u/dus_istrue

i have bought sex toys, but I usually don't use them because they don't actually give me any pleasure. When I've tried to use them it's felt way more unpleasant and uncomfortable than pleasurable.

I bought a big (reallly big) purple dildo, and just no. I like sucking on it, sort of, but it tastes weird. I have bought a pocket pussy, which just doesn't feel good at all(I don't think I'm into P in V). I have also tried sucking/licking it, which feels better. I have also tried anal plugs, they're fine, but also hurt or just doesn't do enough for me.

I want to feel good maaan... but my attempts have resulted in failure, I haven't even gotten the bonus objectives. Obviously I can force myself to finish, but that just doesn't feel good except for like the one millisecond.

I've thought about trying some sort of vibrator, but idk. Just, any wisdom in any way is welcome.

P.S: I marked this post as 18+ and sex talk, and I read the rules. But maybe I'm sharing too much detail. I don't personally care about sharing this stuff with the world, but I don't want to sow discomfort here.

Also, I'm a virgin, idk if that matters here.

Hi, I have a friend who's aroace. I really care and even have love for him, which is kinda difficult for me to fully understand, because I struggle to love anyone. Or maybe I just dont fully know what it means because it doesn't have a "true definition".

Anyways, we've both told each other that we care and have love for each other, in the context of how he and I described what love may be that specific day.

To get to the point. I feel safe with him in my life, and I want him to feel safe with me in his life. I dont want a romantic or intimate relationship with him. I have had casual romantic thoughts, but I've let them fade away (allo andy behaviour). Ehm, Im wondering if long term relationships with aroace people *can* become more like a long term platonic partnership? I say "can" because obviously all aroace and a-spec people are individuals with their own values and desires. But I'm just wondering how a partnership like that might look like.

I dont know what our friendship will turn into. I would be okay if it stayed how it is now, I really appreciate how it is now actually. But I would also like it if it grew even more. :3

edit: what is QPR?