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During my late teens, I liked this guy a lot. And when I say a lot, I really mean it. I was always a pretty introverted person, but around him I felt different more talkative, childish, comfortable, and genuinely happy. We talked for around 1.5 years, and eventually I gathered the courage to tell him I liked him. He left me on read. After a while I couldn’t take the silence anymore, so I asked him to just be honest instead of ignoring me. He replied saying he really liked me as a person,the way I motivated him, the way I talked to him, and how I was with him overall. But then he said he wasn’t ready for commitment and also added, “Why does every girl I talk to end up liking me and proposing to me?”

That honestly hurt a lot. For my own peace, I stopped talking to him after that. But I genuinely liked him, and I think the whole thing affected the way I look at people now. Whenever someone approaches me romantically, I subconsciously compare them to him. Last month, after years of holding on, I finally blocked him on social media because I just couldn’t keep checking or hoping anymore. But if I’m being honest, a part of me still hopes he randomly texts me someday even though he never once did.

What hurts more is that during one of the worst phases of my life, he never checked up on me. Not even once, not even as a friend, even though he knew what I was going through. And I think that’s the part I struggle to understand the most, why do some people avoid committing to people who genuinely care about them and love them sincerely?

24F, 63kg powerlifter here. I’ve been going gym for about 18 months and training for around a year now and I pull conventional deadlift. I tried switching to sumo for a while, but it felt really awkward for me and I also noticed I leak urine a lot more during heavy sumo pulls and it felt little off , so I went back to conventional.

My conventional deadlift has been stuck at 145kg for about 5-6 months ]now and it feels like no matter what I do, it just won’t progress. My squat and bench are increasing at a normal rate, so it’s mainly my deadlift that’s lagging behind.

One more issue I keep running into: whenever I attempt a PR, the bar comes slightly off the floor but then my lower back just completely gives up and I have to drop it. My grip is actually fine, so that’s not the limiting factor it’s really my lower back strength that fails first. I also deal with a lot of lower back fatigue and pain after deadlift sessions in general, which makes me think something is off.

Now I’m confused whether:

my technique off the floor is wrong

my lower back is just very weak/endurance-limited

my programming is off

or maybe conventional just isn’t a good fit for me long-term

Has anyone dealt with a similar deadlift plateau where the bar moves but the back just gives out mid-lift? Also curious if other female lifters noticed sumo making the leakage issue worse.

Would really appreciate any advice because deadlift has become the most frustrating lift for me right now.

24F, 63kg powerlifter here. I’ve been going gym for about 18 months adn training for around a year now and I pull conventional deadlift. I tried switching to sumo for a while, but it felt really awkward for me and I also noticed I leak urine a lot more during heavy sumo pulls and it felt little off , so I went back to conventional.

My conventional deadlift has been stuck at 145kg for about 5-6 months ]now and it feels like no matter what I do, it just won’t progress. My squat and bench are increasing at a normal rate, so it’s mainly my deadlift that’s lagging behind.

One more issue I keep running into: whenever I attempt a PR, the bar comes slightly off the floor but then my lower back just completely gives up and I have to drop it. My grip is actually fine, so that’s not the limiting factor it’s really my lower back strength that fails first. I also deal with a lot of lower back fatigue and pain after deadlift sessions in general, which makes me think something is off.

Now I’m confused whether:

my technique off the floor is wrong

my lower back is just very weak/endurance-limited

my programming is off

or maybe conventional just isn’t a good fit for me long-term

Has anyone dealt with a similar deadlift plateau where the bar moves but the back just gives out mid-lift? Also curious if other female lifters noticed sumo making the leakage issue worse.

Would really appreciate any advice because deadlift has become the most frustrating lift for me right now.

24F, 63kg powerlifter here. I’ve been going gym for about 18 months adn training for around a year now and I pull conventional deadlift. I tried switching to sumo for a while, but it felt really awkward for me and I also noticed I leak urine a lot more during heavy sumo pulls and it felt little off , so I went back to conventional.

My conventional deadlift has been stuck at 145kg for about 5-6 months ]now and it feels like no matter what I do, it just won’t progress. My squat and bench are increasing at a normal rate, so it’s mainly my deadlift that’s lagging behind.

One more issue I keep running into: whenever I attempt a PR, the bar comes slightly off the floor but then my lower back just completely gives up and I have to drop it. My grip is actually fine, so that’s not the limiting factor it’s really my lower back strength that fails first. I also deal with a lot of lower back fatigue andpain after deadlift sessions in general, which makes me think something is off.

Now I’m confused whether:

my technique off the floor is wrong

my lower back is just very weak/endurance-limited

my programming is off

or maybe conventional just isn’t a good fit for me long-term

Has anyone dealt with a similar deadlift plateau where the bar moves but the back just gives out mid-lift? Also curious if other female lifters noticed sumo making the leakage issue worse.

Would really appreciate any advice because deadlift has become the most frustrating lift for me right now.

So I’m kind of confused about a situation and wanted some honest opinions.

