u/extraextraextr

You can be forever alone and kind.

I was terrified for a date I had today, but after posting on the toastme subreddit I got a huge confidence boost and traveled an hour...only to get canceled on at the last second. I mention this because I've haven't felt this FA in a long time.

And yet...I've managed to get along great with my Lyft drivers, the baristas at the cafe I visited, the staff at the movie I went to, and now the hotel I checked into, having a great conversation with the lady checking me in.

Two truths can coexist: I'm devastated and in a lot of pain and I feel so unloved, *and* I want to be warm and friendly to those around me, because they deserve kindness and care just as much as we do.

I know I'm preaching, but some people on here spread so much corrosion and anger. And they deserve better...as do the people around them.

Here's to hoping we can endure the pain, find great people in our lives, and end this loneliness without losing ourselves.

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u/extraextraextr — 4 days ago
▲ 42 r/lonely

You can be lonely and kind.

I was terrified for a date I had today, but after posting on the toastme subreddit I got a huge confidence boost and traveled an hour...only to get canceled on at the last second. I mention this because I've haven't felt this lonely in a long time.

And yet...I've managed to get along great with my Lyft drivers, the baristas at the cafe I visited, the staff at the movie I went to, and now the hotel I checked into, having a great conversation with the lady checking me in.

Two truths can coexist: I'm devastated and in a lot of pain and I feel so unloved, *and* I want to be warm and friendly to those around me, because they deserve kindness and care just as much as we do.

I know I'm preaching, but some people on here spread so much corrosion and anger. And they deserve better...as do the people around them.

Here's to hoping we can endure the pain, find great people in our lives, and end this loneliness without losing ourselves.

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u/extraextraextr — 4 days ago
▲ 607 r/toastme

Going on a really meaningful date tomorrow but I'm terrified she'll flee the moment she sees how big I am. Some support would be appreciated. (30M)

I'm including what I consider realistic photos since I don't have good angles or lighting to hide behind in person. The last one is best-case, and even then...I feel so profoundly disgusting. Anything would help, I'm right on the edge of bailing tomorrow.

For what it's worth, she has seen a few photos of me and hasn't ran, but the only full-body shot has been the last one.

u/extraextraextr — 5 days ago