how do i make him rethink his choices
**TL;DR;** : situationship made his decision to cut things off due to what i said, how do i make him rethink his choices?
hi guys. quite a bit of a backstory as quite a lot happened in a short period of time. i (23F) have a friend (25M) whom i've known for quite some time now (about 3 years through another friend (24F)) but the 3 of us have been hanging out more often since he just recently got out of a long relationship (6 years). we got close by hanging out often after work, sending each other instagram reels and tiktok videos.
a week ago (last tuesday) he came over to my place to drink and have dinner, and this was the first time we hung out just one on one. a bit of talking and flirting, and one thing led to another where ended up hooking up (having sex). yes we had been drinking alcohol too so no real conversation was had before besides the fact that this had to be casual. the next day he texted asking if i regretted it and i said no and he felt the same. we didn't text more or anything but the same week friday, we hung out one on one for the second time and ended the day hooking up again. that friday night and going onto saturday, i had already been feeling some emotions as i knew i was getting my period soon (yes you can say im using feeling emotional during my period as a cop out reasoning), but i realized that his definition of casual might be different from mine.
on sunday, we already had plans to hang out the 3 of us and he also made plans to come over after we finished hanging out as a trio. when he came over that sunday night, i ended up spilling all my feelings to him and had a serious talk (about 10:30 to 11:30pm). long story short i told him my feelings and how i think our definitions are not the same. my "casual" meant that i was not looking for anything serious, no labels, but i would prefer something more exclusive, didn't consider it as a dealbreaker though. friend on the other hand's "casual" meant not exclusive and i think that scared him away. i tried of multiple things to make him rethink. he mentioned we shouldn't continue since he didn't want to hurt me, and i said that i wont be since i don't really have any expectations, and even if it comes to it, i could deal with it myself. he ended up saying he would sleep on it and think about it. (p.s. could not sleep that night and ended up getting my period 🙃)
yesterday (tuesday) at 12:30am, he ended up texting me , "I thought about what you said, I’m clear of your intentions, and it’s obvious I’d just be leading you on if we continued this". i did not try anymore to change his mind and just responded with "yeah i get where you’re coming from, thanks for being honest".
now, i'm just regretting bringing any of this up since the more i thought about it, the more i genuinely don't care if it was not exclusive as i really enjoyed the time (although short) spent with him, both sexually and not. i know it's only been a couple of days and i won't push him, or text him to make him change his mind, but is there a way that he could change his mind in the next coming weeks? i am holding onto the fact that it is possible due to the fact that i know he also enjoys the time spent with me and that we were friends before all this so it could be more comfortable.