u/jamietheintrovert

I’ve been no-contact with my dad for about 20 years because he was not a good father to me or a good husband to my mom. He recently started adding my in-laws on social media, which made me very uncomfortable.

My MIL actually asked me who he was, and I told her he is my father. She is aware of my history with him.

My husband explained the situation to her AGAIN. Instead of respecting that, she responded with “people can change” and dismissed my concerns.

She then accepted his friend request anyway and informed me afterward through text message.

What bothers me most is that she knew my boundary and chose to ignore it. This is also a pattern. My husband says she has dismissed his feelings like this his whole life.

Because of this, I blocked my in-laws on social media. I felt disrespected and don’t want my dad to have any indirect access to my life through them.