Everyone's been posting, I assume, mother tongue English color wheels but I wanna see some other languages' color wheels. Russian would be cool because they have two different words for blue голубо́й (sky blue) and си́ний (mid to dark blue). It's similar to English's pink and red situation.
Kindergarten graduation is in 10ish days and my son didn't get one single invite to a classmate's birthday party all year. I know that it's his fault, no one wants to invite the autistic know-it-all who has meltdowns and pees/poops his pants once every other week, but it still hurts. This isn't what I wanted for him.
He turns on his friends at the slightest provocation. He cries and whines when he doesn't get his way. He even bit another child when he thought the child was threatening him. But he was telling me today about three new friends who all formed a club, turns out they are imaginary friends.
Since he has a birthday really close to Christmas, I have wanted to let him have a summer send off party to sort of make up for it. But I don't really want to. What if no one shows up?
I've tried hard. I really have. He was in intensive ABA therapy for over a year and if our pediatrician hadn't died, we would have him in some sort of play therapy by now, but there's not a single pediatrician who takes our insurance in a *50 mile radius.*
I want to overcompensate. I want to throw a lavish summer send off in hopes that it will earn him some friends. I spent so much money on his birthday so he could have his party at Chuck E cheese and invite a couple of friends. And I checked with him, he says he's not friends with either of the kids that came then. Back in January and February, he was so awful and getting removed from the classroom multiple times a week that I went and put together goodibags to give out for Valentine's Day. And when I tried posting about it, not here, hoping that maybe another parent of a ND kid understood.... well it didn't end up that way.
Maybe I'm ultimately sad for myself. I remember how terribly lonely I was in high school. How I would hide in the bathroom in the mornings, how I ate lunch in the library because I had no where to sit in the cafeteria, but what's wrong with wanting to prevent my child from experiencing that kind of pain?
I just wish things were different.
And it's all stuff that I bring on myself. I'm sleeping badly and my husband said that he heard me stop breathing a few times last night in my sleep so I might have sleep apnea. Because that's just something women get in their late 20s I guess.
I keep scheduling things and saying yes like it's all happening to someone else. Whole events are passing me by like they are days. My family is asleep and it seems like they've been asleep for hours. I'm so tired. I need therapy. I'm getting more anxious than I have in years. The world is falling apart and it feels like it's happening to someone else.
I've never recognized myself in the mirror, like, I've always known it was me but it doesn't feel like it's me. And now it feels worse.
He launches between me and my chair, trying to kick me off. If I use my superior strength and remove him? He cries. If I sit somewhere else, he laughs at me like he won something.
It's hard to track how his language is progressing because he wants to pretend to be a dinosaur all the time.
I had been reading about ADHD and mirroring which is when people with ADHD do tasks better when they have someone physically there with them. My son is autistic and has ADHD.
Brushing his teeth has been a nightmare. I don't even brush his teeth in the morning because I can't do that fight twice a day. Even if my husband does the nighttime brushing, I would still hear the fighting. My son just hates brushing his teeth. He's already had one cavity.
Usually, I do my nighttime routine after the kids have gone to bed. But this past weekend, I decided to try out mirroring on my son with brushing teeth. I invited him into my bathroom and showed him all of my skincare stuff. I let him use one of my cotton pads and he washed his face with micellar water (though I think I'm going to have him switch to just plain water) then he put some lotion on his face. This was all while I was doing my skin care routine. Then we brushed our teeth together. And he didn't even fight! He never complained! I decided to push my luck and flossed. We haven't even tried flossing with him. And he flossed his own teeth with me (we use those floss picks). It was insanity. I never thought we would get here.
I bought him some aloe vera gel to replace the lotion (that's the most kid skin safe stuff I could think of) and we've been doing our skincare and dental care every night together. He won't go to bed unless we've done it. He's never been the "needs a routine" kind of autistic. No amount of routine would make things easier in the past. Now we will retry everything and see.
A few nights ago, he said "it's great how we are taking care of ourselves." Guys, my heart! Maybe I got something right this one time.
I had been reading about ADHD and mirroring which is when people with ADHD do tasks better when they have someone physically there with them. My son is autistic and has ADHD.
Brushing his teeth has been a nightmare. I don't even brush his teeth in the morning because I can't do that fight twice a day. Even if my husband does the nighttime brushing, I would still hear the fighting. My son just hates brushing his teeth. He's already had one cavity.
Usually, I do my nighttime routine after the kids have gone to bed. But this past weekend, I decided to try out mirroring on my son with brushing teeth. I invited him into my bathroom and showed him all of my skincare stuff. I let him use one of my cotton pads and he washed his face with micellar water (though I think I'm going to have him switch to just plain water) then he put some lotion on his face. This was all while I was doing my skin care routine. Then we brushed our teeth together. And he didn't even fight! He never complained! I decided to push my luck and flossed. We haven't even tried flossing with him. And he flossed his own teeth with me (we use those floss picks). It was insanity. I never thought we would get here.
I bought him some aloe vera gel to replace the lotion (that's the most kid skin safe stuff I could think of) and we've been doing our skincare and dental care every night together. He won't go to bed unless we've done it. A few nights ago, he said "it's great how we are taking care of ourselves." Guys, my heart! Maybe I got something right this one time.