u/chronicackgirl

Commander Mackenzie seemed to be trying to justify it to himself in the convo with Agnes in the parlor. He seems a little perturbed at the girls’ ages. This is not to make him out as good, because obviously he’s still an important leader in this system that promotes abuse, pedophilia, and the ownership of people/ suppression of rights, and is allowing Agnes to get married and bad stuff to happen. But it's interesting to watch clear internal conflict on his part, because he obviously doesn't like watching Agnes get married so young, and he loves her. It's interesting to watch how people are not one dimensionally evil usually, and the justifications people make to quash their own doubts. It makes for a much more interesting story and commentary on our own societies.

Title. I want to know why Garth is Mayday and why he has a genuinely good heart/ wants to help the girls/ views them as people! Is it teen boy rebellion and searching for something exciting and not actually ideological? Did he experience abuse by his dad and/or watch his dad abuse handmaids that were good to him? Is he angry at Gilead for abandoning his dad/ giving them less privilege after his Dad helped to fight in Boston? I am honestly more interested in his story than any of the other characters, because why would a guy in one of the most privileged positions in Gilead, work against his own privilege? And especially work with the same people who attacked his father. Is he just meant to show that not all of the men who grow up there are morally bankrupt? Is he a double agent? God, I hope not.

Edit: Also, I need this actor in another show. He reminds me of Chris Briney with the face expressions and yearning and ernest energy

I don't understand why what Agnes said to the Commander was so bad? I understand the intent with which she said it was to rattle him, but ultimately that could be considered a thoughtful, polite, or empathetic thing to say to someone. I am not even sure it would have come across as rude IRL.

I understand that she would obviously be upset from the standpoint of social climbing, appearances, and propriety. That makes sense to me. But if that was solely the reason, it seems like the actress would have played it differently. She seemed almost panicked and in despair at Agnes' actions. It seemed almost as if she felt their very safety was at stake. Maybe because he's head of the eyes? or perhaps some other reason? Or maybe I am reading too much into it. What are your thoughts?

Hi! I am looking for a scent that will make me smell like I just walked on a beach in Maine in a thunderstorm. I don't want to smell woody or musky in a masculine way. Really hoping to get something very literal though that is oceany in a non tropical way. It could smell like I just got out of the ocean. I don't even mind if it is seaweedy. just like a true northern ocean scent that doesnt have florals or coconut or anything tropical

I apologize if this is obvious, and I know they mentioned something on it in TT but I still don't understand. At the end of THT Aunt Lydia rebels because of how they treated the girls who she believed were righteous and holy vessels and because she ultimately did love Janine. I know TT discusses how Lydia went from revered to traitor to revered again and that there was an overhaul of Gilead after the rebellion, but it seems really unlikely that the Commanders would allow a woman who rebelled in any capacity- even if it was with Aunt Lydia's religious fervor- to be let back into the fold.

I often wished my mom physically hurt me because if I had physical scars I would have been believed and people would have understood how much I’d been harmed and impacted throughout my life. But now as an adult I just wish someone would have gotten my mom help. I know there are a lot of problems with CPS in the US, especially for those in poverty, and that it has harmed a lot of kids who should have been with their parents or whose parents should have been given help. But I wish emotional abuse held weight in the US, and that coming from a wealthy family didn’t skew perception too. I wish CPS had gotten involved, and mandated therapy and parenting classes. I think that would have been so helpful for her. She loved me so so much but had such poor stress management and a lot of trauma from her own childhood and adult life. If she had been forced into her own therapy and parenting classes, she could have unpacked that trauma and developed skills to manage her emotions like stress, anxiety, and anger rather than scream and have meltdowns for hours because she couldn’t tolerate the distress. If emotional abuse from parents was taken seriously, so many adult children wouldn’t be no contact with their parents, and so many kids could have at least part of their trauma prevented. If emotional abuse was taken seriously, healing could begin for a lot of people.