u/hungry_chipmunk2003

So, as the title says really. I’m not very scared of flying, but really dislike turbulence.

I first flew when I was 16, on a dash-8 Flybe propeller plane. Short flight from Birmingham, UK to Jersey, Channel Islands. I remember there was turbulence, which I didn’t like. However, I wasn’t particularly that bothered then. Nothing scared me about the flight. Loved the take off and landing.

I didn’t fly for a long time after that. Then in 2023, I flew from Manchester to fuertaventura. This was my first time flying in a jet (737-800)

I was fine, right until takeoff. Needless to say, propeller planes take off a lot more gradual, and it isn’t as powerful. Whereas, the jet is way more powerful.

I didn’t expect it to be. The engines went full power, and I instantly become overwhelmed. The sound was so much more fierce during takeoff, and I felt the g force a lot. Like being held back in my seat. It was way stronger.

I disliked it greatly, and was scared of that. Spent my whole holiday terrified to fly alone.

Then I flew to Ireland to visit family in late 2023. Flying there, the same problem with take off. Hated it greatly. On a 737-8200 (Max 8).

Only take off the was the problem.

Then, on the way back I flew alone. As a relative who lives in Japan came to support my cousin, so I could leave. I flew on an Aer Lingus Atr 72 returning. No problems whatsoever. Landing was rocking (crosswinds), as it was very bad conditions in the UK then.

Fast forward to 2025, I flew to Girona with a ‘friend’. On takeoff, I was prepared for the awful engine power (737-Max), but I kept my eyes open this time. I was absolutely fine, and actually though wtf was I scared of lol. Uneventful and good flight.

My friend ditched me in Spain (for her 1 week new bf lmao. Ik awful, when I paid for her lol), meaning I had to fly back alone.

Takeoff I was fine, but then all hell (for me anyway) struck. It was extremely bad turbulence the whole flight. Never had it before. The plane dropped, and I felt my body raise. It was awful. Throughout the entire return. I burst into tears, as I was so overwhelmed and hated the feeling. Then a couple let me sit with them, as I was alone with a row to myself. They were so kind and caring and helped me lots. I was not scared though.

So that’s what I don’t get. I’m not scared, but it’s the feel of turbulence that I really hate. I go into some kind of sensory overdrive. It really distresses me, and I just generally really dislike it.

Is there any ways to overcome this. As per my detailed flying experience, I’ve overcome all problems I have with flying. However, it’s just turbulence. I get anxious talking about it. It makes me anxious to fly after my Girona experience. It really has made me feel uneasy. I really want to do a solo trip (I’m an introvert and lost my only friend who is flexible to travel). All my other friends work, and my best friend always makes excuses (when really she just doesn’t want to leave her boyfriend for a long time). So, solo is my only option really. Any suggestions please? 😖 on how to overcome combatting the intense dislike of turbulence.

As said, I’m not scared of it per se. I know all about planes, and know it’s normal (clear air, mountains, wake, wind, etc). However, I’m more scared of the feeling. Sorry if I’m repeating myself. I ramble on, and type more than I intend 😂

Thank you guys. I look forward to any advice and tips. I do love planes, so want to really enjoy flying. All about it. ✈️ ❤️

Hi all. I am 22, and left high school early due to extreme bullying, lots of personal problems outside of school, and going into the care system. Since then I’ve struggled with complex PTSD.

Despite all of this, I still pushed through and got my GCSE mathematics, and level 2 English. I then did an Access to HE nursing course.

What is the best route for me to go into medicine? Would it be GAM, or is there another route that may suit me more?

I’m really passionate about becoming a doctor; however, I just don’t know which path to choose.

Thank you, and I look forward to everyone’s suggestions. Take care :)

From late primary school to when I dropped out of secondary school, I was relentlessly bullied. I was the weird kid. I was poorly at keeping myself clean (lots of personal factors related to this), and I was visibly homosexual. Which I hid, yet people were still very much making homophobic comments.

During last years of primary school, up through high school, that’s when bullying really consumed me. I lost my personality. I made awful lies to get sympathy from others (which I still feel awful for until this day), turned into a horrible person, wasn’t my usual bubbly self. Took it out on my family. … even now, I still have problems.

I still am not the person who I once was, nor the person I wanted to become. I have no personality. I often force a personality, to mask what I’ve become.

One thing that I’ve kept, is that I do care about others and want to help others. Which is why I’m going for a career in healthcare. Something I always wanted. However, other than that, I lost a lot about me.

