u/dromojudeth

I feel I’m getting a late start but here I am.
Mid 30s, stable job, over 30k in a high yield savings account, 10k in a 401 k, and no credit card debt. The only thing I have hanging over my head is a $7,000 student loan.
Should I bother trying to pay that off quickly now that I have some money in the bank?
I have no mortgage or car payment, no cc debt, or any other debt just the student loan. I don’t want to let off the gas with my savings. Will it really come back to bite me that bad if I don’t pay it? What’s the best strategy if I do pay it off?

I noticed when I’ve been going for more curled barrel-y waves I get tossed off and it feels like the board isn’t fitting in the wave but can’t really tell without video. I’m very comfy surfing with this 7’6 fun shape but it isn’t working out for me when the waves start to curl. I have a 5’11 Dwart that I never take out because I’m not sure what to on it once I’m on the wave. I surfed with it once in CA and went flying on this wave, it was super fast which was fun but I was kinda lost once I was up and riding on it. Like can I just cruise down the face on a board that short or do I have to start doing turns, which I’m not that adept at yet?

The waves where I live are usually kind of shit so when it’s decent, I never want to waste time with a board I’m not comfortable on yet.

Engaged at 35 years old. We’ve been together for 1 y, 10 months. He has been married and divorced. I have not, but have been in many relationships, long and short.
Since the engagement I’ve been feeling like incompatibilities are magnified. I can’t escape it. Before the engagement there was so much hope spinning around in the air, but now the reality is sinking in.

I could list the reasons I feel we’re not compatible but they are honestly more surface level things. I really don’t like some of the music he listens to for instance. He’s a collector of things, I’m more of of a minimalists We get along really well and I feel like he’s my best friend, and I know he would do anything for me.

Another other thing that has been on my mind is that I feel like I’m filling in someone else’s place - he is divorced and lives in the same “marital” house he purchased with his ex wife, next to his old job where he worked with her, and it just feels like he’s stuck in that old life and wants me to fill in that place. He really thinks I should move into that house, but I simply don’t like the house - it hasn’t been kept up, feels cramped and is in a far corner of the city (I’m central with my own place that I like)

Has anyone had doubts start to creep in hardcore after getting engaged?
How did it shake out? Did you end up getting married and living happily, or did you break it off and how did that go? Has anyone felt like they were somewhat incompatible but made it work?
Or felt like they were stepping into someone else’s old life?