u/combvst

We’ve been NC with my MIL for a while now. We don’t talk about her publicly, don’t badmouth her to family, don’t engage. What we do do is quietly check her socials every so often, because she has a history of posting photos of our kids and talking about our family online. When we find something, we report it to Facebook and move on. No confrontation.

So when my husband was working on rebuilding things with his dad, FIL casually mentioned she’d joined estranged parent groups, we both cringed. We made a burner and joined a few just to check, same reason as always.

She was posting photos of us and our kids. That part we expected.

What we didn’t expect was the rest of it. Completely fabricated stories about me and her own son. Genuinely evil stuff. And then she shared details about abuse my husband survived, deeply personal stuff he hasn’t told his closest friends, with strangers on the internet. For sympathy. And they ate it up.

We didn’t engage. Screenshotted everything, documented it, and reported the photos of our kids.

Fast forward to a phone call with FIL that was actually going well. As they were wrapping up, FIL asked if my husband wanted to say hi to MIL. Hard no. FIL pushed a little because it was a pretty abrupt no, so my husband told him why.

You could hear her in the background as FIL was processing it out loud. Flustered. Then suddenly MIL was taking the dogs for a walk… at midnight? (Time difference, it was 9pm for us)

FIL apologized and said he’d look into it.

By the end of the weekend her Facebook was gone. Over a decade of weaponized posting, just nuked. She almost certainly got to it before FIL could go looking.

I’m relieved that outlet is gone honestly. But she clearly needs an audience, so I’m not naive enough to think this is over. Just waiting to see where she pops up next, and what FIL actually does with what he now knows.

That midnight dog walk is going to live in my head rent free forever though.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I (25f) have 2 daughters (3,5), and a wonderful husband who takes on the world (and home) for us- just as a brief foreword.

My eldest daughter has complex asthma and has been in the PICU 3 times in the past 6 months alone- I think this week marks the 10th time she’s been hospitalized since she turned 3. Her most severe symptoms that can’t be managed at home happen when she gets Rhinovirus. Every time.

I’m also a business owner, my husband also works full-time, so with every hospitalization we’re trying to balance being there with her, switching off to make sure we each get a chance to shower, sleep, hangout with our youngest, keep house, care for 4 pets, etc. I also have 5 employees to manage, whether I’m at my business or not.

It just feels like a lot. It’s so heavy. The doctors are subtly/not-so-subtly nudging us to get rid of our pets due to daughter’s allergies. The cats are on a special allergen-reducing food, the dogs are low to no shed, she manages really well when she doesn’t have rhino virus. Getting rid of our pets would hurt so badly for all of us.

There’s just so much on our plates. I just had surgery myself 6 weeks ago, also, dealing with my own health issues. There’s just no such thing as a break, it’s not sustainable. I know I’ll figure it out. I just wanted to vent and rant and rage and cry.

(28F) I’m 6 weeks post op and feeling good! My hiatal hernia was described as large, my esophotitis was observed to be stage D but not confirmed as Barrett’s esophagus.

I haven’t had any symptoms since the operation, the diet has been a challenge but so worth it.

I see my gastroenterologist next week as I’m also dealing with MASH. Any questions I should ask?

Side note- I’ve lost 15lbs from 170lbs in part due to the surgery, part due to Wegovy in an effort to support my MASH improvement, so pretty stoked about that too.