u/pothosskull

Hey I wanted some input on anyone who might have OCD, or is/was with someone who does. Is it possible that rumination can cause sudden, seemingly impulsive breakups?

The ache to reach out to them has completely subsided. Like, I still want to on some level, but it’s not gnawing at me like it was before. In our last conversation, which was me reaching out, they stonewalled me like never before. Rightfully they did say we agreed to give each other space, but at the same time I told them I was spiraling and also worried about them. They told me they were fine, which I might be coping but I have hard time believing they are after ending a 4 year long relationship, and also didn’t even acknowledge how I was doing.

I sort of blew up, especially because having that space be thrown back in my face, because I was the one who suggested because I noticed they were struggling, fucking stung. I told them “Thanks for abandoning me. I’ll make sure to remember that the next time I feel like I deserve love.”

I did apologize quickly after saying that, explaining I was in my feelings and that I will go away, and they didn’t respond to anything after that. Every other time we talked post BU they always said some sort of bye, but this time not at all.

Oddly enough, being in my feelings during our last talk helped me be more okay with leaving it off there. I hated the HR email tier “We will talk someday :)” byes we did before that.

Anyway, I wonder if they’ll come back.

Hey so I’m thinking of doing no contact with my ex until the beginning of September (around our anniversary, we broke up a month ago and officially stopped talking a little over a week ago)

Would it be weird if I asked her for my underwear back? It would just feel a little weird for someone who’s going to eventually be a stranger to own something that intimate of mine.

She’s currently away from her home in another country to do school. She told me she had to leave many of the gifts I’ve given her behind to lessen her luggage, which I was obviously fine with.

Now that she’s dumped me, when she goes back home, goes through her storage and sees all that I’ve given her, will she feel anything at all? Clothes, jewelry, plushies, some I’ve won for her in claw machines.