There’s this guy I used to really admire a few years back not exactly a crush, just thought he was a really kind and decent person. At that time, he was dating one of my friends, but they broke up like 4–5 years ago. I’m not even really close with that friend anymore. Recently, I have started bumping into him pretty often because we work in the same building. We usually just say hi, nothing big. I’m quite introverted so I don’t normally initiate much, but these small interactions have become more regular now and we are liking each other's company and I feel like there might be some mutual interest building up.

The confusing part is I know their breakup wasn’t great (at least from what I’ve heard). So, part of me feels like I shouldn’t even go there because he is my friend's ex, but another part feels like it’s been years, we’re not close anymore, and he genuinely seems like a good guy. Now I’m stuck between keeping distance or just letting things naturally happen and seeing where it goes.

What would you do in this situation?

I’m in my mid 20s and I’m starting to realize I might have never had real friends just people I tried really hard to keep in my life.

I was always the one reaching out first, remembering birthdays, checking in, making plans. But the moment I stopped, everything stopped. No one came looking for me. Recently, I opened an old chat with someone I used to call my “best friend” and it honestly hurt. It was just me trying to keep the connection alive. Even when I shared something important, she barely cared. I even used to remind her about my own birthday every year.

And now it’s affecting how I see relationships too. I feel like I’m never someone’s first choice. A “close friend” once told me a guy dated me only because she wasn’t interested in him. Ever since then, I can’t shake the feeling that if someone approaches me, it’s only because I’m the available option. I’ve also had moments where I felt completely invisible like planning something special for a friend before she moved abroad, only to find out through Instagram that she had already left without telling me.

Even when I went through one of the biggest losses in my life, no one checked in. But somehow, I still can’t hate them. I still remember their birthdays. I still wish them. I just don’t know if this is normal or if I’ve been doing friendships wrong my whole life.

Has anyone else felt like this?

I’m a 27F and I’ve never had a proper relationship. I’ve had a few talking stages and one situationship, but nothing serious or long-term.

Now my parents are being quite open about love marriage and have given me a timeline: if I find someone by 28, they won’t pressure me to marry early. But if I don’t, they’ll start looking for arranged matches. Because of that, i have been trying to seriously find something long term, especially since arranged marriage honestly feels scary these days.

I am adventurous, into the gym, financially independent, and a bit more mature than most people my age. I wouldn’t call myself “pretty,” but I think I’m decent looking. I like nature, animals, traveling, and I’m quite family oriented.

The frustrating part is that most guys, even slightly older ones, seem to prioritize looks above everything. Even if they themselves are adventurous, they go for extremely pretty girls who don’t even share those interests. It just makes me question myself — is it my looks, my maturity, or even my body type that’s putting people off?

Also, where are people even finding someone to date seriously in Nepal, especially in Kathmandu? Every friends of mine are either school love birds or find someone in college or workspace but no one just showed interest in me in any phase of my life so I also didn't take this matter seriously back then but now I regret.

And how is the arranged marriage scene these days? People also say it’s hit or miss and sometimes feels forced or rushed.

And what guys are seeking for a long term relations these days?

At this point, I’m honestly just tired of trying. I’m seriously considering giving up and telling my parents to start looking instead.

I’ve been lifting for a while and recently got more into powerlifting, so I wanted to understand how the scene in Nepal actually is.

From outside it looks like it’s growing more gyms talking about it, some competitions here and there, and more people getting into strength training. But I’m not really sure how real that growth is in terms of quality.

Like:

Are there easily available powerlifting gyms in Nepal or is it mostly normal gyms with racks and people calling it powerlifting? What is the range of fees for the powerlifting gym here.

How is coaching here? Do we have structured coaches with proper programming or is it mostly self-taught? How much does coaches charge for the program?

How legit are the competitions in terms of judging and standards?

How is the overall powerlifting community here? People do actually support each other or just get jealous only?

And honestly, how common is enhanced vs natural in the local scene?

How is the competition among female lifters here?

Just trying to get a realistic picture of how things actually are, not just the social media side of it.

What actually Nepali men see in girl for a date?
And please don’t give me honest, adventurous, man ko safa, without makeup , when she is herself wala answer. Because I know a lot of my guy friends jasley yei vanthyo but at the end they just end up choosing the prettiest in the room who literally doesn’t matches usko previously said descriptions haru k ?
People here date not for aafno laagi but aafno sathi circle maa herr tero bhauju vanda sabailey aha kati ramri vanos vanney hisab ley. I have also seen guys who like talk to girls share really personal things ani say like i like talking to you, I like how you listen to me, I like you blah blah and last maa euta line taldinxan “ please don’t tell saathi haru lai we talk vanera la “ . Like seriously guys.

I don’t why all the boys say that i give them bro vibes. Every guy i talk to or like is like they feel like either i am their sister or bro . It’s not that i not feminine. I dress decent when there is occasion and i have a little chubby body . I work out, i love going out hiking/ trekking. But I don’t know what’s its like but no guy just seem to like me in a romantic way its just they just think me like one of their guys. I mean its cool to some extent but now i am getting frustrated. I need genuine advice from men like what you actually like in a woman romantically.
ImNot trying to drag anyone but guys seems to like girls who are small and have pretty faces that means if I don’t seem small or have a pretty face , i jusg cannot have a romantic relation.