Am I overreacting? My gym class trainer ignores our limits, but I seem to be the only one who minds it.
I go to a bargain-basement gym. I’m usually self-directed on the weights floor, but I like joining classes to get some more light weight heavy rep movement in without having to think. A new trainer (male and early 20s) started recently, and I’m struggling to figure out if his style is normal or if I’m right to be upset. I've never had an issue with any of the other trainers and I go to another PT outside of this, but I'm still just not really sure.
He dictates when we can and can't have water. If we take a drink or a rest outside the times he says we can (which includes between exercises), he adds extra time to the next exercise (or at the very least, says he's going to). This includes shaking off a cramp during exercises or doing the exercise differently from what he wants (for instance, I can't do raised planks without handlebars because I have inflexible wrists; he's added extra time when I do forearm ones without asking him ahead of time. I also often walk around when I'm doing curls). He also refuses to tell us the exercises ahead of time because he doesn't want us to adjust accordingly (pacing myself is vital for my recovery and also just to me staying sane tbh, if it's relevant I am autistic and benefit from knowing the plan ahead of time). He also often puts weights on held poses without asking us - it's not a surprise, you can see it coming, but it's kind of like, 'Oh, just try harder!' - like, I'll be wall sitting and he'll come over and give me a 20kg plate to hold.
The other woman in the class grumbles and complains loudly about the moves, but she ultimately obeys him and does everything he says and attends most days. This makes me feel like maybe I'm the problem, but this shit is giving me PE class trauma. He says I can just tell him i I need a break but then when I clearly do need one I just take one because I'm an adult and I can take a break if I need to, but then he adds extra time! I've left class in tears twice now - today was because I came back after an eye operation and told him at the beginning that I needed to avoid jumping movements and being too heavy on my core and his response was to programme 100 burpees in and not giving me a real alternative.
I have no idea what to do or how to complain or if this is just how it is and I'm being stupid and the gym will just tell me to get over it. The first time he made me cry I tried to have a word with him and things improved, but after my medical leave I'm finding him to be exactly the same as he was before. This gym is also one minute away from my house which is literally the dream and I was really enjoying doing classes before this.