u/maddiewithluv

I'm about to finish my 4th year teaching 8th grade.

I have never been this mentally exhausted in my entire life. My 8th graders are off the walls, my admin keeps making excuses for them so they don't end up missing out on the 8th grade graduation ceremony (they can't attend if they have more than one referral). So basically- the act up, I write them up, admin lets them off the hook, they come back and act even worse. I've gotten to the point that I just send the repeat offenders to the hallway at the beginning of every class because I'm going to snap if I have to keep dealing with them. We've been doing state testing, and we don't always get plannings on testing days. I haven't had a planning period this week.

I'm so drained. I've tried everything to make my life easier- meal prepping, setting my outfits out for the next day before I go to bed, etc. I tried to sit down and read a book last night, and my brain just couldn't comprehend what I was reading. I get home and I just stare at the wall because I can't do anything that requires thinking.

I was having a conversation with my boyfriend the other day and I kept saying "what?" because I just could not get what he was saying. I was hearing him but it was like my brain wasn't processing anything he said.

I've slept from 9pm-6am the past two weeks and I'm still exhausted. One of my coworkers asked me if I was okay this morning because I "have Tim Burton character level eye bags going on". I'm so tired.

I don't want to go out with my friends, when I do I end up having to make all the decisions about what we're doing so I leave feeling even worse. I feel like I could sleep all summer break and it wouldn't be enough.

I used to run in the mornings and do pilates after school, I went to a class yesterday and just could not physically do it anymore. I don't feel like myself at all, I just want to be alone all the time.

I'm about to finish my 4th year teaching 8th grade.

I have never been this mentally exhausted in my entire life. My 8th graders are off the walls, my admin keeps making excuses for them so they don't end up missing out on the 8th grade graduation ceremony (they can't attend if they have more than one referral). So basically- the act up, I write them up, admin lets them off the hook, they come back and act even worse. I've gotten to the point that I just send the repeat offenders to the hallway at the beginning of every class because I'm going to snap if I have to keep dealing with them. We've been doing state testing, and we don't always get plannings on testing days. I haven't had a planning period this week.

I'm so drained. I've tried everything to make my life easier- meal prepping, setting my outfits out for the next day before I go to bed, etc. I tried to sit down and read a book last night, and my brain just couldn't comprehend what I was reading. I get home and I just stare at the wall because I can't do anything that requires thinking.

I was having a conversation with my boyfriend the other day and I kept saying "what?" because I just could not get what he was saying. I was hearing him but it was like my brain wasn't processing anything he said.

I've slept from 8pm-6am the past two weeks and I'm still exhausted. One of my coworkers asked me if I was okay this morning because I "have Tim Burton character level eye bags going on". I'm so tired.

I don't want to go out with my friends, when I do I end up having to make all the decisions about what we're doing so I leave feeling even worse. I feel like I could sleep all summer break and it wouldn't be enough.

I used to run in the mornings and do pilates after school, I went to a class yesterday and just could not physically do it anymore. I don't feel like myself at all, I just want to be alone all the time.

Yesterday, one of my (26F) best friends (25F) told me she’s crushing hard on my boyfriend (30M). I could tell she was really distressed and embarrassed, I’m not sure how to navigate this moving forward. We’ve been best friends for about a year, I’ve been with my BF for a couple of months.

She says she’s very attracted to him physically, his success, and with how she sees him treating me (opening car doors, gentleman-ly stuff like that).

She doesn’t have his number, I saw last night that she followed him on instagram but he didn't follow her back (which is weird because I'm 90% sure she wasn't following him before our convo), pretty much doesn’t have any contact with him except through me. She told me she would never try to interfere with my relationship because she can see how happy I am, but she wanted to be honest with me. She did tell me that if we broke up she couldn’t promise she wouldn’t pursue him, but immediately started crying after and said she was such a shitty friend. She’s on the spectrum and can be very blunt sometimes, so I’m not sure if that was one of those moments or what.

At the same time, I want to protect myself and my relationship. I told her we could still have a friendship, but maybe we could hang out more one-on-one or with just the girls in our friend group (several couples in our friend group). I’m just feeling really torn about it. This was all before she went and followed him on IG after our convo, so not sure where I stand on that now. My bf is visiting family this week, and won’t be back until Wednesday. I’m not sure how to talk to him about this, as he’s only been around my best friend maybe 4-5 times and we haven't been together very long at all.

I’m just confused by the whole thing. I wish she hadn’t confessed to all of this. She’s seeing someone right now, but hasn’t been super invested and hasn’t had the best luck with dating in general. Not saying this to sl*t shame or anything like that, but she tends to fall hard, ghost, and move on fast. I’m just so stuck on her comment about pursing my bf if we broke up.

tl;dr My best friend confessed to crushing on my boyfriend and I’m not sure how to navigate things now.

Today, one of my (26F) best friends (25F) told me she’s crushing hard on my boyfriend (30M). I could tell she was really distressed and embarrassed, I’m not sure how to navigate this moving forward. We’ve been best friends for about a year, I’ve been with my BF for a couple of months.

She says she’s very attracted to him physically, his success, and with how she sees him treating me (opening car doors, gentleman-ly stuff like that).

She doesn’t have his number, doesn’t follow him on social media, pretty much doesn’t have any contact with him except through me. She told me she would never try to interfere with my relationship because she can see how happy I am, but she wanted to be honest with me. She did tell me that if we broke up she couldn’t promise she wouldn’t pursue him, but immediately started crying after and said she was such a shitty friend. She’s on the spectrum and can be very blunt sometimes, so I’m not sure if that was one of those moments or what. at

At the same time, I want to protect myself and my relationship. I told her we would still have a friendship, but maybe we could hang out more one-on-one or with just the girls in our friend group (several couples in our friend group). I’m just feeling really torn about it. My bf is visiting family this week, and won’t be back until Wednesday. I’m not sure how to talk to him about this, as he’s only been around my best friend maybe 4-5 times.

I’m just confused by the whole thing. I wish she hadn’t confessed to all of this. She’s seeing someone right now, but hasn’t been super invested and hasn’t had the best luck with dating in general.

tl;dr My best friend confessed to crushing on my boyfriend and I’m not sure how to navigate things now.