of our problems and symptoms of depression/anxiety/adhd were part of growing up, or just a phase. My sister literally has panic attacks, and my parents think it's a part of puberty.
It's not that my parents don't care about us or don't believe in mental illnesses existing, it's just something I see in my parents and a lot of other parents. Their child can't Possibly have anything worthy of a diagnosis, and I'm curious as to why.
I know the dress is actually black and blue, I just see the middle one as different from both of them and I am debating with my family