u/charles_bukephalos

i mean, treating these people as if they are their friend, talking about them all the time, taking sides in a breakup (where they don't even know the full story). Like "OMG the Met Gala–" Who the fuck cares? I don't. I have some celebrities I like but some people are just parasocial lol.

Mir ist plötzlich vor einigen Monaten alles egal geworden und seither bin ich durchgehend apathisch. Ich schwänze seit einigen Wochen durchgehend die Schule, mache keine Hausaufgaben. Ich habe kein Ziel im Leben und habe auch nie eins gehabt. Ich bin in Therapie, das bringt aber 0,0. Ich bin autistisch (weiss nicht ob das was damit zu tun hat). Manchmal denke ich mir dass es mir egal wäre wenn ich jetzt sterben würde. Was macht man da? Meine Eltern nimmt es ziemlich mit.

i'm a 21 year old dude, and am on the internet a lot. And what I saw over the last year is the rise of the idea of the "femcel gf". Basically a girl who is "quirky", "different" and "nerdy". A lot of the time, this idealized woman is connected with autism. And I also have found a lot of channels, especially from quite attractive female youtubers that feed that demand. Now I'm not saying these women are not on the spectrum, but if they are, they are using it as a marketing tool, to the point where it becomes performative quirkiness. I discovered that a lot of these channels have a link to an OnlyFans account, and it made me think that all this autism talk was just there to sell the image. I do think it's great to own up to being autistic but I fear this is just for personal marketing and will only narrow the view people have of autism.

Also, recently I read an article about how some neurotypical men explictly look for autistic women on dating apps. No joke, this has become a thing.

I was wondering if you think that autism really has become so fetishized and whether or not some folks are really "selling out" their autism, and whether or not this is a good thing.

i'm 21m, kinda ugly, have autism and no friends. my biggest dream in life is to just be happy and find love. but girls often tell me i'm ugly and reject me in mean ways. i feel entirely unlovable and like a burden with my dyspraxia. i can't do anything right. i cry all the time because of that. i'm even crying right now. i hate this. i go to therapy, but still, i sometimes just want to die. it's cruel. whenever i go out and actually meet people, i come across as very boring. I've given up at this point. i fail at school and just today, i dropped a plate and it broke. i feel like such a loser. sometimes i just want to run away. who would want to be friends with someone with such a boring personality? Which girl would ever love a guy who is not good at anything, is super clumsy and is not funny? I have no more hope.

i used to think i had my intelligence, but then i see tons of good looking people who are doctors and scientists and I just feel worthless.

I mean the whole thing reeks of it. It's "get rich and put everybody else beneath you." No cooperation, no spirituality, nothing. It's not surprising that these people see women (and also "inferior" men) as an object to gain an advantage from. Capitalism has achieved it's end goal of complete atomization which these people label as "go ghost mode and grind" mentality. It's sickening to see how many self-labeled "educated" men believe in this bullcrap.