I struggle to make new long lasting friends, as I don’t know how to act in social situations. I also struggle to trust people. I refrain from having a partner, due to trust issues, and even not trusting myself.

I lost faith in myself, in many areas of life.

I have very bad depression, PTSD (also brought on by stuff outside of school) and anxiety. I also got diagnosed with personality disorder.

I don’t wish bad on anybody, but those who bullied me, I wish hell on. They ruined who I am, and now moved on not giving a shit about the stuff that they did. Some even made me seem like the bad person. Sure, I turned into a bad person; however, they turned me into a bad person. Luckily, I’m not a bad person anymore. However, I am still broken. I am still unhealed, and will have to endure going through lots of treatments in order to just be myself again.

It’s so unfair, and I wish more consequences existed for bullies. They ruined my mental health. They ruined my education (which I’ve battled on with education, but still having to take a long path to my ultimate goal- doctor). They ruined my social skills.

I feel as though I was robbed my childhood, by these relentless and sick bullies. I already suffered lots outside of school, which them bullies didn’t know about. They took me, an already damaged person, and broke me even more.

Even those who weren’t bullies such, still weren’t nice to me. They viewed me as a weirdo, and bad kid. When actually, if some people were just kind and loyal, then I wouldn’t have become so damaged. If it were just a couple of bullies, then I’d of been able to ignore- if I had some friends.

However, no. I just had bullies, Fake friends, and people who teased.

It made me lose faith in humanity. However, I am still determined to do well. To succeed.

I don’t want to let them win.

However, they will never be forgiven, as even when I was rock bottom (attempted S, etc), they laughed at me and put me down.

That is unforgivable.

So there’s these posts constantly on my feed, where people try to prank by saying David Attenborough has passed, then something that isn’t death.

Rubbish example, but like: David Attenborough has passed today at 99. Then it’ll say something like, he passed a nice teapot around or something.

I have good sense of humour, and even dark humour. However, I think making jokes about someone like this, is unclassy and vile.

People are basically waiting for him to die, to make these jokes until then. Then he dies, people won’t believe it, and think it’s a silly prank.

These jokes are like my biggest pet peeve atm.

So, I’ve only flew on 3 airlines- Ryanair, Aer Lingus, and Flybe ( I’m from UK).

I hear so many talking bad about Ryanair. However, I’ve not experienced anything bad with them, and flew them lots. On short haul, and medium haul (5hours).

People complain about the landings lots. Only once, have I had a hard landing with Ryanair. That was due to the runway being very short. With short runways, you’re going to have to land firmer, to ensure safety and maximise braking efficiency.

Also, the crew have always been great. I’m quite a nervous flyer, and on my most recent flight with them (Girona to EMA, last year), the crew really supported me when we hit a patch of rough turbulence. It was all a very young crew (probably 19-22 years old), but they all seemed so experienced, and professional. Couldn’t fault them at all.

The only problem I ever had with Ryanair, was some rowdy passengers, but they weren’t the worst. The cabin crew handled them well.

Also, I’ve never had a late flight with Ryanair. They’ve always been so quick. Quick boarding, quick departure… even arriving at destinations early.

Overall, I really do enjoy Ryanair. Great airline!!

I’d say that they’re better than Aer Lingus, and (no longer existing) Flybe.

So, I got diagnosed with PTSD-C the other week, after a long battle trying to get seen (nhs mental health system is in shambles. Took a legal claim to actually get seen).

Anyway, the consultant also diagnosed me with ‘personality disorder traits- caused by trauma’.

I’ve been researching personality disorders, and always thought it was genetic. I’m wrong.

What worries me, is that it supposedly cannot be cured. It can be managed, but not fully cured.

Which saddens me.

I wish I never went through what I did throughout my childhood, and wish I could’ve gone on to live another life. However, it’s very hard.

My psychiatrist also advised me to not work, or anything, yet. Which is awful, as I want to be a paramedic so bad. I just want to move on, and overcome this.

I’m determined, but at the same time, I’m rather hopeless.

I really hope that I can become happy. Live a fulfilling life, have a wonderful partner, etc. It’s all I want.

Sorry if this is all over the place, I’m brain storming my anxieties, and worries on to this post. Almost a vent.

I always got picked on for the way that I walk. For instance, when I walk down stairs, my whole body goes backwards. Almost like it’s keeping my balance.

I tend to stomp also, and land my feet firmly. Often causing me to get burning pain in my shins. feeling very tight.

