Unmarried men, how do you deal with pressure from family/society?
Kind of a support seeking post.
I'm almost 30. My folks are from India but I grew up outside of India all my life. I live in the US now. My sister recently got married and my folks have turned their attention towards my marriage recently.
I don't really want to go down the arranged marriage route. To be honest, I don't think marriage is in the cards for me.
I've started to overthink about what to tell my parents. I don't want to talk to the girls they find on some dumb matrimonial website. However, my parents want reasons and "I'm not interested" is not an acceptable reason. I worry they are going to end up thinking I'm some sort of incel loser or that I'm impotent.
I don't really want to answer their questions on why I don't want to get married, but sooner or later I'm going to have to. Living in an Indian society, they're bound to face questions from relatives and friends on why their son isn't married and I don't want them to feel embarrassed.
None of this will ever impact my life. I know they won't actually force me to get married. Yet, I care what my parents think and don't want them to end up feeling like they failed me in some way.
Can men who have been in my shoes share how you dealt with it?