u/lillylovesreddit

Baby is two months old— we began putting up some wallpaper for an accent wall, but it started peeling off and needs to be fixed. We got light sage paint for the other three walls and the bookshelves. We did acquire a gold metal crib when I was pregnant! I put the curtains on the other day. The room still needs painting though and to be set up.. and also, the current light fixture is a large fluorescent white garage hexagon light. We have a gold Sputnik chandelier, but my husband hasn’t gotten around to putting in yet and I’m growing weary of nagging him 😂

I can barely stay afloat on house cleaning right now (2.5 y/o and 2 month old), let alone projects. I managed to paint one of the two bookshelves.. but it still needs another coat. I decided to hire our old nanny (who does home projects and cleaning on the side) to paint the room and bookshelves. Since this is our last child, I want to romanticize the nursery as silly as that might sound.

How late is too late to get the nursery into somewhat desirable / usable shape? at what point is it no longer worth it? I’m just curious!

8 weeks postpartum with baby #2… I’ve been on a leave (unpaid) from my part-time corporate job (WFH 24-30 hrs a week: Tuesday/wednesday/thursday). My husband and I both are taking 12 weeks off.. so I have about 4 more weeks until I’ll be on my own with the two on Mondays and Fridays. My eldest is 2.5 y/o and like most two year olds, does not stop moving (won’t even sit to watch tv) and requiring nonstop effort/energy/cleanup.

Things should be pretty easy now considering we’re both not working. Plus, the toddler is in a Half day school daycare (it ends next week tho). However, I’m already beginning to get burnt out. My husband and I both have adhd too and executive function is not our strong suit. Our new baby is a Velcro baby that insists on being held all the time.. and I try to wear her and do things.. but she gets in the way or wants to peak her head out and I have to use my other hand to support her neck. Oh, and my back hurts after 10 min!

I have been struggling to stay on top of the dishes, laundry, and keep a tidy house. It feels like I have zero time for myself and I prioritize cleaning bottles over showering (obviously). When do I cave and outsource help? Do I hire a sitter or a cleaner? Or neither? Or what do I do? Are my systems just bad???

I feel guilty about the money aspect since I’m not working right now.. but I suppose it could be worth it for my mental health?? Idk?

I’m a little over 7 weeks postpartum and this is my second baby. I really wanted to give breastfeeding more of a try this time around. I’ve combo fed both times, but did a higher portion of breastmilk this time. My husband and I split the night shift as I’m someone who needs their sleep to function.

My main issue is the destruction of my nipples. She wears away layers of skin on my areola. I know she’s getting a deep enough latch, because the skin she’s taking off is further in… not the tip. No amount of lanolin or silverettes is able to keep up. She sucks so dang hard. She’s also very gassy and tugs a lot.

Due to the terrible nipple pain, I try to pump frequently. I’d say I only have one direct feed a day and then was pumping around 16 oz (slightly over half of her daily intake). Last week, I was tired and missed a pumping session in the early morning.. as well as 1 or 2 the prior day due to being engaged in other activities. I woke up with mastitis and felt so ill and ended up in the ER. That was almost a week ago and my antibiotics are just running out. I’ve been trying to strategically wean the last few days.. without letting myself become too engorged. I hate pumping. I hate washing pump parts. I hate leaking milk at night and becoming soaked. I hate not being able to go braless in cute summer tops. I hate being absolutely ravenous when I want to lose weight. But of course, I hate the nipple part the most. Plus, my supply isn’t even high enough to fully sustain her for a single meal.. so I don’t even get the convenience of washing less bottles!

I’ve gotten my daily 16 oz to around 8/9 oz daily. I’m starting to get sad and grieve this era. The connection part mainly. I can’t tell if it’s just the hormones? Do I see a lactation consultant or give it up already? I do return to week 3 days a week in a month from now. I don’t know what to do. I’m terrified of getting mastitis again also.