u/oceangranddaughter

My first 2 pregnancies were textbook, I was very healthy, babies very healthy, and my postpartum period was uneventful. My most recent pregnancy was more stressful (I’m a lot older, there were a lot more risks, baby was in NICU but is doing fine now). We also moved to a bigger house with this baby. Recovery has taken longer and I’m not as strong as I was before.

I try to stay on top of any potential mental health issues and so I’m trying to be very careful and aware of how I’m feeling especially during postpartum. I don’t feel depressed in the typical way. I have had depression and anxiety in the past (mainly due to not taking care of myself, bad relationships or things like that) but this doesn’t feel like that. I actually was extremely depressed during my pregnancy but I chalked that up to other stress that was going on at the same time that’s now resolved itself.

Occasionally I get something that I call “the saddies”. It’s sort of a deep longing, nostalgia, or homesickness feeling. Sometimes I truly do feel sad and like I want to go back in time to when I was a first time mom, when it felt like life was “simpler” with only one kid, or back when we lived in our old house. I absolutely love all my kids equally. My most recent child is the light of my life, as it was with my others. But sometimes I just miss that time so much. I also have trouble sleeping and often wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours (not extremely unusual, my sleep quality has never been the best). I eat well, don’t drink alcohol or smoke, exercise daily, go outside daily, take vitamins. My day-to-day is usually uneventful, I find enjoyment in my usual activities. My marriage and intimate life is fantastic, my husband is very involved and hands on and takes on a good deal of the mental load. It’s all great besides this weird sad nostalgia feeling.

What is this? Is it a mild form of ppd? The “baby blues”? Should I be more concerned? I am hesitant to book an appointment with therapy because I don’t feel like I have anything to talk about. But it comes back fairly regularly, usually at night. I’ve never experienced it before, was hoping someone could weigh in.

I was working really hard on a very lovely needlepoint project, putting in hours a day, and then I attended an event at my LNS and I left feeling SO bad about myself, basically in tears actually. Nothing drastic was said or done, but this one LNS owner or employee has the WORST attitude the last few times I’ve gone in. Not my first run in with this person, but truly I don’t know what her problem is. I know better than to take it personally, because I’ve seen her be extremely rude to her own coworkers. Like, my jaw has actually dropped at the way she treats them (when she thinks no-one is around). She MUST be a higher up because I’m assuming anyone else would have been let go if they acted that way. But yet every time I always take it so deeply, I guess I am just too sensitive or something. It makes me want to never go back, and I get a feeling of dread whenever I look at my projects. I’ve been to other LNS that also have not very nice employees too! It’s kind of wild the lack of customer service that seems so common in this craft actually. How do I get over my sensitivity to this? How can I remove the association of this horrible negative energy suck from my beautiful projects I’ve worked so hard on? I wish I could just order all my threads online but kitting in person is simply so much easier/better.

I don’t know where else to post this, but I’ve been trying to lose weight for a little while after having a baby. It’s not my first rodeo so I’m sort of loosely tracking my CICO and exercising, basically the same as I did before kids. I have about 10-15lbs from my goal weight so not too bad but also kind in an annoying place of not fitting into my old clothes quite yet but also not wanting to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe.

I was at Costco last week and they were offering samples of premade, precooked Sabatino’s Chicken Meatballs. I tried a few flavors and they were delicious so I grabbed a container because why not. I normally hate both chicken and meatballs. But these are so dang flavorful that I just had to try them out. When I got home I looked at the box feeling certain that 2-3 meatballs was going to be 500 or 600 calories but to my surprise 4 meatballs were 140 calories. Sometimes I just want a quick dinner so I just throw some of them in a dish in oven, and I can eat max 8-9 before I start feeling extremely full. If I eat anything on the side (rice or fruit or veggies) that number would be 4-5. But these are SO filling that I am full for HOURS later. My husband commented the same thing. How is this possible that a 300 calorie “meal” can leave me full for so long? I am starting to think they must be mislabeled or something but Google says the same info. Has anyone tried these and could weigh in?