u/ngonzmon

Hi! Getting married next month (June 20th) and we're eloping in Colorado then traveling back the week after to our home state for a post-elopement celebration with friends and family. I've been focusing waaay too much on the post-elopement celebration and now I'm feeling anxious about the elopement day. I'm not sure how to start planning the timeline for that day so I need help/suggestions. Here's what we have:

• We already hired a photographer for 3 hours. Location has to be between 1-2 hours from Denver. I was thinking Brainard Lake Recreation Area but my photographer has not been there so they're not sure on how to guide me with choosing a specific location there.
• It's gonna be just the 2 of us and our dog (plus the photographer). So, how do you plan the timeline for that day? Once I'm dressed, do I just start reading my vows? Lol idk
• Time: we're going to do a morning elopement. So probably like 7am-10am or 8am-11am (open to something earlier). We plan to meet with the photographer at the location we choose, start hiking and my photographer will bring a "changing station" so I can change and do a first look. Aside from that, idk what to do from there? I thought about maybe hiring an officiant, but idk.

If you eloped in Colorado not far from the Denver area, which location did you choose? Are 3 hours of photography enough for an intimate elopement? (I'm being charged quite a bit for these 3 hours so I wanted to avoid going over that time and having to pay more) How was the timeline for your elopement? TIA!

It's insane the amount of glitches the depop app has had this year. First of all, I'm receiving likes notifications literally over an hour after the potential buyer likes an item. I'm now glued to the desktop version. Someone likes an item and it shows like an hour later on the app. And today, I noticed that the app is sending automatic offers on some items when I KNOW I have them turned off. I'm so annoyed.

Hi y'all! Planning our honeymoon for early September. We're both an active couple that loves hiking and spending time outdoors. I originally wanted to go to Norway and visit Lofoten for our honeymoon, but unfortunately 1) we only have about 10 days and I don't think that's enough considering we would be flying from Dallas and then would need to also plan on how to get to Lofoten. 2) Flights from Dallas to Norway are a pit pricey right now and 3) due to the current situation, we're not sure if we feel safe traveling outside of the US.

Since I love hiking and the PNW, my fiancé suggested if we could stay in the US and maybe have our honeymoon in Washington State. First, let me clarify that we don't mind driving at all and I already have a rough itinerary with the places I want to visit (Colchuck Lake, Mt. Rainier, Olympic NP, North Cascades).

We would arrive to Seattle and spend about a day exploring the city, then focus on more outdoor activities. We were planning on booking some hotel stays with points but also wanted about 2 nights on a nice romantic airbnb/hotel/cabin so we can relax a bit. Any recs? Also, any recommendations for restaurants or other fun/challenging hikes? Honestly, my perfect day would be waking up early, go on a hike with a rewarding alpine lake at the end, have lunch by the lake and then hike back and drive to our hotel, shower and go for a nice dinner with good cocktails.

Hopefully this isn't a long post and I don't think I need advice, mainly just vent.

Long story short, I'm (30F) getting married in June of this year. We're eloping and then traveling home for a post-elopement celebration with family and friends.

Ever since I got engaged and started planning this event, I've been extremely anxious due to the situation with my little sister. I'm the oldest of 3 and my sisters are in their mid/late 20s. My little sister has been struggling with substance abuse for the last 10 years or so. What started as just weed, eventually progressed to cocaine and pills. Then, in mid 2024, after a very traumatic and serious event, we found out she was doing heroin and last year she also had an overdose and almost died because she consumed something laced with fentanyl. At this point, she's not homeless only because my mom allows her to stay home after she comes back from staying with "a friend". It has been extremely difficult for me and my family to say the least. Especially since we didn't grow up around drugs or anything like that. It was a case of unfortunately hanging out with the wrong crowd. Since I live in another state, it was a bit "easier" for me to cut her off. I blocked any type of contact with her because I couldn't deal with the constant calls in the middle of the night or during working hours asking for money. I briefly interact with her when I travel back home for Christmas and that's about it.

Now, last year when I got engaged, one of the first things I did was making it clear that she was not invited to our celebration (even though it is heartbreaking for me). Since the beginning, my mom has been on board with this and even supported me when one of my aunts said that she was hopeful that she would change and we should not exclude her from this event. In a perfect world, she would behave and be there but at this point, all she cares about is drugs. Aside from the fact that I'm anxious 24/7 thinking that she can die at any point (at the beginning stages of planning, I even tried to convince my fiancé to postpone things because I can't plan a celebration with this constant feeling of impending doom). Anyways...earlier this year my mom told me she's trying (once again) to get her into rehab at a private facility and apparently, she was willing to try but that has been TBD I guess. Last week, I found out she had been in the hospital for 15 days fighting a blood bacteria or something. She even spent a few days in the ICU and needed blood transfusion (her hemoglobin levels were at 3!). At the same time, doctors were doing a detox procedure. When I found out about this literally last week, my mom told me she was actually doing better and the plan was to get her to the rehab facility after being released from the hospital. Well...unfortunately, on Friday she decided to request being discharged from the hospital. My mom, my aunt, the doctors, nurses and psychologists at the hospital were BEGGING her to please stay for a little longer to make sure she was okay and then continue with treatment for her drug addiction. She refused and said she wants to get better but outside of the hospital and she "promised" my mom she won't use again. I know how the cycle and false promises go with addicts so yeah...in a perfect world she would be willing and successful at getting sober but at this point is too soon to tell. My mom told me that after leaving the hospital, she has been at home and taking her medications as recommended. And today I get a text message from my mom saying: "if your sister keeps getting better, is she invited to the celebration?" I'm honestly in shock. I know it comes from a place of hope and again, in a perfect world, it would be realistic for her to be better but at the same time, even if she does get better, I think it would be harmful to have her in an environment where there's alcohol and partying involved. She has never struggled with alcohol but still, I think it can be a trigger. My fiancé has been supportive throughout this entire situation with my family but with this question from my mom he has been FIRM that he does not want her there even though it hurts.

