u/peachy_starlightz99

i joined a team at work about eight months ago. and theres one guy on the team, ill call him R, whos kinda made it subtly clear since i got there that he doesnt really consider me a core part of the group. not openly hostile or anything. just little stuff. not copying me on things. referring to the team in ways that exclude me. you know the type. that drip drip kinda thing that adds up over time

then like two weeks ago during a tense moment in a meeting he said something that landed harder than usual. basically implied that i wasnt really one of them and the team had its own way of doing things before i arrived

i didnt say anything in the moment. just let it go. figured he was frustrated and probably didnt mean it the way it came out. i actually really tried to be gracious about it

so fast forward to yesterday. were all in the break room. and R goes, dramatically, to the group at large, "i am exhausted, i need coffee desperately"

and without thinking i go "hi exhausted i need coffee desperately, im not really part of this team"

one of my colleagues laughed SO hard she had to physically leave the room

R went quiet

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my manager was also there and she pulled me aside afterwards and said she appreciated that i hadnt escalated the original comment two weeks ago but that maybe i shouldnt have said what i said in front of the whole group

and i was kinda like. ok. but in my defense. it was funny. like objectively. the woman who laughed is still bringing it up

AITA?

i hired a contractor to do some work on my apartment. specific stuff, nothing major, we agreed on a price, i paid half upfront like you do

he did maybe sixty percent of the work. and i know it was sixty percent because i have photos of what was done and what wasnt done and i compared them to what was actually in the written quote

i asked him to come back and finish and he said he'd schedule it. three weeks passed. i asked again. he said he'd been busy and would get to it. another two weeks went by. so i sent a formal message saying i needed the work completed or a partial refund for the unfinished portion

he came back saying the work was done to the agreed standard and if i had concerns i shouldve raised them at the time

so i went to the platform we booked through and they reviewed it and basically said it was a he said she said situation and closed the ticket

then i went to every review platform i could find him on and left honest, detailed, one star reviews. i included the photos showing what was quoted versus what was actually completed. kept them completely factual, no insults, no exaggeration, just here is what was agreed and here is what was delivered

turns out other people had the same experience. my reviews got comments from other customers saying the same thing had happened to them

his rating dropped pretty significantly and he messaged me saying id destroyed his livelihood over a misunderstanding and demanded i take the reviews down

i told him they were accurate and i was leaving them up

AITA?

I lost my mom eight months ago. It has been the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am still not fully on the other side of it.

She had a life insurance policy she had been paying into for years. She named me as the sole beneficiary. Not her siblings, not my dad who she had been divorced from for a decade, just me. She told me about it before she got sick, said it was specifically so I would have a foundation after she was gone.

My uncle, her younger brother, found out about the payout amount through a family member who should not have said anything. He called me about three weeks after the funeral.

He said he understood it was a hard time but that he had been close to my mom too and that she would have wanted the people she loved to be taken care of. He has been going through a rough patch financially for about two years. He asked if I could loan him a portion, said he would pay it back when he got back on his feet.

I said no.

He pushed. Said my mom was his sister and he had his own grief and his own struggles and I was sitting on money that could genuinely change his situation right now. Said she would have helped him if she could.

I said she had eight months of knowing she was dying to update that policy if she wanted to include him. She did not.

He called me cold. Said I was using legal technicalities to justify not helping family.

AITA?