u/lilmunchkin12

I met at a man at a party this weekend who had just lost his 37 year old wife of six years to a reckless driver who hit and run on Sunset boulevard. After reading about multiple children, the entire West Portal family, elderly, and other individuals killed in SF this year, hugging this man in his grief shook me to my core. I did some research and it seems like reckless driving and ridiculously low bail and easy convictions for vehicular manslaughter has become a major problem in California that has grown since the pandemic.

I want to change it. I want to organize a protest on city hall lawn, but I have never done this before, though I did reach out to some activist groups and have two prominent guest speakers who can do a Zoom with those of us interested in educating ourselves on this issue or attend our SF protest.

If you have advice or interest, please let me know.

hi… this is a weird post to make because I have been hesitating to admit the situation, but my 2.5 year old is profoundly gifted and I am trying to find other people to talk to. My husband and I were both gifted kids and had some positive but some negative experiences skipping multiple grades and being quite different from peers.

about my son… he has spoken fluently in sentences and multiple languages since around one years old. he reads dozens of books a day, makes up very elaborate stories, and is very musically inclined. He plays drums, guitar making up original lyrics since about 1.5, piano, and virtually any instrument. He sets up DJ equipment and breakdances. He is very well coordinated and can play soccer with kids 4/5 years old and climb a climbing wall to the top with ropes etc. We didn’t push for any of these things — they just naturally happened.

Recently he paints a lot, does some math, and asks questions about things like how babies are made, where fire comes from, and larger life questions. He engages at almost adult depth in conversation and tells a lot of jokes.

because of this… he gets a LOT of attention. Every single time we walk out of the house since he was one people have been mesmerized and asking a lot of questions in public. i try to keep him humble, but he knows he gets a lot of special attention. He has deep eye contact and will engage every person he meets with a sparkly smiley intensity. He is VERY high energy and happy.

He cooks. He can use a kitchen aid mixer and eat sushi with chopsticks and is obsessed with food.

the list goes on… it is truly such a gift to be around this child, but I’m so scared. He tries to play with other kids, but it comes off as if he is relating to like 6-7 year olds and he is not even three. He usually plays with adults or does his own thing when other kids his age cant relate or with much older kids.

i don’t have any expectations for him. I am not a tiger mom… I am a blue collar girl. I just want to find others facing similar situations as sometimes I get overwhelmed and I feel alone trying to figure out how to best support him.

I dated someone for 6MO when I first did poly four years ago. During this time my husband and I decided to have our first child. At the time that relationship was ultra casual and that person was not really sure about open nor were we long term. We now have an amazing three year old. During this time, the guy became a close friend. We went to tea while I was pregnant. Some concerts and festivals with friends. Our friend groups merged. We ran into each other by random chance all over the place and respectfully kept our romantic distance, but made some fun memories. I got pregnant again and unfortunately had a second trimester miscarriage. He was very supportive after. He’s invited my husband to parties he throws, and spent a really nice day with my kid.

Anyways… finally after some discussions with my husband and the guy we have all decided it’s okay for us to romantically and sexually be together a little bit. I’m sure it won’t be often - we are very casual people living in different cities with different lifestyles. But I really care for this person and I’m glad that there is even a shot for him to fit into my life in any capacity after all these years. We usually just see each other at some festivals and night life events.

My main priority is preserving a core friendship in case our lifestyle paths change again, but I feel like this “unforced” approach that grew over years created something very sweet and special that I truly cherish.

Anyways… I just wanted to share a happy post…