>!sexual assault / rape ?!<
I feel genuinely curious to hear different points of view. Especially of people with different backgrounds regarding this topic, if you experienced something like this yourself or if you’ve seen it portrayed in other shows or films or if you’ve never had any connection to this topic
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leaving space for people who don’t want to read anything with a conten warning.
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Content warning is: sexual assault
I’m currently in my mid twenties & have never had sex.
When I (f) was 17 I had a very good friend (m) who lived (i guess still does, no contact nowadays) a couple hours away. So on a long weekend I made the trip and stayed at his. On the first evening he tried to kiss me but I said no, as I only had platonic friendship feelings for him and we were great friends. Then I pretended to go to bed / sleep because it was kinda awkward.
I heard him go “Shit.” so I thought he realised it was a stupid idea.
A couple minutes or half an hour later or something he asked if I was still awake, to which I - obviously - said nothing, so he believed I was asleep.
A few minutes later he started touching me rather inappropriately. I was frozen in shock and also a bit of fear I believe (retrospectively: stupid af that I didnt say anything at that moment, but I was young, alone with a very good friend in his home with noone else around).
I tried to turn around “in my sleep”, to turn away from him but he just continued. This continued for the next (1 or 2?) nights I was there and I was basically paralysed by fear / shock. So he basically touched me everywhere those nights while he thought I was asleep.
Now, the time after I was kinda weird with physical touch, also with friends, still sometimes suck at it because I overthink most physical touch.
Also, to get your blood pressure pumping because it get’s mine pumping retrospectively, I googled my experience and the first few answers to similar enquiries from other people were that it’s my fault as I “willingly laid next to a hormonal teenage boy”. So that deterred me from talking about that experience because the “my fault” was then ingrained in my head, especially because I didn’t say or do something. Nowadays I absolutely without any doubt know it was not my fault.
I don‘t know if my lack of interested in physical intimacy stems from that experience as it might override possible attraction or if i’m “really” asexual.
Tho I think I generally might be somewhere on the spectrum?
I’d love insights / opinions on this.
I went on this cute hike in Eisenach, Thuringia (Germany). It was amazing. We didn’t walk the route most people walk, we started with a kinda huge group but as we took a detour we lost basically everyone and didn’t see too many people while wandering about.
I even found a four leaf clover 🍀! The clovers were huge, did you find the lucky one though?:)
Hi!
I’m doing my masters in psychology. I’m conducting a study about how personality - more specifically the dark side of personality- influences work-related-behaviours. It is completely anonymous!
Requirements:
- Born & raised in the UK
- Parents born in the UK
- Over 18
- Working 20+ hours per week
- Have been working for at least 6 months
Very thankful for every participant!
It’s a vent as well. Spoiler because I’m talking about one episode of Dr. House which spoils a bet between House & Wilson. 8x09
I’m sure there’s been posts before but man. I just saw that episode again recently and it still leaves me fuming! In the beginning one thinks: nice, asexual representation. then your brain goes “oh, i’m watching house…”
I hate how Wilson and House make that bet, betting on ones sexuality is a no-no, especialt with the meaning that asexuality can’t be real.. And I hate even more that after that bet House really finds something and that the spouse then admits to faking asexuality for the sake of the relationship???
Man. I’m fuming.