u/leaningtotravel

I never had anything like this to happen to me, but I can’t lie I feel very blindsided so someone please tell me whether I’m overreacting and I have no right to feel the way I do or if it’s as messed up as I think it is.

My (25F USA) ex (26F Middle East) and I were pretty much exclusive for years like over three years, we were long distance and things couldn’t line up for us to meet until January 2025 so that’s when we met for the first time and made it official as we wanted to ask each other in person. Unfortunately September 2025 our relationship ended. In October 2025 I reached out to her trying to start our relationship again, long story short she agreed to it but we didn’t want to make it official again until we reunited and asked each other in person then around last week of November things were ended for good.

We’ve been pretty much no contact ever since, with the holidays and her birthday I have reached out for those occasions but that’s pretty much it. I reached out to her for the first time in a while when everything started heating up in the middle east because yeah seeing places she’s surrounded by and places I visited for her on the news I had to reach out and make sure she’s okay.

Fast forward today we’re having one of our smaller convos just checking in (this won’t happen anymore), and one thing leads to another and she tells me that she started to see someone new. Of course moving on is inevitable and I couldn’t fault her for that, but then I learned she moved on with a friend I was familiar with we even talked about how her friend was also gay at one point and I made a comment about oh should I be worried and my now ex gf said her friend wasn’t her type. Her moving on yeah hurtful, but this has really done it to me I feel blindsided, but I can’t tell if it’s silly that I feel blindsided. We broke up in September and she doesn’t count us trying again from October-November, and she said her and her friend/situationship(?) started being more than friends in January 2026.

Again I just feel numb and all I can hear is us talking about this friend and my ex telling me she wasn’t her type to now this. 🥲 Healing process back to square 1.

I never had anything like this to happen to me, but I can’t lie I feel very blindsided so someone please tell me whether I’m overreacting and I have no right to feel the way I do or if it’s as messed up as I think it is.

My (25F USA) ex (26F Middle East) and I were pretty much exclusive for years like over three years, we were long distance and things couldn’t line up for us to meet until January 2025 so that’s when we met for the first time and made it official as we wanted to ask each other in person. Unfortunately September 2025 our relationship ended. In October 2025 I reached out to her trying to start our relationship again, long story short she agreed to it but we didn’t want to make it official again until we reunited and asked each other in person then around last week of November things were ended for good.

We’ve been pretty much no contact ever since, with the holidays and her birthday I have reached out for those occasions but that’s pretty much it. I reached out to her for the first time in a while when everything started heating up in the middle east because yeah seeing places she’s surrounded by and places I visited for her on the news I had to reach out and make sure she’s okay.

Fast forward today we’re having one of our smaller convos just checking in (this won’t happen anymore), and one thing leads to another and she tells me that she started to see someone new. Of course moving on is inevitable and I couldn’t fault her for that, but then I learned she moved on with a friend I was familiar with we even talked about how her friend was also gay at one point and I made a comment about oh should I be worried and my now ex gf said her friend wasn’t her type. Her moving on yeah hurtful, but this has really done it to me I feel blindsided, but I can’t tell if it’s silly that I feel blindsided. We broke up in September in her mind and she doesn’t count us trying again from October-November, and she said her and her friend/situationship(?) started being more than friends in January 2026.

Again I just feel numb and all I can hear is us talking about this friend and my ex telling me she wasn’t her type to now this. 🥲 Healing process back to square 1.