u/lizz781

I’ve been working as an academic advisor for over 2 years and I was taught that we only meet with current students and if there’s an formal students or perspective students, we send them to transfer advising since we do not analyze transcripts.

Today, I had a student email me all their transcripts and wanted me to tell me what classes will they have left if they returned to the university. The transcript included out of state and some military universities (like institutions for active military members). I told them that we only meet with current students and provided the information on who to contact.

Apparently I was wrong and I was supposed to advise them? I do not understand how I could possibly look at an out of state transcript and analyze it and email advise them (something we aren’t allowed to do).

I told my supervisor that I didn’t feel comfortable having to analyze a transcript and provide advising when the student hasn’t taken classes here for more than 10 years now. She said okay and that the student can contact the department I said.

If the student hasn’t take any other college classes and wanted a general idea, then I might’ve been inclined to provide advising, but I don’t believe I get paid enough to analyze transcripts.

Now I feel like I’m in the wrong and this will negatively impact me.

For weeks now I’ve had this feeling that my partner was doing something. He would always say it’s all in my head, my insecurities and how I’m just paranoid bc of the last discovery day.

Well today during work I got this notification from Canopy asking me to review a picture and I clicked on it and it wa a half naked woman. Turns out, he found a way to bypass his accountability app and the iPhone lockdown mode and has been using the eBay lives to edge.

I was so angry and like always, it turned into talking about himself and his grievances. He then said how the majority of women are okay with their partners lusting after other women.

Now I’m back to feeling so so so ugly and worthless. He blamed me for not seeing a couples CSAT as the reason for him not doing recovery work. He said that if we break up, he wants to take our two dogs and then began saying how I treated him like a cash cow at the beginning of our relationship (we were both 19 but I was in college making $10 an hr and he was in the military making over $60k, but apparently he has built of resentment for having to spend more money).

Idk anymore. I just feel so defeated.

I am Hispanic and I feel like a big part of my BDD is the fact that I don’t have the stereotypical body of a Latina. It also hurts that my boyfriend is a porn addict that has a preference for a specific body type that I’m not.

Right now I’m not feeling good at all and my BDD has gotten so bad that even wearing a simple pants and t shirt makes me feel so ugly and lumpy and pushes me to the edge.

Anyone else deals with this?

Original discovery day was 2022 and every since we’ve been having discovery days here and there. Last one was like 2 months ago.

I am tired of this whole “obviously other women will be attractive to me” “obviously women will have attributes I am attracted to” “I can’t control seeing women’s body parts” and “you just want me to be perfect” when I tell him that I don’t want to be betrayed or lied to.

Lately I’ve been feeling so disassociated in life now that all I do every break I have at work is go to IG reels even when I’m supposed to be studying for a certification. I have no motivation but to be on social media and brain rot basically. I feel like I’m living in a haze and maybe it’s my body trying to protect myself from another potential discovery day.

My body dysmorphia has gotten worse to the point where wearing a simple pants and a t shirts sends me to the edge. I feel so square and lumpy.

So today, my PA will be going to get his tires fixed and go to the doctor. I expressed my concerns, especially how triggering the tire area is. So he said he’ll FaceTime me when he gets to the doctor. I asked if we could just call at the tire place instead and now he’s mad at me. Saying that now he’s suffocated, how he’s tried and all that.

I was trying so hard to not feel triggered but that reaction now brings me to the worst case scenario. Now I’m having triggering thoughts. I don’t understand what’s the point of asking “what can I do to make you feel better” and then getting mad for me saying something.