u/not-so-jaat

Isse garmi kehete hai? Ye garmi nahi hai, hum sab ek microwave me hai, hum sab roast and toast hue ja rahe hai! Kabhi bread zyada der tawe pe rakh lete ho toh uska colour change ho jata hai, mai vo bread hoon, mera bhi colour change ho gaya hai is garmi me! Mann karta hai thandi beer se naha loon bass!

Upar se, flat hai sector 45 mai, office hai udyog vihar me, toh samjh toh sakte hi ho tum log! Prestige NH48 lena padta hai, bhai, kaha se araha hai itta traffic, kaha ja raha hai, ek baar ke liye mai thar vaalo se itta na daroon jitta ye auto vaalo ka khauf hai, ye auto vaale highway pe wrong side arahe hote hai? Matlab aisi kya majboori? Itta traffic bc, itta time lagta hai, mai aram se dhurandar 1 and 2 one go me khatam kar sakte hoon on my way to office!

Sirf ghayal hi hota ja raha hoon, ghatak hone ka mauka mil hi nahi Raha hai!

Pottty bhi nahi aayi subah se 😤

Hi, I'm 28M and decided last year that I'm open to meeting people for AM.

Now the two reasons i decided to be open to meeting are as follows:

1. Age

2. Companionship is important, more so when eventually around me will also settle down

Now these two reasons convinced me to be open for AM but not sufficient enough to marry someone.

So eventually i decided that I'll only marry when I have the right reasons to, so I sat with myself and thought what could be the right reasons, so I came up with my non negotiables:

1. Attraction/ spark/ chemistry (doesn't necessarily mean looks or good looking, i should feel attracted towards the other person)

2. Should be open minded, for example drinking, smoking etc etc, whether she does or not, is her choice, but she shouldn't think that whosoever does it necessarily make the other person a bad human being

3. Should have her own life, goals, identity, growth etc, basically shouldn't be completely emotionally dependent on me even for the tiniest things

4. Should be opinionated, not judgmental, discussions, communications should be healthy, they shouldn't feel like debates

Now these are my non negotiables and I feel when they will be met, I'll have the right reason (hopefully) to get married and settle with a life long partner

Confusion strikes here, I met this person, 25F and bar my first non negotiable (attraction), all of my other non negotiables are matching, met with her and shared a cigarette with her, had drinks too, spoke about a lot of things! But I'm yet to feel attracted, it doesn't exist only from my side to a point where initiating conversations feels like a task. And she's pretty, just that I'm not attracted.

Now everyone around me is telling me that she's a good catch, good looking, has a stable and potential career ahead of her and will do good in life + family oriented too!

And I feel the same, but vo attraction hi nahi araha hai mereko! And that's getting me confused like anything!

So, I'm curious to know, for people who married their partners because they had a good personality, future ahead, stability etc, but weren't attracted to their now partners, did that change? Attraction hua? Pyaar hua? And how did your life post marriage turn out to be?

Please help this guy in need!

Thanks 🍻

Hi, I'm 28M and decided last year that I'm open to meeting people for AM.

Now the two reasons i decided to be open to meeting are as follows:

1. Age

2. Companionship is important, more so when eventually around me will also settle down

Now these two reasons convinced me to be open for AM but not sufficient enough to marry someone.

So eventually i decided that I'll only marry when I have the right reasons to, so I sat with myself and thought what could be the right reasons, so I came up with my non negotiables:

1. Attraction/ spark/ chemistry (doesn't necessarily mean looks or good looking, i should feel attracted towards the other person)

2. Should be open minded, for example drinking, smoking etc etc, whether she does or not, is her choice, but she shouldn't think that whosoever does it necessarily make the other person a bad human being

3. Should have her own life, goals, identity, growth etc, basically shouldn't be completely emotionally dependent on me even for the tiniest things

4. Should be opinionated, not judgmental, discussions, communications should be healthy, they shouldn't feel like debates

Now these are my non negotiables and I feel when they will be met, I'll have the right reason (hopefully) to get married and settle with a life long partner

Confusion strikes here, I met this person, 25F and bar my first non negotiable (attraction), all of my other non negotiables are matching, met with her and shared a cigarette with her, had drinks too, spoke about a lot of things! But I'm yet to feel attracted, it doesn't exist only from my side to a point where initiating conversations feels like a task. And she's pretty, just that I'm not attracted.

Now everyone around me is telling me that she's a good catch, good looking, has a stable and potential career ahead of her and will do good in life + family oriented too!

And I feel the same, but vo attraction hi nahi araha hai mereko! And that's getting me confused like anything!

So, I'm curious to know, for people who married their partners because they had a good personality, future ahead, stability etc, but weren't attracted to their now partners, did that change? Attraction hua? Pyaar hua? And how did your life post marriage turn out to be?

Please help this guy in need!

Thanks 🍻