When I run, my body goes really low to the floor, and I’ve fell many times during my teenage years, due to this.

I always got asked about my lack of swinging arms whilst walking also. Also, I’ve been told that ‘ I walk like I’ve got a pole shoved up my arse’, etc. I also cannot walk straight, and my feet go outwards then inwards, as I walk.

I’m wondering if this is linked to autism. Does anyone else experience any of this?

I’m very self conscious of my posture, and walk- due to how people speak about it, and spoken about it since I was little. I’ve even had teachers laugh at me, due to my posture, etc.

(Marked as travelling issues, as was unsure what category to put this under). I guess it’s partially travelling issues lol, but not as a whole.

I am not Muslim or ex Muslim. I am some British guy who has Islamophobia. Meaning, I’m actually terrified of Islam.

It’s a question that plays up on my mind often. Muslims taking over west, etc. I’m in the UK, and see Muslims in burkas on every corner in my neighbourhood now.

It terrifies me that so many are coming to the UK. Also, how high Islam birth rate is. It makes me think that Islam will certainly take over.

It scares me as a gay non Muslim.

I’m terrified I’ll be murdered. Is this a valid fear, or overthinking?

Sorry if the question seems ignorant, or anything. It’s just a genuine worry I have regarding Islam.

I say this as someone with a little cousin, who faces no consequences. He is spoilt, gets what he wants, doesn’t get punished at all.

And the mum… thinks he’s perfect and does nothing wrong. Which is the complete opposite.

He messages me 30 times a hour asking to play Roblox. Despite me saying I’m busy. He messages when I say I’m eating. ‘Can you play now’. Are you ready. When can you play. Non stop.

I tell his mum. What does she do? Nothing.

‘What can I do. He’s a child. He’s doing what children do’.

Nope. He should face consequences for his actions. He should be told to lay off messaging so much. Ask, and if they’re busy and say they’ll message when free. Wait until they message.

If he carries on, warn him he’ll face consequences. Then implement consequences.

He is spoilt. He gets angry if he doesn’t get what he wants at mine, or his nanas. As his mum gives him all he wants. He has her debit card. Has energy drinks. Doesn’t go school, and is ‘home schooled’. However, doesn’t do anything. As he has no discipline.

These parents aren’t good. Their kids will end up down a bad road, doing what they want to get their wishes met. By any means. They end up spoilt, and lost in life.

You’ve got to be strict. Cruel to be kind. Tough love. All of these.

You are shaping who they are. You don’t want a soft parent, who puts no discipline. As these children don’t at all see right from wrong.

Parents need to teach this. If you aren’t doing this, in my opinion, you aren’t a good parent. 🤷‍♂️ some have disagreed, but I stand firmly with this opinion.

So yeah. All people should have to verify identity, and do facial recognition, in order to have an account. Even proof of address.

This will limit bot accounts, I reckon. Probably not fully, but would hopefully limit it. It’ll ensure people who post threats, racism, homophobic comments, etc., are traced easier and punished for their actions. As many feel that they’re invincible online, so troll people, harass people (especially those who have disabilities, are gay, etc. See it so much more with certain groups- not saying it’s just them groups of course).

If people are participating in pedophilia, posting fights, stabbings, etc., then they can be tracked earlier and arrested quickly.

I really think this would be a good idea. Many wouldn’t like it, but with some of the crap that happens online, I think it would be great.

Will make people face the music for their actions online. As they’ve not invincible.

[England] Hi everyone. . So basically I was victim of a very severe crime in 2022. For this, I was awarded £1000 in compensation. To which I feel that is not a fair award, and that the assessor overlooked all of the problems I’ve suffered, and still am suffering, as a result of this crime.

I wanted to appeal a while back, but did not. I won’t go into too much detail, but I have been very unwell since the claim. I’ve been in and out of hospital, attempted suicide, had crisis team input from NHS, and have now had a psychiatric evaluation that has diagnosed me with severe depression, anxiety, and ‘trauma-related’ personality disorder traits. I’ve now been referred to psychology services for ‘long term’ psychological treatments. I am more mentally capable now, as I am on medication which helps. Not mentally well at all, but am in a position where I can appeal.

I have evidence of all the problems I’ve had, which have made it very hard to appeal my Cica claim, for many reasons.

If I request an appeal, with the evidence, would I be entitled to a review by the CICA?

I want to give all of the medical evidence also, to help them with their decision. As they’ve overlooked a lot of physical, and psychological problems.

If anyone has any advice, then please do share. Thank you so much.