I replied and told my mom "I don't know." and left it at that because I want to have this conversation via phone, not over text message. I want this celebration to go as smooth and enjoyable as possible, because these last few years have been horrible for my mental health due to this situation.

Sent some offers this morning and got a notification that they are now good for 14 days...idk how I feel about that. The only good thing is that people won't be annoyed with receiving constant offers every 24 hours I guess

Hi everyone! 30 y/o female here.

One of my dreams is to do a roadtrip from Dallas to Anchorage. I still have a long way to go but want to start creating some sort of plan for when it happens. I'm thinking maybe about 1.5 years from now. I have a pretty flexible job that would allow me to do this without having to do anything drastic like quitting my job lol it would be a combination between PTO and remote work. I estimate it would take me about 1.5 months to complete since I want to have time to enjoy some places along the way. My main "issue" is that I would MAYBE be doing this roadtrip by myself (and with my dog). Unfortunately, not everyone in my life has the same flexibility as me when it comes to their job. For this reason, my husband is terrified and worried about my safety if I do this alone. The best he could do would be to fly and meet me at some of my potential stops along the way, stay with me for a few days then fly back home.

I'm not looking for route advice or anything like that, since I haven't started planning it yet. However, I would like to hear from people who have done a similar roadtrip like this (bonus points if you're a woman and did this by yourself). How did you feel safety wise? (aside from wildlife). How was the experience?

This might be a long text but bear with me. I'm regretting who I chose as my MOH and not sure what to ask of her for the day of our celebration.

For context, we got engaged last year and getting married this summer. We are eloping (just the 2 of us) and then traveling to our home state for a post-elopement celebration. We're not having a bridal party or anything, but we decided to have at least a MOH and Best Man. We're not doing anything traditional so I guess it was more like an honorary thing. My fiancé chose his cousin and I chose my "best friend" of over 20 years and I think I made the wrong choice (and my fiancé as well). They haven't been part of this process at all. Even the BM is now not sure if he's coming to the celebration at all. My friend has been MIA and honestly, after this I think it's time to move on from this friendship because it feels one-sided.

It's a long story, but she's always been like this and she tends to isolate herself a lot. Just her, her husband and their daughter. Out of the few times we've been able to spend time with them in person (they live in a different state) it's like nothing ever happened and we're all having an amazing time. But then after that, I simply don't hear from my friend at all and I start to question "does she even like me?". When we're together, even her husband has mentioned "she's awful at communicating, she never answers her texts or reply to people at all and I have told her she needs to be better at keeping in touch with her friends, especially with you". I know she's busy and she struggles with some family stuff (not related to her husband) but still...I have my issues too and I have made it very clear to her that I want to be there to support her, but if we don't talk, I don't know what's going on in her life and can't help. Like I have reached out for her birthday, her husband's birthday, her daughter's birthday and she just NEVER responds. Her birthday is in November. In 2024, I reached out and never heard back from her so I got tired of feeling like I'm begging for her friendship and stopped texting her. I didn't talk to her or hear from her until May 2025 when I got engaged. She called me and was so excited and apologized (once again) for being bad at getting back to people.

I decided to have her as my MOH (which she was very excited about, according to her) because we've been friends for so so long (since we were 7 and we're now in our 30s). I don't have many friends, and I really appreciated her friendship but for a while, I've been thinking that it might be time to move on and honestly, it breaks my heart. Anyways...even though I'm not doing anything traditional, I am sad that this year I have talked to her 6 times in total and all have been very short conversations. I was expecting to, at least, travel to visit her and go wedding dress shopping together. But because we barely talk, I felt uncomfortable basically inviting myself to her home and ask her to disrupt her routine to go wedding dress shopping with me. I ended up getting my dress online. Our post-elopement celebration planning is almost done and we're organizing the timeline for that weekend. I know we're doing things backwards, basically everyone invited to the celebration is local, we're the ones traveling for this celebration. Because of this, we're eloping first but treating the celebration weekend as the "wedding weekend" and wanted to do a bachelor/bachelorette thing the day before the celebration. First of all, I know my friends are not planning anything for me the day before. They're waiting for me to let them know what I want to do and I honestly feel kind of sad planning my own "bachelorette". For the celebration day, we wanted someone to do a speech and we're like "I guess we have to choose our MOH and BM to do a speech because they haven't done anything and I guess we should give them something so they feel like they did something as MOH/BM because if not, what was the point of choosing them?" and I'm annoyed/sad/frustrated asking them to do a speech when right now, they feel like just any other regular guest.